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Groomed A National Scandal

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snughugs · 04/05/2025 22:11

On Channel 4. I’ve been watching this. How come this isn’t getting the same coverage as Adolescence which is a fictional story or as some claim based on a young black boy from Croydon?

We need a National Inquiry, these are our children and it’s still happening.

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Genevieva · 06/05/2025 21:38

Bambamhoohoo · 05/05/2025 00:09

I was fairly close to one of the cities/ situations. To some extent the authorities (and the girls, at the time) thought these were romantic relationships.

In those days, that was enough. No one stopped and thought that a young girl shouldn’t be in a romantic relationship with an adult man. No one thought an adult man shouldn’t have taken her away from her care home in his taxi. They all thought it was the girls fault, out of control, wayward girls who were loving it.

it appears that even when clear reports of rape and abduction started being made this culture was so prevalent they couldn’t see past it for a long time.

its no coincidence that the girls who were finally listened to- the “three girls” were the ones who had maintained some level of family relationship AND had stable, loving and more middle class families.

most of the girls didn’t have parents who cared. Many of them were in care due to poor parenting and neglect.

I don’t know this for sure, but over time I’ve come more to the belief that the girls weren’t targeted because they were white and because the men hated white girls.

I think it was mainly their vulnerability that attracted the groomers- who when they discovered children’s homes full of unparented girls couldn’t believe their luck- but also because so many of the groomers were from the same community, often extended families - cousins uncles etc, that they had to have victims who were far removed from their community.

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It’s legally statutory rape. Anyone who works with children does safeguarding training and knows this. They all need to be hung out to dry.

JustSawJohnny · 06/05/2025 21:34

This is different though. These are men seeking out vulnerable girls on a mass, organised scale. It’s not downplaying abuse in families (awful) but these are men seeking out mainly white, vulnerable, working class girls or sometimes young boys to exploit.

Yes. We all know it happens.

Doesn't change the fact that most grooming gangs in Britain are made up of white men, or the fact that there HAS been a National Enquiry.

MojoMoon · 06/05/2025 21:16

What coverage do you think it should have?

You are currently watching a new documentary series about it on a major mainstream TV station

There has been a well regarded BBC One drama made about it (Three Girls, back in 2017).

There was a BBC Panorama documentary about it in 2015 (Stolen Childhoods).

In 2004, Channel 4 screened Edge of The City about social workers in Bradford dealing with the victims of a a Pakistani grooming gang.

There have been multiple long form newspaper features over the past 15 years particularly in the Sunday Times. Julie Bindel has also written about it extensively over a decade including in the Observer.

So there has been quite a lot of attention and quite a lot of content produced about it.

Far more than on the issues raised by Adolescence and whatever you are talking about black boy on Croydon.

What exactly do you think is the right amount of attention?

MiloMinderbinder925 · 06/05/2025 21:13

@snughugs These men were from the UK and were brought up in British culture. They were very much aware that what they were doing was wrong.

It's been explained to you already that there were many factors behind why this went on for so long. One was most definitely a fear of creating further racial tension.

However another factor was the fact that many people, including the police, social workers and care workers, were convinced that the girls were choosing what was happening and they weren't victims.

It's a great idea to warn girls about being approached by strangers. Who's looking out for girls in care homes or ones with alcoholic neglectful parents?

Hoppinggreen · 06/05/2025 21:02

"warn young girls to stay away and make them aware from age 11"

Who are we telling young girls to stay away from exactly?

snughugs · 06/05/2025 20:53

crackofdoom · 06/05/2025 18:44

Agree. And a few weeks before that, a grooming gang from Glasgow was sentenced- two white men and a white woman if I recall correctly. Don't recall a wave of outrage over that one, either 🙄

The children were related, it’s still absolutely horrendous. There’s been numerous paedophile rings abou, usually related to the victim. I know of one near me where the Grandparents brought their grandchildren into it.

This is different though. These are men seeking out vulnerable girls on a mass, organised scale. It’s not downplaying abuse in families (awful) but these are men seeking out mainly white, vulnerable, working class girls or sometimes young boys to exploit.

I’ve found others comment explaining the environment really interesting. I grew up somewhere that I never even saw a black person until I was 16 on a trip to London and may be the only Asians I knew had a shop, that was it though nothing else. I now have Black and Asian friends. I’m sorry you jumped on the “You’re a racist”.

Perhaps these Pakistani men are also racist? Many cultures do not treat women like we do. I once went on holiday to Turkey in my 20s it was the longest week ever. I got harassed every time I left the hotel. I ended up staying in the hotel and ordering room service, still didn’t stop the men working in the hotel. The harassment put me off going out and I was away with my Mother she hated it too. I would never travel to one of these places again. You know what as I woman I am allowed to say I can’t be bothered with that. I am also allowed to say keep away from young girls and not be called racist. They need to come down very hard on the men responsible so this never happens again and warn young girls to stay away and make them aware from age 11.

