Friend not talking to me because I shared a photo from her Wedding

Just as well...imagine how precious she will be about babies!

How weird. I think she is being ridiculous. No one cares now the wedding is over. I wouldn’t bother with her now. If she is that precious over her wedding what on earth will she be like if she has kids? YANBU.

No one gives a monkeys about her reveal - everyone that cared a little bit would have been at the wedding!! It is just bridezilla nonsense!!

However you were told not to upload photos and you did?? You have apologised and now cannot do anymore - you can’t reason with people like this so I am afraid your friendship is probably over!

I think you’re in the wrong. It’s her wedding, her choices and she asked people not to post on SM before she did. You ignored her wishes and I’d be annoyed too.

Not any more I'm afraid. We all know that anything happening in real time and in real life now is merely the film set footage for the properly edited movie that is MY LIFE ON INSTAGRAM, STARRING ME. (Also featuring my husband, with special guest appearances from my babies and French bulldog. But mainly ME.)

I’m a wedding photographer, so I would’ve known what the “no posting on socials” was about. It’s become a thing that bride/ grooms want to “announce” their marriage on social media before anyone else shares anything from their day. However I completely understand where your confusion has come from and do find the whole thing a bit precious. You’ve apologised twice and removed your pictures. Not sure what else she expects you to do? People do get a bit precious about their weddings, I get it- it’s a big day and special but this scenario isn’t worth losing a good friend over!

I dont blame her for being pissed off
But posting photos without her in of you/your partner/your friend isnt an issue

posting pictures of the bride is a no go though!!

the reveal to who i think if shes willing to lose her bf over this then she wasnt really a friend anyway

She is mental. Anyone who is interested in her wedding was most likely at her wedding so saw everything at the time. And unless it was a particularly small wedding, anyone not invited is either not fussed because they're not close to the bride and groom, or pissed off because they were missed off the guest list. What an inflated ego she has that she thinks anyone cares. Hilarious that she has tried to impose a social media blackout over her wedding. Good on you for posting nice photos of you and your DH. She's even more unreasonable in being such a twat to you after you apologised. Consider her true colours well and truly revealed.

She's absolutely precious but you uploaded them immediately despite not being a regular SM user and a clear ask from her???

Shes BU but Ywbu too

Yes "the reveal" is silly and it does come across as quite precious, but isn't the most likely explanation that she secretly didn't like the photo and didn't think it was flattering? I have to say I wouldn't be happy at all if someone posted an unflattering photo of me on my wedding day online before I'd even had a chance to put up decent ones. Ending the friendship over it is overkill, but she'll probably calm down about that.

It's not that hard, but why wouldn't they?

You have to be an entitled idiot to stop friends from publishing photos of themselves. The wedding is not that special that it needs to be hidden.

Of course, don't publish a specific photo of the actual bride when she asked you not to - however bridezilla she's being - but requesting NO PHOTO at all?

If your kid or grand-kid is a flower girl, of course some people will want to post them.
And if someone wants to put a photo of themselves with their special make-up, in front of what is supposed to be a pretty setting, so what? People should get over themselves.

True.

One of my best friends did this and I felt it a bit thoughtless and unkind. We had a tiny wedding and her posting pictures of me was the first many of our mutuals knew I was married (sparking a whole other problem for me). Friend has never apologised but I would have been grateful and accepting if she had.

But the 'reveal' happens on the wedding day to the people she invited. You SM people.... sheesh.

Wow. Is this a thing now? I feel so awful for the person that just legally attached themselves to her. Imagine putting your image above your own friends? Even if I did understand why someone would be such an overinflated turd of a human being about a ceremony that's about love and companionship and bringing your friends and family together, not how you look to random people on social media who didn't come to your wedding, surely you and your friendship mean more to her than acquaintances seeing her dress on social media? Surely she knows you meant well and that actually you just wanted to share what a great time you had as her friend? I had professional photos done at my wedding and my favourites are mostly just the ones my friends and mum took even though the wedding photos looked lovely (and candid as instructed!). They meant more because they were taken by people I loved who enjoyed being there to celebrate with me.

Honestly she sounds like she isn't really a good friend anyway. You're not a bad person, social media has just made everyone be so self absorbed. Get new friends and get rid of your socials. Best thing you could ever do, she really lacks substance.

She’s over the top but I think it’s etiquette to not share anything until you see the bride herself sharing first

Wedding photo etiquette aside, is there a back story to your friendship that may have had her looking for an excuse to bin off your friendship @ByTidyHare? You say she's your best friend but you weren't one of her bridesmaids.

She's utterly insane. Literally nobody but her cares about her wedding day (probably not even her husband), and aren't sitting tight behind their screens in anticipation of her dumb, boring wedding photos reveal. I hate this kind of fake performance, and people who think they're so special and the center of the universe that their mundane life events need any "reveals" on social media. I would not grovel any further.

This.

It's not that hard not to publish them though, is it? The desperate need to publish photos of someone else's wedding on SM is almost as narcissistic as the controlling Bridezilla insisting nothing slips past her without her prior approval. You went to a wedding. Big deal. No-one really cares or needs to see the photo within 24 hours, do they? Just do as you were asked and sit on it for a while.

When I got married dinosaurs still roamed the earth and people lined up for photos in very strict order, with rictus grins on their faces. My photographer chose the photo to send off for publication in the local paper, as was the way then, and he didn't ask me to approve his choice first. It was one I hated and I felt a bit violated by it. 😂There I was looking gorgeous in my meringue dress, with loads of gorgeous photos to choose from, and he'd picked one where I looked like a gurning fool with four chins and teeth like Red Rum. These things matter to a bride. A lot. But at least it was only one issue of the Orpington Gazette in 1842, next week's fish and chip paper, not the entire world on FB or Instagram that saw it, where it would stay forever more.

OP is in the wrong and nothing you say will make me change my mind, sorry

Ahh, got it, thanks.

It's a common expression here.

I think you shouldn’t have posted a photo of the bride when she asked everyone not to. Did everyone else manage? I can understand her being annoyed about it, but you removed it when she asked. I think she’ll cool down eventually.

I was annoyed my brother in law posted he’d become an uncle to a baby girl on Facebook literally before I’d recovered from giving birth (hubbie had messaged immediate family when she safely arrived). But I didn’t berate him about it and have never mentioned it.

How is it announcing the marriage? Anyone who recognised the bride in the photo would presumably know she was getting married, and if they didnt know she was getting married they can't be someone with any relevance to the bride.