Friend not talking to me because I shared a photo from her Wedding

Okay so, I agree you shouldn't have posted a photo of her in her dress before she posted any photos of herself. If you'd only posted the photo of you and your DP or whatever, I wouldn't think you were BU.

However, she is being incredibly precious about this idea of a "reveal." Everyone who matters to her (presumably) was there and has seen it. Is she thinking of her public? 😂 It's giving influencer/ main character energy which just seems really OTT in real life.

I don't expect an invite to the friends of my DD's, who they've grown up with. So I look forward to seeing the dress. Since weddings began, the Bride's attire has been important. When I was a child (1970's) the whole street would come out to see the Bride off. People did want to know about the dress and the colour of the bridesmaids.

You don't bother with SM, but decided to post a picture that you'd been asked not to. All a bit strange, how posters are saying that she's the one obsessed with SM. The etiquette is no pictures before the Bride, or her representative. No mentioning of a pregnancy, or birth, before the parents. It isn't difficult.

I’m wondering if the photo you posted that included your friend was particularly unflattering (not that you would have done this deliberately). Was it later in the evening when everyone was a bit drunk and she was looking a bit shiny and gaffawing at the camera?!

It's quite irrelevant whether she is being over-precious or unreasonable
You were asked not to post photos
You posted photos
You behaved unreasonably

Couple of things....

1. Their request for no pictures at the ceremony is pretentious and is meaningless. A wedding ceremony is a public event, legally. There can't be an expectation to limit or prevent a thing being shared from the ceremony. The bride might not want people to take or share photos, but has no standing and certainly doesn't justify taking the hump over it.
2. The OP didn't take pictures from the ceremony. The pics where from socialising afterwards.
3. Also, published the next day, so any "reveal" had already happened and professional photos already taken. Nothing has been spoiled here, unless the bride had a commercial contract for exclusive publication...... That this is on Mumsnet I find it hard to believe that would be the case.

This is pure Bridezilla nonsense. Jettison the friend, you don't need their brand of entitled petulance and manufactured drama in your life.
Move on with your life.

She’s a self absorbed bridezilla. Best ignored.🙄

I think if a reveal means more to her than your friendship then that’s pretty awful of her. However you say that you’re her best friend, there may be two sides to this story ie she made it clear why the social media blackout (how would you NOT know?) and it’s possible you passively aggressively ruined her reveal for some reason and you’re acting all the innocent now?

She didn't say she didn't want to be posted. Shes happy to be posted. She wanted to be the one to do it.

I agree. I think it was a shitty things to do and I’d be wondering if you’ve deliberately tried to take a bit of her sunshine away.

people are saying that she is self absorbed etc but it’s her wedding. Not yours. And you were asked specifically not to post photos. Why did you? It was selfish of you. Brides are entitled to their special day.

but there’s nothing she can do now. She invited you and you let her down. It depends how strong the friendship is now. But trying to understand her perspective is very important

Like some previous posters I'm surprised by some of the responses here. There was literally an announcement asking for photos not to be shared. I've been to a couple of weddings with the same thing and wouldn't have even considered putting photos of the bride and groom on social media before they had. I thought that was pretty standard and to be honest even if it wasn't, you didn't respect your friend's wishes and if I were her, that would bother me more. I know you said you misunderstood but- you said she is your best friend. Surely you'd had conversations about this before? And you know her well enough to understand how important it is to her?

What was the actual announcement?
I believe you when you say you made a mistake. I was just wondering what way it was worded for you to get confused.

She’s being a self-entitled so and so. I’d reconsider your ‘friendship’ if there’s anything left of it.

She thinks she’s Lady Di 😂

you dont understand basic instructions

you both unreasonable prats

She literally told you not to post and you posted.

I mean it’s quite common nowadays to wait until the bride has posted a photo… I thought that was common knowledge??

I think she needs to get over herself.

I couldn't be doing with being friends with someone that self absorbed and dramatic!

Reveal of the day/dress… to who? To…people who weren’t invited? Does she think anyone cares?

definitely main character syndrome. No one is sitting with bated breath waiting for The Reveal. And the most someone will do is see the photos, comment “you look beautiful” and move on with their lives.

The reveal 😂

I don’t have SM and always find the arguments around it very petty, but in this instance I think yabu. If there was an announcement made to not upload the wedding pics to SM and you did, she’s got a right to be annoyed.

it ruined her reveal of the day/dress with professional photos

Eh? Surely the dress was revealed to the groom, her family and the rest of the wedding guests during the ceremony. Unless she was wearing a bin bag for the rest of the day.

You shouldn’t have put the photo on instagram if she has requested no uploads, but you removed it and apologised. She needs to get over herself.

These brides are becoming more and more ridiculous.

Wtf does she think she is? A member of the royal family!! Ffs

Several of my friends posted pictures from my wedding that night - didn’t occur to me to care - was nice looking at them.

I feel people are losing sight more and more of the fact a wedding is meant to be about stating your lifelong commitment to each other in front of your closest people and joining two families - not just a “look at me” party day.