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crackofdoom · 06/05/2025 18:44

JustSawJohnny · 05/05/2025 00:36

FFS, there HAS BEEN a National enquiry! Stop believing the right wing misinformation you read on SM.

Also, if the writer of Adolescence tells you it's not based on a true story, IT'S NOT! Of course, the race-baiting twonks will try to spin it but for Christ's sake 🙄

As for the documentary, people generally prefer drama to real life stories.

There WAS a drama about grooming gangs, a good few years back. It was very good and got a lot of attention at the time.

Recently a grooming gang in Bolton have been sentenced. All white men though (as most grooming gangs in the UK are) so you won't be hearing about it because, well, you know why!

Good old Tommy Robinson and pals only give a shit when the perps are brown, right?

Agree. And a few weeks before that, a grooming gang from Glasgow was sentenced- two white men and a white woman if I recall correctly. Don't recall a wave of outrage over that one, either 🙄

nomas · 06/05/2025 18:39

Funny how the warriors for young white girls only come out when the rapist is brown.

Shame you don’t campaign for all girls without your own agenda.

snughugs · 06/05/2025 18:06

swimsong · 06/05/2025 09:21

Do you often post 'possibly nonsense' - but definitely racist - claims on social media?

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Nope because I’m not a racist, Sikhs girls were also abused by these gangs anyway. This is precisely how these conversations were shut down in the first place by telling people they’re racists. Many people have contributed very interesting and good angles to this story that I’ve appreciated, yours is not.

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swimsong · 06/05/2025 09:21

snughugs · 05/05/2025 00:59

I’m not a Tommy Robinson fan. Keeping discussion going is good. I have no idea about adolescent it’s just what I heard on Dan Wooten show. So possibly nonsense.

Do you often post 'possibly nonsense' - but definitely racist - claims on social media?

HollyBerryz · 05/05/2025 13:30

marmaladeandpeanutbutter · 04/05/2025 22:17

I’d want to know why all those officials and the police buried it.

Probably involved!

CranfordScones · 05/05/2025 13:26

Lucy Powell let slip the government's thinking about this issue on Question Time last week - it's a 'dog whistle' issue.

In other words, the rape of few thousand girls is a price we must pay for a better and more diverse society.

The ruling progressive elite can't make any connection between that stance and the results of the local council elections last week...

BallerinaRadio · 05/05/2025 13:15

snughugs · 05/05/2025 00:59

I’m not a Tommy Robinson fan. Keeping discussion going is good. I have no idea about adolescent it’s just what I heard on Dan Wooten show. So possibly nonsense.

That's your first mistake, watching that shite.

And you can't say this issue hasn't been talked about, how many headlines has there been over multiple years

NovaF · 05/05/2025 12:59

snughugs · 04/05/2025 23:51

If young Pakistani girls were being groomed and raped they’d be protests and marches. Perhaps I’m wrong but the poster above was right they’d dehumanised white vulnerable British children into thinking they were less than the paedos who abused them. How awful.

One of the girls said that one of the people that raped her was a police officer. That was in the film. I wonder if that is also part of the reason it was covered up too

MiloMinderbinder925 · 05/05/2025 12:34

Ablondiebutagoody · 05/05/2025 11:10

Exactly. Hence Reform

That goes without saying. We all know Reform are going to transform the country. I believe their MPs tirelessly campaign against VAWAG.

Ablondiebutagoody · 05/05/2025 11:10

MiloMinderbinder925 · 05/05/2025 01:30

Why do you think the Tories didn't do that?

Exactly. Hence Reform

Bambamhoohoo · 05/05/2025 09:34

I believe they didn’t take holistic action due to race. So not the individual arrests, i believe they were happy enough to do that but I believe they didn’t have an overarching strategy, as you would for any other organised crime, because of race.

No one wanted to sit in those meetings and say “guys, I’ve noticed, you know how we keep getting called to oaklands care home because the girls keep running away? Have you noticed they’re always in taxis from JB bead taxi firm? Have you noticed how a few of the drivers have rape accusations against home? Maybe we should really go after that?”

Hoppinggreen · 05/05/2025 09:33

Bambamhoohoo · 05/05/2025 00:40

I never thought I’d say this, but I’m glad Tommy Robinson has kept public attention on this. The authorities did want it swept under the carpet, and would’ve welcomed that opportunity.

luckily, we are still talking about it and uncovering more lived experiences to be shared

Yaxley actually did more harm than good, due to his actions the men involved that case could have got off scott free.
I loathe him but IF he had genuinely helped expose this and bring these vile men to justice I would think fair enough
But he didn't , he almost collapsed the case.

