Karma has finally happened

Cancer isn’t something to feel smug about. People are dying from it and losing loved ones because of it. And here you are using the idea of cancer as a comfort and a convenience for your own growth. Awful.

If he's fucked his own body up by fucking around with it, that's the natural consequences/ karma.

It's pretty normal to feel Schadenfreude at someone who was so awful to you finally facing consequences of their appalling behaviours.

This.

Bad things happen to all sorts of people. And our reaction to those things depends on what kind of person they are.

Just because someone thinks that getting cancer is a just desserts for their previous actions doesn’t mean they wish it on everyone.

It was, but so has the fact that he’s fucked his innards by repeatedly pretending to commit suicide.

PP asked what consequence he’s faced for his actions, and that is a consequence.

And if the cancer is a result of that then yes, he deserves it.

Well I’m happy OP. Such virtue signalling twats on here. I wish more abusive men had what was coming to them

Do they? I’ve always associated it with Hinduism.

I do think part of the problem is there seems to be little justice for victims. So many people (mainly men) get away with committing acts of violence, abuse, rape all with out consequence.

I do think it’s natural to want justice and in the absence of legal justice for the perpetrators to want to attribute stuff to a sense of natural justice or karmic retribution. People have been doing it for millennia. Life doesnt really work that way. Some people are awful human beings but will sail through life never having any real consequences, (ahem Prince Andrew) sometimes legal justice catches up with you. Some very good people will suffer horribly.

I believe that we should strengthen the legal justice system so that perpetrators face proper consequences in a timely manner.

'Let’s take the cancer element out of the equation shall we? This man has, in fact, paid the actual price for the abuse he inflicted on the OP. And actually, he deserves 0 sympathy for that.'

Cancer is mentioned in the actual op.

Who is giving him sympathy? No one.

Our lives were very tough for some time but never once did I wish cancer on him, sorry OP but I actually find that rather wicked.

Oh boo bloody hoo. I find trying to emotionally blackmail someone into staying into an abusive relationship “rather wicked” too.

Have people missed the fact that it isn’t just about cancer?

The OP has stated that during their relationship he used to take just enough drugs not to kill himself but would play the suicide card as an emotional abuse tactic. That being aside from him trying to kill her, you know.

And as a direct result of his doing this, he has now fucked up his organs to the point he will be on meds for the rest of his life.

Let’s take the cancer element out of the equation shall we? This man has, in fact, paid the actual price for the abuse he inflicted on the OP. And actually, he deserves 0 sympathy for that.

And for all we know perhaps this has also led to him having cancer, in which case he’s brought that on himself as well.

Yes, I know, but I know most people here associate it with Buddhism. But thanks anyway.

I suspect that you have a good insight into whether you are a decent human being or a violent domestic abuser, and that will help inform you whether the people around you are praying for your recovery or secretly gloating.

I can only assume that you are the former and wish you all the best in your treatment - it is a truly horrific disease.

'Under the religious belief of karma, one absolutely can get cancer as a result of bad karma in a previous life. Being born with a disability also.'

Most people do not refer to the religious belief, rather the common interpretation that we hope some get their comeuppance.

It is fine to hope people people who have treated us badly are miserable but it is highly insensitive to call cancer karma.

I think you need to show her a little kindness and acknowledge that OP is allowed to feel however she feels

Cancer is in and of itself not some sort of karmic payback... but sometimes it feels like it when it happens to manipulative violent abusers

Resorting to insults confirms my interpretation was correct.

Absolutely this. I know a man who I know is out there right now, manipulating other women, abusing them.

If he died I’d think it was just and I’d be glad he was finally stopped from hurting future women.

There you go again, misconstruing things. Carry on with your little rant if you have got nothing better to do. I stand by what I have said and won’t be reading any more of your drivel.

Under the religious belief of karma, one absolutely can get cancer as a result of bad karma in a previous life. Being born with a disability also. Anything really. Karma is a way of explaining why things happen. Why good things happen to bad people, and bad things happen to good people. It’s a way of trying to impose a system of justice on an apparently unjust world.

I know someone who believes in karma and for her it’s a comfort to believe her traumatic experience of violence was due to bad karma accumulated in a previous life. For her, this is a more comforting explanation than it just being random, and therefore, in her mind, ‘unjust’.

It doesn’t work as an explanation for me, but it works for other people.

The lasting effects of domestic abuse are also terminal. I agree with the OP.

Yeah, I was going to ask the poster:

Why does animal abuse warrant "justification", but woman abuse does not? Are you saying animals are more worthy of justice than women are?

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It was a plain reading of what you said. If you meant to say something else, you need to improve your communication