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Friend not talking to me because I shared a photo from her Wedding

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ByTidyHare · 04/05/2025 16:53

I attended my best friends wedding a few weeks ago. The day after, I posted some photos to Instagram which were mainly of me and my DP, with one of them of myself and my friend.

This was posted in the morning and on the same afternoon, my friend messaged me to ask I took it down as she didn’t want any photos posted from the day. I said of course and removed it. Before the ceremony, there was an announcement not to upload anything to social media which I assumed related solely to the ceremony and as we were quite near the back, I didn’t take any photos of this anyway. The photo of my friend and I was taken later that evening.

My friend went on her honeymoon soon after. I learnt from another friend whilst she was away that she was really upset with me for uploading the photo and that it ruined her reveal of the day/dress with professional photos as people would have seen it on my page for the few hours it was uploaded.

I didn’t want to message my friend whilst she was still away so I waited until she returned. I apologised, said I was horrified and that I’d mis-understood the instructions thinking they only related to the ceremony.

She replied to say she was still really upset and that I took away the reveal which she’d only have one chance to do in her life and she can’t believe I ignored her wishes. I again apologised but she hasn’t spoke to me since and I’ve learnt from another friend that she doesn’t think she will forgive me.

AIBU to think my friend is now over reacting or is her reaction proportionate?

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Dweetfidilove · 04/05/2025 17:03

This is why you don't post pictures of others without their permission.

You were out of order, but she also sounds like an idiot. Big reveal 😃. Kmt- I love a wedding album, but no one except the people there or in the photos is that invested 🙄.

Throwitawayagain · 04/05/2025 17:03

The Reveal?
I have been to many weddings and seen even more wedding photos. The only dresses I can even vaguely remember are from when I was bridesmaid and was actively involved in picking the dress and dressing the bride!
No-one gives a fuck about photos from a wedding they weren't even invited to.
Your friend is nuts. You have been very gracious. Do not continue to indulge this nonsense.

SunshineAndFizz · 04/05/2025 17:03

I would be annoyed too, especially if I specifically said don’t upload photos.

But agree she’s being way over the top.

WhereIsMyJumper · 04/05/2025 17:03

Has she sold her oh so precious wedding snaps to Hello magazine or something 🙄

maximist · 04/05/2025 17:02

She’s batshit.

BethDuttonYeHaw · 04/05/2025 17:02

It ruined her reveal 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

what a self absorbed drama llama she is. That is hilarious. Do people really behave this way?

NannyPlum7 · 04/05/2025 17:02

I cannot bear a couple who think that they can dictate shit like this. I think it’s really cheeky. I’ll post what I like on my own social media.

tripleginandtonic · 04/05/2025 17:02

Well.she asked not to post photos of her and you ignored her. I wouldn't dream of posting photos of a bride/ newborn/graduation before they'd had chance to, it's just basic manners.

IAmTheLogLady · 04/05/2025 17:02

Ffs.
Yanbu. What a massive over reaction. She had the big reveal when she walked down the aisle.
I would have thought most people would have posted something on social media the day after without thinking about it tbh.
I get from the ceremony or speeches on the day.
If she's letting this upset her she needs to enrol is a resilience work shop.

BucketFacer · 04/05/2025 17:01

I'm a bit 🤨 that you didn't understand the instructions, seems pretty obvious to me. But to end a friendship over it is ridiculous.

WhereIsMyLight · 04/05/2025 17:01

The dress reveal is when she walked down the aisle.

For anyone not invited to the wedding, they won’t give a shit about her dress reveal because why should they?

Unfortunately you can’t argue with batshittery. She’ll either get over it or she won’t, there’s not much you can do. You’ve apologised.

Commonsense22 · 04/05/2025 17:01

She's clearly overreacting as her close friends will have been at the wedding anyway and the others won't likely be following your instagram.
But if there was a request not to post pics to social media, I think there's no way one wouldn't presume it relates to the whole day. Wanting to be in control of what gets posted first is the only reason someone might request that.
If say the church don't want pictures, they just request no pictures, not a social media ban.

loropianalover · 04/05/2025 17:00

The rule is to not share pictures until the couple themselves have shared them. And they specifically made an announcement about same.

I’d be annoyed with you too OP, I’m sure she’s thinking it was thoughtless at best and deliberate at worst. But you’ve said sorry and removed the pic, you can’t do anymore now.

Enrichetta · 04/05/2025 17:00

I agree that she is being precious about ‘taking away the reveal’ (WTF?) but you were out of order posting those photos when she specifically requested not to.

hopeishere · 04/05/2025 17:00

A reveal? To who?? B list friends she didn’t bother inviting to her wedding?

Merryoldgoat · 04/05/2025 16:59

’Reveal’? Honestly people need to get over themselves.

I’d have no patience for this kind of shit. You’ve apologised, removed the picture, done deal.

I literally couldn’t spend time with someone who thought like that.

Allwillbewell2 · 04/05/2025 16:59

The reveal to whom?! Everyone she cared about would have been at the wedding surely? Nobody else would give a crap about her and her wedding.

fedup1212 · 04/05/2025 16:59

She’s being a bit ridiculous. No one really cares, let’s be honest.

stuff like this just screams self absorbed to me!

VickyEadieofThigh · 04/05/2025 16:59

EVHead · 04/05/2025 16:56

The reveal FFS. As if people care. Total bridezilla.

Presumably the most important people in her life were at the wedding, and saw her dress. No one else gives a damn!

YANBU

Indeed! Who else cares about her "reveal"?

Besides which, chances are good that she's going to get at least one more chance to focus on a wedding rather than a marriage...

jackstini · 04/05/2025 16:59

You screwed up - she told everyone not to post on social media

I cant believe anyone would consider posting a photo of the bride in her dress before she’s agreed you can

She’s being over dramatic about the whole ‘reveal’ thing, but you need to give her time to get over it

Createausername1970 · 04/05/2025 16:58

Sorry OP, but in my opinion you are both as bad.

Firstly, what is all the crap about a "reveal" of the dress? Lord help us. Most people won't give a flying monkey about it.

Secondly, don't post photos of other people on social media without their permission.

Marianwallace · 04/05/2025 16:58

What is she? A bloody princess? All this reveal stuff is nonsense. No one cares half as much as she thinks they do. And the pretend care, fawning and comments are all fakery anyway.

Blackcountrychik83 · 04/05/2025 16:58

Surely everyone who she wanted to “reveal” to were at the wedding ?!
I swear just as you think there can’t be anything else more ridiculous left to come from people , up pops another bride with a more self absorbed idea !

Youcancallmeirrelevant · 04/05/2025 16:58

The usual rule is don't upload a photo of the bride until she has uploaded herself.

Saying that she is being a bit OTT to still be annoyed

Couldyounot · 04/05/2025 16:58

"reveal"

Good grief. No-one cares!

YANBU