Karma has finally happened

To be fair when this person posted the OP hadnt mentioned attempted murder at that point, just that he was abusive.

I was diagnosed with cancer just over a year and a half ago. I’ve gone through absolute hell after having four surgeries and chemotherapy. I hope nobody is gloating about my misfortune the way you are about your ex.

This left me open mouthed.

‘Disgusting and deplorable’ apart from with the following exceptions I deem it appropriate to revel in someone having cancer.

I'm with you darling. I had DV in one of my relationships and had babies to look after too. (not his) I hope he has time to wallow and think about his life. And you do know Karma isn't real, so go ahead and gloat xx

I get it @stupidstupidstupidgirl

My ex treated me very badly and if I had left him, he would have killed me.

Luckily he found an OW and left. That fell apart very quickly and ...well, I looked at his FB once a year to find that he had developed cancer and then another look stated that died in 2022.

I felt relieved.

Yes just awful that is seen as 'karma'.

Karma would sure of have been if he'd gone on to be treated badly in a relationship himself and realised the errors of his ways.

Cancer is not karma. I realise you have backtracked op but I'd ask for this to be removed as it is really offensive for those who have suffered cancer.

I get where you’re coming from OP.
I never wished bad on my alcoholic, abusive ex husband but certainly didn’t cry when I heard he’d died. My first feeling was one of relief, I was now 100% safe.
As you say his news has brought back all the old feelings of fear and misery so it does feel like his just desserts.

I don't blame you one bit for thinking "serves him right" OP. He brought it entirely on himself with his own behaviour, I only feel sorry for the medical professionals who will have to deal with him as based on what you've said about his personality I can't imagine he will be a pleasant patient to deal with.

You like to misconstrue things don’t you. 🙄

Yes it is, it’s a religious concept which is pretty much a fancy way of saying what goes around comes around. . Your soul is pure but it accumulates good or bad karma based on your actions and this affects what happens in your next life. It’s a way of explaining why bad things happen to good people.

There is a saying in Isalm:
"Kindness is a mark of faith. He who is without kindness is without faith."
I am not muslim but I have always thought this expresses something profound, not only about religious faith (for those who have it) but faith in life, in oneself, in others

“I never sought revenge and have lived my best life since leaving him” ..then just carry on living your life. He is of no concern to you regardless of his current circumstances. Don’t be an ill wisher, it isn’t an attractive trait.

It’s completely weird as is your strange and twisted way of ‘justifying’ why being cruel to animals is worst than being cruel to women.

It also shows a stunning lack of understanding of how abusers work and the effects it has on women. There are many reasons why women don’t leave, the psychological effects of the trauma they experience, fear of being murdered if they leave ( a real fear, most women who are murdered by their partners are murdered after leaving), fear of the partner having their children taken from them. Fear he’ll murder the children if they leave.

I do think it’s a fancy way of what goes around comes around but it’s about your future lives. So when had things happen it’s a consequence of past life misdeeds. If you are “good” in this life then your soul will benefit in future reincarnations.

It’s actually a Hindu term and concept in origin. Buddhism originated in India and absorbed the concept from Hinduism.

It's perfectly OK to be happy when your abuser (the person who physically and mentally tormented you, and almost killed you) is suffering. You don't owe him your sympathy, or anything at all. Ignore the morality/thought police here. You're entitled to your feelings.

Karma is a religious concept, not some fancy way of saying what goes around comes around. Generally if you lead a life which does not involve kindness this stifles in you all the things that might bring you contentment and satisfaction if you were a "better person." I think you need to show yourself a little kindness and acknowledge you don't need these bitter feelings to make yourself feel better, because in reality taking pleasure from someone having cancer is going to bring karma your way in the sense that you will not be able to feel free and happy while you have these feelings.

I completely agree with this.

A lot of people here don’t seem to have any grasp of living long term in a traumatic, abusive relationship.

OP, I totally get it.

I’m impressed you managed not to think of him all that time, and there’s nothing wrong with feeling there is some justice in what has happened.

I think that there are plenty of horrible people in the world who negatively effect the lives of those they meet. There was a man who sexually assaulted me as a teenager whilst drunk. He developed liver cancer years later. It’s a natural consequence ( not of being a prick) of being an alchoholic. I was glad in a way hadn’t wished him dead but because I knew that he’d never be able to hurt anyone else.

I think I’d always felt guilty that I hadn’t reported it but I don’t think it’d have gotten anywhere and I was embarrassed. His death closed a door and I was glad of it.

I agree with Barrenfieldoffucks cancer is not some sort of karmic payback.
Construing illness as any sort of punishment is a really destructive way of thinking.

I'm certainly not revelling in the fact he may have cancer just the sense of what goes around certainly does come around.

I don’t understand why pp are claiming OP doesn’t see cancer as a payback for wrong doing. She’s clarified this is her view.

My sympathies to anyone facing cancer in themselves or their loved ones for having to read this disgusting bile.

If you read the OP it seems that his current illness(es) is a direct result of his behaviour of ingesting quantities of drugs in an attempt to manipulate the OP.

That is called a consequence.