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To be annoyed at staff asking my kid what she wants?

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YourIcyGoldOrca · 04/05/2025 17:25

Went to get ice cream, and ordered a icecream for my kid.
The member of staff then asked my 9 year old if she wanted a flake, but no mention of the extra cost (£1 extra on top of the £4 icecream). Just really annoys me, feel like they should ask the person paying not the kid who will not take into account or be aware of the cost.

OP posts:
queenMab99 · 04/05/2025 17:42

redcord · 04/05/2025 17:36

£5 for a 99! It was 20p when I were a nipper (misses point).

They were called 99s because they were 99p, if they were ever cheaper, they would have been 1 shilling and 6pence or something because it would have been 1960s and old money🤣

WaltzingWaters · 04/05/2025 17:41

whilst it’s usually nice to address the child on things that don’t involve an extra cost, I don’t think you’re being unreasonable in being the one asked about a flake at an extra £1 on top of an already bloody expensive ice cream.

Snorlaxo · 04/05/2025 17:40

I think it speeds things up if she asks your dd rather than ask you and treat dd like she’s not there. You’ll be surprised how many teens have anxiety about talking to strangers and can’t even order their own ice cream.

£5 for a 99!!

MrsPlantagenet · 04/05/2025 17:39

She’s 9! It would be odd if he didn’t address her.

Nomoreidea · 04/05/2025 17:38

If you'd wanted a flake you'd order a 99.

loropianalover · 04/05/2025 17:38

£1 to get a flake!!!

But no OP, why shouldn’t a nine year old be addressed? You’re cross at the price, not the worker who was probably just trying to be nice to your DD.

Nomoreidea · 04/05/2025 17:37

amooseymoomum · 04/05/2025 17:31

i think its nice to involve the kids. you can always ask if it is extra but its only a pound

It was a £5 ice cream though. Daylight robbery.

redcord · 04/05/2025 17:36

£5 for a 99! It was 20p when I were a nipper (misses point).

Spies · 04/05/2025 17:33

Your child is 9. I think it would be very odd to address the adult in this situation.

I would have assumed additional stuff like flakes were extra and asked if you didn't want to pay more but I really don't think it unusual for her to ask your child.

BobbyBiscuits · 04/05/2025 17:32

My local ice-cream van charges the same for a flake or no flake. But it's kind of a traditional thing to have it with the flake on. Usually I have to specify I don't want one! Maybe that's a better policy.

I guess just don't use it again. Or tell your child the budget for the thing they're allowed before they order.

I wouldn't really hold it against someone in an ice-cream shop for asking the recipient if they want a flake if they were clearly over toddler age.

amooseymoomum · 04/05/2025 17:31

i think its nice to involve the kids. you can always ask if it is extra but its only a pound

tripleginandtonic · 04/05/2025 17:29

I think it's good to address children and get them confident in answering grown ups You as a parent could just say not this time.