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Meeting ow in a group setting

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Jellystar · 04/05/2025 18:45

Hi, lurker here. My DH had an affair with a work colleague. I found out once it was over, but they continue to work together. They have zero contact apart from work matters that can't be avoided.I found out a few months ago and we are slowly building our marriage back up, which has been hard work. There will be a work event next week and I will be going with DH. OW will be there. AIBU to say something to her or make a sly comment. Or am I best to ignore completely. Please don't comment saying she owes me nothing and be angry at my husband. I know he was in the wrong, but so was she as she knew about me and my children. She knows I know about her.

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Mrsttcno1 · 04/05/2025 18:49

olympicsrock · 04/05/2025 18:47

Ignore. Inappropriate at a work event to make a scene and could embarrass your husband in front of his employers/ colleagues

This.

And to be honest you’d be embarrassing yourself, turning up hand in hand with the man who actually made vows to be faithful to you and then making digs at the woman who didn’t. Hate them both or hate neither.

Mulledjuice · 04/05/2025 18:48

AIBU to say something to her or make a sly comment

Terrible idea. And although you might think it would make you feel better, it won't.

olympicsrock · 04/05/2025 18:47

Ignore. Inappropriate at a work event to make a scene and could embarrass your husband in front of his employers/ colleagues

Berlinlover · 04/05/2025 18:47

Why on earth would you say anything to her? Ignore her completely.

bridgetreilly · 04/05/2025 18:46

Ignore completely.