Friend not talking to me because I shared a photo from her Wedding

You'd think.

Wtf is she revealing? Presumably all the important people in her life were at the wedding and saw her in person on the day.

The idea of the 'reveal' would have me rolling my eyes so far back in my head I'd have to walk backwards to see where I was going.

But I still think you were wrong to post the photo.

Maybe there were people she would have liked to be at the wedding but couldn't be. You assumed that what was said - no photos - didn't actually mean what was said.

Six one and half a dozen of the other.

Honestly it’s a well known fact you don’t post a pic of the bride till they have but ESPECIALLY if they have said don’t post pics

you say you don’t go on sm much but you posted a pic of you and bride before she had

yes she’s a bit ott with her reveal as those who matter would have been at the wedding but you still did what she asked everyone not to !!

She sounds ridiculous. A ‘reveal’… what next! Most of her loved ones will have seen her on the day. I couldn’t cope with this tbh, why do people lose their minds on their wedding day?!

I think it was a bit rude of you tbh!

If there was some issue around her/any of her guest's needing to avoid their photos being on social media (due to a crazy ex, stalker etc) she is NBU. However if she is doing the whole 'controlling the photos' bullshit then YANBU.

But she didn’t say not to post pics of her without permission? OP thought she said not to post her ceremony, which OP has misunderstood. We all make mistakes. The friend is a wannabe Kardashian who thinks she merits a big SM reveal. If that’s your type of person then fair enough but if I was the OP I’d be taking a huge step back from this level of drama about a simple misunderstanding.

You don’t post a photo of someone in their wedding dress “announcing their marriage” to social media before the newly wed’s post, you don’t post photos of someone’s baby before the parents do and you don’t post someone’s photos of their engagement before the newly engaged couple do.

I’m surprised at the amount of people that think the bride is in the wrong, and I can see why she is upset with you. You’ve apologised, not sure what else you can do to be honest.

She asked you not to post ANYTHING on social media.. and you posted a picture of her on social media.

I don't really get on board with this reveal nonsense (aside from at "each to their own" type acceptance), but I do think it is just basic courtesy to not post pictures of other people on social media unless you KNOW they will 100% be okay with it.

Social media is awful for this though, my MIL has asked repeatedly not to post pictures of her teenage grandkids, she has ignored over and over again and now they will not let her take ANY pictures of them whatsoever.. which I think is a bit sad, but completely understand why they have decided that, as she just wasn't respecting their wishes.

It was something important to her. I gate gow everything needs to be shared with the world, are the memories of having spent the day with your friend on her special day not enough?

That's different. That's your newborn!

Is a reveal now a thing? Good grief.

Why? She didn’t want anyone to post a photo of her, it’s weird to try and invalidate that because you don’t agree with the reason.

You don’t have a right to post a photo of someone without their permission, it’s nuts to think you do.

Nope. I still disagree entirely. It might be a little unthinking to post photos of someone else's wedding because apparently people are that self-pbsessed it matters to them. But the tackiness only comes into the couple cresting rules that are designed to control the day and not to allow people to just enjoy it.

It's right up the same street as telling people to wear a certain colour as guests. Tacky and embarrassing.

I do think it’s bad form for you to post a photo of the bride before she or her husband did. I thought that was sort of an unwritten rule. But she asked you to take it down and you did so that should be the end of it on her part too.

I think if the bride had asked not to be posted because she doesn’t like appearing on SM then the answers would be very different…

I know, Kate, it seems ridiculous. But it’s all about the ‘gram!

No, it's ridiculous to fall out with a friend over a silly "reveal" of a dress.

Nope it’s tacky to post a photo of someone on social media at any time who doesn’t want to be posted let alone on their wedding day.
Its weird people are moaning about the bride being SM obsessed when the OP is the one sharing people without their permission.

Do you think someone who is immature enough to care about social media on this level is mature enough to be entering into a hopefully lifelong legal commitment? Surely the marriage matters not the social media posting!

Whilst I find the whole "reveal" bit a bit silly, I do think you were totally out of order to go against her wishes. You were expressly asked not to post anything to SM, yet you went ahead and did it anyway.

I would not care and guests from my wedding posted pictures of the day before I received official photo's from the photographers, but as you were expressly asked not to, then did it anyway, I would be pissed off too if I were the bride.

Come on now, she's not 15.

I was at first going to say that YABU and that she had a point, though over-reacting. I do think that people should refrain from posting pictures of other people on social media, without permission. However, when I saw the reason that she gave- that she wanted to do a big 'reveal' - I lost sympathy for her. Weddings should be celebrations of marriages, not opportunities for parading on social media!

I don’t think most folks here understand how important SM is to the youngsters. It’s a big deal. You shouldn’t have posted a pic.