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To feel so frustrated by this

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CuriouslyMinded · 05/05/2025 10:05

I can't drive - I was finally able to afford lessons and was doing okay, then the pandemic struck, the lessons stopped, and my DH and I had our daughter. Now childcare means I am back to being unable to afford lessons again and of course time is more hard to come by than ever.
My DH can drive and we have a car, but of course it is really his car and you know, for the most part it is fine but I have to ask to go anywhere that requires a car, and if he doesn't want to, that is kind of that.
I really wanted to take our daughter to the zoo today but it is a 3 hour journey by public transport Vs 45 mins in the car. He didn't feel like driving, so that was that.
I wanted to pop to B&Q to get some bits to finish decorating the hallway which I've been doing when our DD goes to bed. He was messing about on his phone, then he wanted a shower, then he thought he might just have lunch.
I feel like a child - always having to ask nicely and then wait and see what the answer is. I hate it so much. He doesn't really see the problem and says we don't need to worry about having another driver in the house.
Would it be unreasonable to put an intensive course on my credit card and just get it done? I pay my own bills so it wouldn't impact him financially initially but I would need to get on the insurance or run my own car and that would add to our expenses. I think we could stretch to it but am I unreasonable for thinking we just need to find a way to make it work so that I can have the same freedom my DH has?

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tryingtobesogood · 05/05/2025 10:11

Get it done. I learned after kids and I am not exaggerating when I say it changed my life. It gave me such freedom, I didn’t have to depend on others for lifts anymore. It was and still is great.

go for it, don’t wait.

Dinosweetpea · 05/05/2025 10:08

I was going to suggest your husband could help teach you to reduce the amount spent on lessons but tbh he sounds like a dick!

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