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To be sad that I was catfished?

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DatedOut · 04/05/2025 21:54

I went on a date today. I was pretty excited, he seemed nice from the photos. Nothing overly special but I thought that he was handsome and liked the way he communicated.

I pitched up at the date and I was immediately put off. The photos he used are 3-4 years old. It’s him, but in the last couple of days he gained a good amount of weigh, he started balding and just generally looked older.

I felt a bit misled. I got ready and made effort to look nice. My photos are very much like me, unedited, and no less than 10 months old. I asked him if he thought that I looked like my photos and he said in better in person than on the pictures.

we had an OK date. He was nice but I just couldn’t feel comfortable as I felt he knew what he was doing with his photos

I came back home and can’t help but feeling sad. I wouldn’t have minded if we didn’t get on. I’ve been on dates where I didn’t click with others and it was all good. We tried, n o spark, wishing good luck and move on. But with this one… I don’t know. I feel sad. Am I ever going to meet anyone? ☹️

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Springadorable · 04/05/2025 22:04

3-4 year old photos isn't quite the same as being "catfished" with 15 year old photos. If you got on well I don't see that this would be an issue. If you didn't get on then that's enough in itself.