Friend not talking to me because I shared a photo from her Wedding

What? It’s not a rule. You can’t just decide something is a rule and therefore everyone must comply.

You can not like it and be annoyed about it all you like. But it’s not a rule because a random person has decided it is. A lot of people don’t give a shit about social media .

Horribly off topic I know, but is this still a thing?
Just realised I cannot remember the last time a huge hyped up celebrity wedding took place and was covered exclusively by OK/Hello. Maybe The Beckham's or Catherine ZJ & Michael Douglas but that's all going back a bit. I guess maybe the rise of camera phones & social media has killed it all a bit.

Back on topic, your friend is being a twit OP. You've apologised and explained it was a genuine misunderstanding and she should get over herself and move on. But I wouldn't hold my breath on that happening.

Who would she be revealing it to? People she didn't invite to her wedding? Why would they care?

It is a rule. Nobody puts up pics of people when they have asked them not to. This specific couple literally made a whole announcement about it too.

For what it’s worth I think the friend is being OTT at this stage, but we don’t know the dynamics of the friendship. Maybe OP has form for things like this. OP has also claimed to not be an avid social media user yet she was straight to socials to post pictures the next day? OP also says the bride is her best friend but doesn’t appear to have been in the wedding party.

If these people that have seen the dress mattered to her they would have been invited to the wedding

aw come on, folks. We all know that someone invests time into keeping their dress secret and enjoy the reveal.

how much does it hurt anyone not to steal someone's thunder when they ask you not to?

I think you were out of order to post a picture of her in her dress when they said no pictures.

But she is also being very unreasonable to assume anyone but her (and maybe her parents) care about a reveal on her socials!! She’s acting like an influencer 🤣

Just allow some time to pass. Then put feelers out with friends for what to do next, should you wish to try and resolve it.

Fine for her to feel annoyed but you've apologised and you didn't intend any malice when doing it so she really should get over it.

If she's willing to lose you as a friend over this then you are probably better off

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But if you were specifically asked why did you not comply with your best friend’s wish ?

I’ve seen a few people not say it’s the rule or basic etiquette of weddings. It’s not. I got married 10 years ago and social media existed. This is about the time that people started doing unplugged ceremonies so that they didn’t end up with 100 phone screens in their professional photos. It has spiralled into this “rule” you can’t share before the couple does. If you want to reveal the dress to any of the people, invite them to the actual day. Pay for their meal otherwise it’s just an exercise in vapid narcissism. I’m not guilty of posting before a couple has before anyone starts, I rarely use social media.

People posted pictures of our wedding, including me before I posted anything because 1) I was busy dealing with after wedding/pre honeymoon stuff and 2) I was busy catching up with friends and family and spending time with my new husband. It was actually really nice to see people posts of people having fun at our wedding, catching up with friends, dancing. It was great to see the bits we had missed and we looked over everyone’s pictures waiting for our plane at the airport.

It is pretentious nonsense. In the days before social media people would have photos that included the bride and groom and would be able to show them to whoever they wanted whenever they wanted. This social media rule is pretentious.

Oh FFS not another "reveal".

Why does everything need to be revealed these days? Surely those who she cared about already saw her, because they were there?

Some people like to be precious because it makes them feel important. It's a bit sad, but what can you do.

I suppose it does make a difference if you have social media privacy or not. If you have private settings and only your close friends can see your photos, she's being completely ridiculous.

If you have 100s of random people following you, while no-one cares about her wedding really, It's more understandable that she wouldn't want her photo published.

Strict "rules" about photos in social media are idiotic anyway, it's stupid to expect that no photo of you will appear anywhere. People take photos, if you happen to be in the background, you will be seen. And again, no one actually cares.

Well, at least now you know your best mate is a massive twat.

Big reveal for fucks sake. What a knob.

it ruined her reveal of the day/dress ...
Stop the world I want to get off

Dear lord, what is it about social media addicts and all their "reveals"? Is everything they experience seen and performed through the lens of instagram likes?

Well, she's being OTT talking about the big "reveal" as though she's some sort of royalty or celebrity.

However, I don't think anyone should post pictures of others on social media without their express permission to do so. People can have all sorts of reasons for not wanting photos uploaded and displayed online.

People who have escaped from abusers might not want anything put up online for obvious reasons.

Whatever the reason, you were specifically requested not to do this and you disregarded that so I understand her being angry. All you can do is apologise profusely, as you have done, and hope that she simmers down soon.

Learn from this for the future. Have people's permission before uploading photos of them to any social media platform.

Blimey. I’d be really cross to be honest if I were you. Does she really think so little of you she’d use your friendship over something which firstly is so ridiculous and secondly you’ve apologised. You’re probably better off without her.

People can choose to have whatever rules they want just as you can choose not to attend.

She’s understandably hurt that you ignored her wishes, why would you think it would just apply to the day? I once asked something similar, not because there was going to be a ‘reveal’ but because I’m a very private person. I’m overweight and disabled so I don’t like many pictures of myself. It was a small family event for our silver wedding anniversary with 30 guests and I posted a single picture of me, DH, DS & his GF that I was happy with. The next morning the comments were full of pictures and videos that a member of DH’s family had posted that I hadn’t even realised she’d taken, including a very emotional speech by my DH and she had the nerve to ask if I had footage of something else that happened at the event because she wanted to share that too. Even though other people had seen her comments I removed them all. Our relationship has never truly recovered from it unfortunately. I hope you can regain your friendship.

"Before the ceremony, there was an announcement not to upload anything to social media"

You knew full well you weren't supposed to do it

You're as bad as those people who announce someone else's baby has been born before the couple get to do it themselves.

Oh well it seems that these rules haven’t been communicated to literally anyone I know.

i can also see plenty of others on this thread are oblivious to these ‘rules’ too

fair enough in this case where there was an announcement but the idea that in general these rules exist for weddings is a new one on me.

The reveal 🤣🤣 She sounds like a proper bloody princess. I’m pretty sure that not many people, who were not at the wedding, will
give a flying fuck about her wedding dress and her big reveal 🙄

I mean, asking guests not to upload photos from the day? Is this really a proper thing now?

You have done all you can. You have apologised that you misunderstood and she can either accept your apology or carry on sulking about something only she gives a shit about. I don’t think you can do much more.