Friend not talking to me because I shared a photo from her Wedding

Probably easier just to have big signs up telling people they can't post any photos of themselves having fun and enjoying the day until the bridezilla has 'spoken' by doing the first photo upload to all those VIPs on the internet.

Wtf? Surely the majority of people who she cared about would have been at the wedding to see her dress? Surely the wedding day was the reveal?

I would want to be the first person to post wedding photos, why didn't she get in there first?

She’s being very precious and needs to get over it now. Like someone else said everyone important to her would have seen the dress on the day and no one else will care.

As a general rule though, people usually don’t post pics of the bride on social media until she has done so herself.

You shouldn’t have posted photos of the bride before checking she was okay with it.

BUT, yeah she’s being completely ridiculous. Nobody cares about her bloody reveal! Anybody who would care would have been at the wedding and seen her anyway.

Why would you want to continue a friendship with the type of person who does social media reveals of wedding dresses and gets this upset about this nonsense? If it were me I’d count it as a lucky escape and try to meet some women who are deeper than puddles.

Most people know not to post pictures until the bride and groom have anyway, even without an announcement. It's not the end of the world though and I wouldn't end a friendship over it.

She sounds self obsessed and quite ridiculous. Anyone who cared what her dress looked like would have been at the wedding. People on your social media who know both of you will either have already seen it or be pissed off not to have been invited. People who know you but don’t know her won’t care at all. Big reveal - who does she think she is?

She’s crazy. Presumably her family and friends were at the wedding and saw the dress anyway. I have never seen a wedding where no one is allowed to upload photos. Let along wait for the ‘reveal’ no one gives a fuck.

I'm torn. The friend sounds like a prize-class pain in the arse. I couldn't be doing with all this 'big reveal' shtick.

But she DID give fair warning about not posting to SM and OP ignored that. If you weren't sure whether the edict (!) referred only to the ceremony or the whole shebang why take the risk?

If I was getting married, I genuinely wouldn’t care who posted photos of the wedding the next day. I’m not precious like that, but some people are.

But, you went against your friends wishes. You should have respected the announcement: not to upload anything to social media.

As much as it seems crazy and “bridezilla” I think she has every right to be upset and annoyed at you.

All you can do is apologise and own up to making a sloppy error. Obviously you wouldn’t have intended to cause her upset so hopefully she realises this in a couple of weeks and gets over it.

Well obviously, as the OP already explained that! But the word “anything” implies, well anything though. If it was just the ceremony, they’d have said “don’t upload photos from the ceremony” surely?

She is embarrassing herself.

I voted YABU, as you & other guests were asked not to post on SM, and you did.

This reveal stuff is ridiculous!

When I first read this I reread it thinking she must be a celeb or something wanting a ‘grand reveal’ 😂. I’d say she’s done you a favour letting you know whilst you’re still relatively young I assume that she not a ‘best friend’ 🙄

not to upload anything to social media

God forbid guests would enjoy themselves and take photos then publish them.
Some people will have spend too much a lot of effort and money to look like they made an effort for the wedding, what entitled idiot would request for no photos to be taken?

It hurst no-one, and the wedding is never going to be that special that it should stay secret 😂

Because she thought it related only to the ceremony as it was announced before the ceremony, and didnt realise it was also in relation to the party afterwards.

Look, I think all this princessy bridezilla behaviour is a bit ridiculous, but she expressly asked people not to upload photos of her on SM as she wanted to be the first to do so once she'd had a chance to see her official photos. You heard this and 'assumed' this didn't apply to you. Why you would assume that, I don't know.

This is like the woman who went to a child free wedding but 'assumed' it didn't apply to her child and asked to bring him. When told no, she collected him the following morning and took him into an invite only brunch which was an extension of the wedding for overnight guests. Despite the fact that he wasn't on the guest list she 'assumed' it wouldn't matter. It did matter and the bride got annoyed. What is the moral of the story here?

Weddings are no longer about the bringing together of two families in a joyous free for all across the generations with some cheese and pineapple on a stick thrown in. These days they are carefully curated, highly colour co-ordinated, carefully choreographed theatrical extravaganzas where everything is done for how it looks on Instagram afterwards, not for how it feels on the day. As a guest you are not there to enjoy yourself. You are there as a 'film extra' to create a nice backdrop to the reportage style photos. As such you must wear what you are told, clap like a seal when told, and don't make any decisions without clearing it with the bride first. Especially not the decision to post photos of the bride before she's vetted them.

Fuck with that at your peril. If you want to flout the rules then flout the rules. But don't act all bewildered when you are pulled up on it.

Oh the drama!!
How could anyone be arsed with this .

Your 'friend' is grossly over-reacting and a total bridezilla.

The big reveal? Is she royalty? Presumably most of her friends were actually at the wedding so saw the dress anyway. This blows my mind, she sounds like a total dick.

Once again, for the people at the back, your wedding matters a lot to YOU and your new SPOUSE and no-one else really cares that much

I’m struggling to understand how you managed to misinterpret being told not to “upload anything to social media” 🤣 Her reaction is OTT at this point though, you’ve apologised sincerely and repeatedly, I’d leave the ball in her court and back off from the friendship if she continues to hold one mistake against you despite your previous, presumably good, friendship.And for god sake, be careful if she has a baby 🤣

Absolutely mental. If they weren’t at the wedding they wouldn’t have gave a shit what her dress looked like or if she decided to rock up in a bin bag.

Whilst I’m all for respecting wishes (if you understand them of course), I think your friend is grossly overestimating how much random people on the internet give a shit about someone else’s wedding given the important people will have seen it already. I’ll click on photos of a wedding I was at but I scroll past anything else because it’s a snore fest.

If the weddings you attended didn’t make an announcement, obviously they didn’t mind what was posted? It’s not beyond reason that others would mind, is it? It’s one day, their wedding day. How hard is it to just not post? For all the upturned noses here about how stupid social media is why does nobody find it weird that OP was up the next day with a collection of pics to post, including a picture of someone who asked not to be posted.

I 100% think the brides reaction has been OTT but it seems to me like this was possibly her last straw with OP after previous instances, rather than Bridezilla behaviour. Sometimes people are looking for an out from friendships, and you see weddings put an end to them quite often!