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Is this odd or am I being unreasonable and sensitive

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TheThreeMiracles · 04/05/2025 19:27

Fully prepared to be told I’m being stupid but money is quite tight at the moment ( isn’t it for most families tho )
partner does the shopping at the weekend and I will usually pick things up during the week if we need or fancy something different! Anyway sorry for the long post but a few times this week he’s spoke to me about money what we have or what he’s transferred over etc it’s got to the point he walks through the door doesn’t ask how I am or how kids are just oh we have this or I’ve transferred that etc tonight whilst he’s making food he’s sent me a message saying “ can we just use the food we have in now this week; I think we have enough to last us till Friday / Saturday “ it’s made me feel really shit like I use all the money etc I don’t and he’s told me in the past I don’t but he’s a habit of saying it’s all okay and then bang throws in the odd comment ! I really don’t feel like dinner now feel like I’m being greedy by eating or buying something etc ! Is he being a bit unreasonable or am I just sensitive?
fwiw he phoned his mum the other day during lunch to see how she was and how her move was going !!!! Yet walked through the door and straight away said about money to me no how are you or anything ! I’m 34 weeks pregnant and feel so uncared about by him so it may just be me thank you for reading If you got that far ! X

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rubyslippers · 04/05/2025 19:33

Do you not share funds? You talk about him transferring money
maybe he’s worried as assume you’re going on mat leave etc?
I think you’re being over sensitive unless there’s more going on

HoskinsChoice · 04/05/2025 19:32

Do you work?

Liverpool52 · 04/05/2025 19:31

I think you are being a bit sensitive. Maybe he's just worried about money and doesn't see the need to go to the shop when there's food in the house because you fancy something different. If he does the weekly shop, he sees the cost of it.

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