Friend not talking to me because I shared a photo from her Wedding

Someone newly married focuses on this? There's something very wrong with the marriage!

It's far tackier to think it matters who posts photos and ty to control your friends like this.

🙈 Stealing someone’s thunder was a thing in a famous episode of Friends. Only time in 34 years I’ve heard the term used. I maybe just don’t associate with self obsessed people who care about stuff like reveals!

I see both sides. She says 'no uploading'. You upload. What was not clear with 'no uploading'?

On the other hand, who gives a shit about the reveal? She is a bog-standard Joe Bloggs? Or is it that bets are run by the bookies as in 'which dress did Kate Middleton get married in'? She is being ridiculous and self-important and deluded and you can't perform a simple clear instruction.

Wow. We are truly going to hell in a handcart. The fucking self-absorption is breathtaking. No one cares love. No one.

Absolutely this. It's just bonkers.

Before the ceremony, there was an announcement not to upload anything to social media

I am not social media savvy but if someone said not to upload anything to social media, then I wouldn’t upload anything.

There was no reason why you had to upload photos of yourself even, it wasn’t your day and you didn’t need your family and friends who couldn’t attend see the photos (like some people do when they post pics of their kids sports day etc).

I would have waited until she returned from her honeymoon and then asked her if it was ok to upload the pics.

It does sound a little bit like you were annoyed at the cost and so went against the ‘rules’ as payback.

However, you explained and apologised and so there’s nothing else you can do.

I mean, she's overreacting, but she clearly announced beforehand this was a big deal to her and you did not pay heed to it, despite this being a big deal on a very important day to her.

People are allowed to have preferences you don't agree with and expect them to be respected.

If I were another friend of the both of you, I would think you were rather more in the wrong that she was (and I didn't care one sod about those things at my own wedding).

Oh ffs "reveal"?! What utter nonsense.
How telling that her wedding is "ruined" by that. You'd think it would be a happy day because she's marrying the love of her life, but oh no, it's all about the Instagram.
Ignore her. You're well rid.

???

If it helps (I doubt it) my cousin shared name and weight: arrival of my son in FB before me, I’m still not over it. It was s 10 years ago.

Fuck me, no one gives a shit about her wedding photos. People will make all the right noises, and the ones who were there will be eagerly looking for themselves in the background of the photos to see if they look fat, but that’s as far as it will go.

Most people will just scroll on.

I always weirdly in awe of people who think others give a shit about their lives. I’d love to live in that level of delusion.

Exactly!

Yes - with a baby, when you push it out, you are not usually watched by an assortment of 100 close friends, family, work colleagues and obscure cousins you haven't seen since 2006 but your parents insisted had to be there!

She asked you not to post it on social media and yet you felt it was appropriate to post a photo anyway?

Whether you agree or not, it was a perfectly reasonable request to not post anything until she had a chance to do it herself.

I've literally worked in wedding planning for 12 years and never heard that. So no they dont.

Monica?

Hen parties abroad should be banned unless all your friends are multi millionaires with live in nannies. It's a ridiculous trend, completely out of hand and causes so much stress to so many people. Especially if you are at that age where you are never far away from yet another friend's wedding and you have four or five friends who think you have nothing better to spend your time, money and precious childcare on than celebrating them for three or four days at a time.

It's not frustrating.

What part of do not upload to social media do you not understand?

You tried to steal her thunder on her day.

Honestly OP, let her off.
You made a mistake but she wants to drag it out.

I would accept her decision and let her crack on with life.
Life is too short.
Clearly she is lacking drama in her life to not want to move on.
Lesson learned regarding weddings, stretching yourself financially is a really thankless business.

Honestly though, you posted a picture of the bride before she did and ignored her ask not to do this - she has a right to be upset whether you think a reveal is a thing or not.

This. Your friend is a ridiculous Bridezilla

I disagree with a lot of people here. She doesn't have to be a celebrity to have a valid preference for her pictures not to be posted. It's her wedding and she doesn't have to justify her preferences.

But I also think that given it was a misunderstanding, she shouldn't end a friendship over something so trivial in comparison. But it depends if there is more going on and this is just the straw that broke the camel's back.

I think the fact you apologised should be enough. If not, I think there's more going on. Or maybe she has just been over your friendship for a while.

It’s tacky to post a photo of someone’s wedding the day after their wedding when they haven’t posted anything.
It’s even more crazy when you do know that you were asked not to and you did it anyway but now blame your friend for being upset rather than yourself.

Did she have a deal with Hello! Magazine or something?