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Friend not talking to me because I shared a photo from her Wedding

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ByTidyHare · 04/05/2025 16:53

I attended my best friends wedding a few weeks ago. The day after, I posted some photos to Instagram which were mainly of me and my DP, with one of them of myself and my friend.

This was posted in the morning and on the same afternoon, my friend messaged me to ask I took it down as she didn’t want any photos posted from the day. I said of course and removed it. Before the ceremony, there was an announcement not to upload anything to social media which I assumed related solely to the ceremony and as we were quite near the back, I didn’t take any photos of this anyway. The photo of my friend and I was taken later that evening.

My friend went on her honeymoon soon after. I learnt from another friend whilst she was away that she was really upset with me for uploading the photo and that it ruined her reveal of the day/dress with professional photos as people would have seen it on my page for the few hours it was uploaded.

I didn’t want to message my friend whilst she was still away so I waited until she returned. I apologised, said I was horrified and that I’d mis-understood the instructions thinking they only related to the ceremony.

She replied to say she was still really upset and that I took away the reveal which she’d only have one chance to do in her life and she can’t believe I ignored her wishes. I again apologised but she hasn’t spoke to me since and I’ve learnt from another friend that she doesn’t think she will forgive me.

AIBU to think my friend is now over reacting or is her reaction proportionate?

OP posts:
brunettemic · 05/05/2025 18:42

The bride is ridiculous. But you’re also in the wrong because she specifically asked people not to and you ignored her. You might not agree but still.

SalfordQuays · 05/05/2025 18:42

She’s overreacting but you were out of order. It makes me furious when people put pictures of me on social media without my permission. Why did you do it? Why not stick to photos of yourself and your partner?

fiorentina · 05/05/2025 18:40

I see why she’s annoyed, specific instructions were given re sharing photos of her special day which you ignored.

Hopefully she will calm down and put it in perspective.

IHeartHalloumi · 05/05/2025 18:39

I thought you were going to say there was a serious reason for having no photos online - an adopted child they want no photos of online, or a religious reason or some weird venue rule - not just her wanting to 'reveal' a dress that's already been seen by guests, event staff and probably a load of random passers by! Bonkers

Tagyoureit · 05/05/2025 18:38

Well, you were specifically told not to upload photos and you did, and not just of yourself, but of her too, so that was wrong.

Whilst most of us think a 'reveal' is rather tedious, she doesn't and you went directly against a specific request not to upload photos.

But you've apologised so the ball is in her court now.

FiendsandFairies · 05/05/2025 18:38

violetsorrengail · 04/05/2025 17:12

And presumably it will be months before she gets the professional pictures and by that time literally nobody will give a shit.

This is a good point.

WhiteRosesAndCandles · 05/05/2025 18:37

Yabu.

I would never post a picture of a bride or wedding before the bride and groom. Even without instructions and I am quite old.

I would understand the instruction meant the wedding and not the ceremony.

I don't think your friend is being a diva. Sounds like the straw that broke the camels back for your friend.

Jem57 · 05/05/2025 18:36

This happened to me because I posted when my son had his first child,no photo just Welcome to our world,I was absolutely vilified and she has hardly spoken to me since.

EatAllDay · 05/05/2025 18:35

The Big Reveal to who?? Surely anyone she cares about was at the wedding? She needs to get over herself and realise what’s important in life. You’ve apologised after miscommunication: end of IMO

Gloriia · 05/05/2025 18:35

Motheroffive999 · 05/05/2025 17:59

It is similar to someone revealing the birth of a child before the parents do , which happened to me .

It really isn't. Everyone important, family and friends obviously saw the dress on the day.

The only reveal would've been to the op's followers who while of course would have liked to see the op's post, wouldn't have cared less about a dress 'reveal'.

SL2924 · 05/05/2025 18:35

She needs to get over herself

Aulddeacon · 05/05/2025 18:34

Is she actually legal age to be married?
she sounds very immature

BreakfastatTiffannys · 05/05/2025 18:33

I don't think she's a narc. It's her wedding and she has the right to deal with the pictures as she sees fit. Besides, guests were explicitly asked not to share pictures. Sounds a bit too much? Sure does, but then again, her wedding, her pictures, her rules. Give her the time and space needed, she'll get over it.

LittleBitofBread · 05/05/2025 18:33

EVHead · 04/05/2025 16:56

The reveal FFS. As if people care. Total bridezilla.

Presumably the most important people in her life were at the wedding, and saw her dress. No one else gives a damn!

YANBU

Yes, this.
She needs to get a life.

SpotlessLeopard · 05/05/2025 18:32

You should have listened to her rules, however she is being utterly over the top and has a very high opinion of herself. Surely anyone that really cared about her wedding was there!!

Vitrolinsanity · 05/05/2025 18:31

Unless you’re Taylor Swift, how many people could have really seen the photo?

I seem to have woken to a new fresh hell of “reveal” absurdity.

Thirl123 · 05/05/2025 18:31

I am so relieved I got married back in the 90's!! You need to reconsider this person as a "friend". She sounds like a right diva

cakewench · 05/05/2025 18:30

Nevermind 🤗

Lollipop81 · 05/05/2025 18:29

Well you shouldn’t have posted the photo as she had asked people not to. But you took it straight down when asked and I guess everyone who cares about her would have seen it at the wedding, and I can’t imagine anyone else would really give a toss 🤣🤣 she can’t think that much of your friendship if she is willing to lose it for that.

Americano75 · 05/05/2025 18:28

snowmichael · 05/05/2025 18:21

It's quite irrelevant whether she is being over-precious or unreasonable
You were asked not to post photos
You posted photos
You behaved unreasonably

Yeah, I agree with this. Batshit it may be but it's a fairly reasonable request just to hold off until the happy couple posts photos first.

SleepingStandingUp · 05/05/2025 18:27

It's common decency to not post a picture of the bride or groom before they do or without explicit permission.

But yes, she needs to get over it.

Wakemeupbe4yougogo · 05/05/2025 18:27

You say she's your best friend OP, and she asked her guests not to post photos. Which you then went and did. No wonder she's pissed off. If you can't trust your best friend, who can you?

I think you need to eat some serious humble pie here.

dogsarecute · 05/05/2025 18:26

yes I agree, she is being over whelmed about it. She should worry about herself instead of the one posting them on social media

StarkleLittleTwink · 05/05/2025 18:26

My god - what a narcissistic woman!

Mandemikc · 05/05/2025 18:26

This sort of nonsense doesn't happen to men. We don't subscribe to woman stupid.

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