Karma has finally happened

The OP mentioned domestic violence and having to move house and get a restraining order. I’d have thought that was detail enough, really.

I'd certainly like to think that it was just being caught off guard!

In which case, the posters on this thread are more baffling since they had the time to think before responding!

I have never wished cancer on anybody, but I do think a broken leg and a hurt fingers entirely justified at times

To be fair, the instances of people killing for their children are very rare so I can see why women may not be able to immediately think of an answer when put on the spot. It’s much more common for parents (mainly fathers) to kill their own children.

This thread reminds me a bit of mothers being asked something like, "would you kill for your children?"

Some of the mothers genuinely umm'd and ahh'd and weren't sure if there were any circumstances in which they could do that, essentially on the basis it "wasn't in [their] nature".

Whether it was actually true or whether they thought it made them sound good (rather than, say, weak and self-interested), I've no idea.

I found that as baffling as I have found people being actively angry at this OP for her feelings towards her abuser, and seemingly thinking that makes them good people.

Nowt so queer as folk.

I'm really sorry to hear that @ItGhoul it sounds like you have been to hell and back. OP did not give us the level of detail you just did in her original post. I did say in my original post that it sounds like the fucker deserved it if you read that one? Everyone is different but I cannot live my life wishing everyone who has shit on me a vile and unhappy life. It's just not in my nature. OP has also since clarified that she doesn't go round wishing cancer on people either.

Even if we don’t say it we aaaaall think it.

Can’t imagine why people think the OP should be upset.

Glad you escaped the cunt OP.

Nobody appointed you the fucking Feelings Ombudsman.

Well said and amen.

Meant to say- kicking a dog was not ok but attempted murder was.

Pipe down 🙄 The poster I replied to was trying to say the original poster thought kicking a dog was ok but not attempted murder. And that's not what the original poster had said.

Ah it was just abuse. Back when you didn’t know he tried to kill her, it was all ok and really sad he has cancer now and how dare she feel a moments satisfaction? Interesting line.

Women are socially expected to be nice. Even when recalling violent vile thugs women are expected to be gracious,compassionate,nice
Fuck that
Lets actually be honest,it’s ok to think meh, or comeuppance about someone who caused pain encountering a set back

I don’t know why people are discussing karma like it’s an academic question or perfect science. The OP is simply saying is that this particular man has what was coming to him - not that everyone who has cancer deserves it

I don't like the idea that someone getting cancer is "karma". What about young innocent children who get cancer, are they getting "karma" for something they've done?

100%.

I wouldn't blame you one little bit if you had been out there, within the law, doing every single thing you legally could to achieve some sense of justice or revenge. But no, you weren't even doing that, you were simply reacting emotionally to a fact you learnt, about a man you have every reason to despise.

Do you know what’s more horrible than feeling smug about cancer?

Beating, stalking and controlling women.

Nobody is negatively affected in any way by the OP’s feelings about her ex. Or indeed by my feelings about my ex, who also died of cancer. The fact that I’m delighted about my ex dying of cancer doesn’t hurt anyone, including people who have cancer. My mother and sister have both survived cancer and I’ve had two significant cancer scares myself in six months. It is a feeling. It is harmless. It is perfectly justified.

My ex-partner was very violently abusive to me. He made my life a misery. I still have permanent reminders in the form of physical scars/damage.

Many years after I left him I found out he’d died of a condition that was almost certainly caused by his own stupidity and arrogance.

I was absolutely fucking delighted.

I don’t give a shit if you find that ‘attractive’ or if you think it’s ’uncivilised’. Who the hell are you to tell women how they should feel about someone who viciously and repeatedly attacked them? Nobody appointed you the fucking Feelings Ombudsman.

One thing I often think is this. Kids get run over and killed near their schools. I hope that it never ever ever happens again. But it will, and I sincerely hope that the next set of grieving parents are the sorts of parents who routinely park on the jagged yellow lines, and not a set of responsible parents who park legally away from the school, because they respect the safety of all the kids.

Na you’re right. It would have been far more preferable for him to have succeeded in one of of his mock suicide attempts, but that would then unfortunately have turned the fucker into a Martyr.

You can be happy about it, no one can stop you feeling something. However hy isn't what happened to you your karma for something you did?

I’m agree. People die in vehicular accidents every day but it’s still acceptable to say I hope he’s run over by a bus.

No I’m just giving my opinion. Just like you’ve probably given yours. She absolutely doesn’t have to change her thoughts just because I think it’s horrible to feel smug about cancer. She feels how she feels.

Are you trying to police how a victim of abuse feels, even though we cannot control how we feel?