Hoppinggreen · 05/05/2025 09:30

Bambamhoohoo · 04/05/2025 23:57

I don’t think anyone would care about young Pakistani girls either

I heard an interview with the lady who first exposed what was happening in Rotherham and she said that it wasn't about the men it was about the girls. they were seen as silly little slags who were in it for the money. It is also hard to prosecute when the victims don't see themselves that way and won't cooperate. We had a young family member with SN who was almost put into this position but as soon as The Police realised she was from a "nice MC family" believe me they did take action.
The Police arrest Pakistani men for other crimes all the time so I can't believe that they didn't take action solely due to the perpetrators race.

TheNuthatch · 05/05/2025 09:21

I agree op. Lucy Powell's recent comments sum up how the government feel about this issue. It's a scab they won't pick because these are predominantly Labour led areas.
I grew up in one of these areas. Everybody knew and our parents warned us about it. These 'men' absolutely did target white girls. It started with Sikh girls who they also saw as less than. Not all of the victims were vulnerable or from broken homes, but even if they were, why does that make it less of a crime or an excuse? Many of these girls were arrested themselves after reporting abuse and now have criminal records. Others had to be rescued from gang rapes by their parents as the police refused to intervene.
A girl at my school was/is a victim. They would wait outside school for her and one of the teachers would keep us all back late if there were Asian men outside school. The teachers knew, the police knew, everybody knew! Some of these 'men' have now been released, and welcomed back into their communities with open arms. They are defended and protected.
The inquiry that took place barely scratches the surface as many, including Maggie Oliver will attest. It's shameful.
Starmer is lying when he says that these areas only want local enquiries. Labour lost overall control of Oldham Council recently and they have now voted in favour of a full national inquiry.

A pp mentioned upthread that there was a compensation scheme for victims of abuse, which was recommended from the first inquiry. That scheme has now been scrapped by the government according to sky news.

2021x · 05/05/2025 01:44

Grooming is very difficult to see, because its not just the victim that is groomed, its anyone who is in a position to protects them to. There are still people who say MJ a grown man who reported sharing his bed with children not related to him... did nothing wrong.

I re-watch the Louis Theroux Saville documentary last night again, and they show footage of JS acting incredibly inappropriately towards women in front of LT and they just laugh it off, he even gets hold of LT address which was ex-directory and he says nothing. One of the victims confronts LT after he said that he didn't report because he didn't see anything and he still doesn't know and this is a person who regularly confronts very dangerous people (see the most recent Settlers doco).

In this situation so many people let those girls down, that of course they are burying it because it undermines the trust in the Police and other institutions. Groomers take everyone down with them.

MiloMinderbinder925 · 05/05/2025 01:30

Ablondiebutagoody · 05/05/2025 01:25

Lots of them already are free. I think recently released was the guy who was torturing girls by pulling out their fingernails, as well as raping them.

It's was and is being totally swept under the carpet but an overarching enquiry regarding the cover up would be reporting around the time of the next general election. Labour can't have that.

Why do you think the Tories didn't do that?

Ablondiebutagoody · 05/05/2025 01:25

Whatsgoingonherethenagain · 05/05/2025 01:07

You’re glad someone nearly brought down a sequential court case and very nearly allowed 25 of these groomers to go free?

The authorities weren’t sweeping it under the carpet, there was a reporting ban for good reason. The case was being tried several men at a time, and any reporting would have biased the case, causing a mistrial and they would have walked free.

but yes, good old hero Tommy.

he’s a twat.

Lots of them already are free. I think recently released was the guy who was torturing girls by pulling out their fingernails, as well as raping them.

It's was and is being totally swept under the carpet but an overarching enquiry regarding the cover up would be reporting around the time of the next general election. Labour can't have that.

Whatsgoingonherethenagain · 05/05/2025 01:10

And yes, there has been a national enquiry.

there have been a set of recommendations to improve police and SS handling of similar issues. And as someone who works in safeguarding, many have been implemented and that’s why we’re seeing the arrest and imprisonment of these men now. Despite Tommy Robinson’s attempts to get them all off.

Whatsgoingonherethenagain · 05/05/2025 01:07

Bambamhoohoo · 05/05/2025 00:40

I never thought I’d say this, but I’m glad Tommy Robinson has kept public attention on this. The authorities did want it swept under the carpet, and would’ve welcomed that opportunity.

luckily, we are still talking about it and uncovering more lived experiences to be shared

You’re glad someone nearly brought down a sequential court case and very nearly allowed 25 of these groomers to go free?

The authorities weren’t sweeping it under the carpet, there was a reporting ban for good reason. The case was being tried several men at a time, and any reporting would have biased the case, causing a mistrial and they would have walked free.

but yes, good old hero Tommy.

he’s a twat.

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