Friend not talking to me because I shared a photo from her Wedding

She sounds exhausting and mistakenly believes that anyone cares about her wedding being "revealed." Unless she's an A-list celebrity, no-one outside of her immediate circle with give the slightest of fucks about her "reveal".

I'd be quite happy to walk away from the friendship, but not without first sending a message to tell her how ungrateful she is for the amount you spent on the hen and her wedding gift and how ridiculous she is to think anyone cares about her social media "reveal," and wishing her all the best in growing up and not being a spoilt brat for the remainder of her marriage, which is likely to be short if she chooses to continue.

A reveal to who? And who actually cares? Sorry, she is insane. Fair enough to be a bit miffed, if that's what she had in mind... but to never forgive you and not talk to you again becuase sge wantedbto so a big reveal of a dress that noone cares about but her, is insanity.

She revealed it when she walked down the aisle to the only people in the world that care or matter.

I voted YABU only because I’m very conscious of posting pics on SM of other people without their consent and I know that weddings are a particular no no when it comes to posting pics of the bride before she does because it’s kind of poor etiquette. Sorry I know that sounds mental, but last year for example I didn’t post any pics of my friend at her wedding because I felt she’d probably prefer to post her own professional ones first.

That said, what you have done is hardly a mortal sin and given that you’ve apologised and took the photo down straight away, I think your friend is being very very precious here and if I were her and you’d acknowledged it I’d have certainly forgiven, forgotten and moved on by now.

Or OP just treats her social media as a nice to have, minor part of her life so puts occassional photos on there of stuff she's been at, like weddings, without giving it much more thought. And as she doesn’t consider it a hugely important thing to carefully curate and control like bridezilla does she's been taken aback by the crazy overreaction.

I completely agree on the colours thing.

A friend of mine got an invite to a wedding that specified colours, banned children, was taking place in the middle of nowhere and the invite helpfully pointed out "you might find it difficult to get overnight accommodation but there are a couple of places about fifty miles away". Presumably the guests were expected to sleep in their cars otherwise.

Needless to say, my friend found an excuse not to attend.

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how is a bride, at her own wedding NOT a main character?

"reveal"? Seriously? Surely the people who would care what her dress looked like would have been there in person anyway and have already seen it.

The only people who would care about seeing her wedding would have been at the actual wedding, unless there were things such as serious illness preventing it but even in that case they should have received an individual message, not a social media post. She needs to get over herself.

Your friend sounds like a pathetic wannabe influencer.

She sounds like someone whose entire sense of self-worth is based on social media likes. Depressing. One day she'll realise that real-life relationships with people are more important (perhaps the most important thing in life).

Precisely my thoughts. Most of the guests will barely care what you’re wearing. Let alone randoms on SM who haven’t been invited.

You shouldnt apologise or grovel.

Your "friend" sounds like a deranged and unhinged precious fucking prize twat.

I'd be giving her a WIDE fucking berth and ignore her from now on. Shes not a friend, but she is a cunt.

The irony when the problem was caused by the OP basically sprinting to post on social media as fast as possible!

Me neither. It’s all completely alien to me and I’m actually rather glad.

I got married before social media and am
well passed the age of going to lots of friends weddings every year. I think I have only been to 2 weddings in last 5 years and believe at least one of those had that sort of announcement. Regardless, I am aware that it is bad form to post photos of the day before the bride and groom do. Yes it’s precious, but SM is life for some and some like to carefully curate their life on social media to manage what others see of their life.

All that said - if I were you I wouldn’t put up with anymore sulking and tell my friend that you have apologized but if she thinks she won’t be able to forgive you then you’ll save her the bother and never speak to her again. Surely she will eventually realize with some distance that she is being ridiculous!

There are people dying in the world of all sorts of horrific things. Some people are so fucking weirdly precious. I find it embarrassing.

Surely everyone who she cares about seeing her dress were at the wedding??? I don’t understand the reveal bit!

As if the OP is the one who rushed to social media the next day to post several photos but apparently it’s the bride who is awful and SM obsessed.

Mental tbh. As if people who weren't at the wedding to see the day/dress in person are going to be heavily invested in the big reveal. Or did you ruin her exclusive with Heat magazine 😂

Would get the upset if a photo of the dress had got out before the wedding.

But who are the people agog to see it but not close enough to the bride to be invited to the wedding?

Does anyone actually live their life for the actual experiences any more?

It wouldn't bother me but I personally wouldn't upload any pictures until the couple had.
She's being OTT, you've said sorry!

Sounds like Bridezilla just wasn’t enough zilla for her.

You’ve apologised over a genuine misunderstanding (she should have given clearer instructions), so there’s not much more you can do. I’d let her stew, no one probably cared about her ‘big reveal’ anyway, the wedding was over and done with.

Spot on.