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Really need some advice on inlaws

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Londongal85 · 04/05/2025 21:22

Hi all. How would you deal with this?
My m.i.l has asked my f.i.l is there is something going on with myself & f.i.l. Of course this is completely ridiculous.

Jealous type of woman and known for saying ridiculous things. However I feel that this is just unacceptable and crossed the line this time.
OH actually laughed when he heard but then approached her and said this was toxic etc etc and not to be speaking to us.

Thought I had an okay relationship with both pils however obviously not.
Haven't seen her since and don't really intend too just not sure what to do for the best if my children ask about her. I'm embarrassed upset and actually quite hurt about this.

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DreamTheMoors · 04/05/2025 21:38

When you heard this bizarre remark, did you “pretend gag?”
Because that’s the first thing that comes to my mind when I think of having an affair with my FIL.
lol

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Londongal85 · 04/05/2025 21:33

@IveGotAnUnusuallyLargePelvisISwear absolutely 100% NOT the case. Absolutely no reason for thinking this!!!! I would maybe slightly understand if that was the case but nope......

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IveGotAnUnusuallyLargePelvisISwear · 04/05/2025 21:32

I wonder if your FIL has form for cheating? In my experience this can drive you mad with paranoia about everything the cheater does and every interaction. Such a shame that whatever the reason for this paranoia it’s quite rightly damaged the relationship between the family.

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Londongal85 · 04/05/2025 21:29

Thanks all. I feel awful for everybody. He's 30 years my senior I just can't comprehend why she thought this. I really feel its going to have a major affect on everything now

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Carpetty · 04/05/2025 21:28

Really grim.
You have every right to be very upset.
Let your partner deal with it but I wouldn't want to bd around her until she sorts herself out.

Kangarude · 04/05/2025 21:28

DramaQueenlady · 04/05/2025 21:25

Poor deluded woman Op! Is she going through the menopausal. Sounds mad. Id keep my distance for a goid while!

You really think this is caused by the menopause?

MaggieBsBoat · 04/05/2025 21:26

DramaQueenlady · 04/05/2025 21:25

Poor deluded woman Op! Is she going through the menopausal. Sounds mad. Id keep my distance for a goid while!

WTAF

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Londongal85 · 04/05/2025 21:26

@DramaQueenlady not sure in 60s so thought over that stage?

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Londongal85 · 04/05/2025 21:26

Well basically yes. I have no idea never even been alone without OH. Although quite close with mil and fil or so.i thought? AngryBlush

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DramaQueenlady · 04/05/2025 21:25

Poor deluded woman Op! Is she going through the menopausal. Sounds mad. Id keep my distance for a goid while!

IveGotAnUnusuallyLargePelvisISwear · 04/05/2025 21:24

Bloody hell, has she said why she thinks her husband is shagging his son’s wife? Like what made her think that possible?