Friend not talking to me because I shared a photo from her Wedding

Ignore your friend
You misunderstood what she said. You did something you genuinely thought was ok. If she wants to stay annoyed with you because being the centre of attention is more important than your friendship, ignore her, you never mattered to her anyway, you haven't lost anything.

In years to come she will (hopefully) be so embarrassed by her reactions to this.

She's being ridiculous and precious.

But you knew what you were doing.

I'm not buying the 'innocence' here from you OP.

Because those that attended saw it.... 😂🤦‍♀️

Your friend is insane. No one cares about the reveal of a dress. No one who attended the wedding really cares either. She’s delusional

Your first line is exactly what I wondered, too!
I'm guessing Bridezilla was an understatement! 🙄
Re your friend... unbelievable. 🤦‍♀️

Personally, I think she’s being a bit precious. But…they did ask that no photos be uploaded to social media and you ignored that and did it anyway. You’ve come up with an excuse that you thought it only applied to the ceremony. Why would it? Also sounds like you’re a bit miffed you were seated towards the back.

Everyone knows you don't post a photo of a wedding until the bride or groom have.

I can see why she’s upset…I had a friend post some photos between the ceremony and evening do and I was a bit disappointed when some evening guests mentioned they’d already seen the my dress on Facebook but I got over it pretty quickly. That was 15 years ago and said friend passed away two years later leaving a young family behind. Life’s too short to hold a grudge so hopefully she’ll get over it

Wasted on me as I don't have any social media at all. Threads like this remind me why.

Bloody precious and ridiculous. Makes you wonder how bad she was before the wedding.
My friend insisted on moving her MIL in at great expense and then proceeded to complain to me by text every single day by text for 6 years.
I saw a funny MIL joke that I was sure she’d appreciate by a British (we’re American) humorist that went something like “my MIL stood gazing through the rain in the front window. I almost let her in.” That may not be exactly it but it was very clever and obviously a joke. My friend, after I supported her every day for 6 years, got offended and said terrible awful things to me and stopped talking to me.
People are crazy and mysterious.

Is she a "celebrity?" Christ on a bike. 🙄
It's 2025. Picture taking every where, by everyone and posting about everything is so common and pretty difficult to control. OP apologized profusely. Bride is being way too controlling and, frankly, narcissistic, to think people are holding their breath waiting for the wedding pics of the century.

It’s not that hard, don’t post photos of people’s life events before them and don’t post photos of people without their permission.
Now you know, hope that helps.

Lots of people here laying down the law about social media. You do realise that for those of us who were already adults by 2000 the internet still seems like a really recent thing. Social media has been around for a blinking of an eye. The etiquette is evolving. People who are immersed in this stuff may think there are rules, but the rest of us work it out as we go along.

But they were the main characters at their own wedding?

You shouldn't have posted pictures before the bride and groom had (irrelevant you misunderstood the instructions, it's not something you should need instructions about)!

The bride is up her own ass with the reveal thing. Literally nobody (even people at the wedding) won't give a damn.

I thought it was pretty standard nowadays that you don’t share photos of the bride and groom at a wedding on social media before they do. It’s because photos taken by friends and family are often pretty crap compared to the professional ones so the couple can be disappointed. So if as a bride you felt really lovely then the first photo you see is one your friend took from a bad angle when you’ve had a few drinks then it’s disappointing. Also it seems like stealing their thunder a bit, like announcing someone else’s baby.

I think this might be a generational thing? I’m a millennial and to me this feels like an unwritten rule.

I also voted yabu as you were told not to post on social media.

but she is also being ridiculous. nobody cares about a reveal. Especially people who werent deemed important enough to be invited.

Etiquette is to wait until the bride posts a photo of the dress before guests do, however, where a bride is particularly precious about it there is usually a sign somewhere to ask people not to post. I didn’t give a shit about it personally and some people did post before I did, I can’t remember if they asked or not.

FWIW I don’t think it really matters that no one else gives a shit about her social media reveal, it clearly mattered a lot to her. That said, you’ve apologised, so it’s time for her to move on. Is she usually one to hold onto things?

ruined her reveal

What is it with all this 'reveal' stuff? Like they've got an exclusive deal with Hello magazine!

Anyone not invited to the wedding will not be interested in seeing what they missed.

At some point she will presumably realise that literally nobody cares what she wore to her wedding except her, and possibly slightly her husband. Then I guess she’ll get over it. In the meantime I’d be giving her a wide berth!!

It’s an unwritten rule not to share a photo of the bridal party until they have. Saying that, it makes not a jot of difference if people see the dress on your post or on her post. She’s only really revealing to her followers, as important people would have been at the wedding, and so you’ll have different followers so it won’t matter. Plus she’s not a celeb, so her followers won’t care enough. She’ll calm down and either realise she’s been silly losing a friend over something that doesn’t matter, or she’ll be stubborn over it. You’ve apologised and taken it down and that’s all you can do.

While I do think you were quite thoughtless, she is absolutely being OTT about it.

The whole 'ruined my one chance' thing is so ridiculous.

Nobody gives a shit about other people's wedding dresses, FFS.

You've apologised. You can't do any more. If she continues on this road of 'my wedding reveal was ruined' thing she's only going to make herself look a twat to everyone she moans to.

I couldn’t be friends with someone this self absorbed.

Weddings are really not that exciting unless you are the bride and groom. For other people? Not so much. They don’t care that much about your “colour scheme” or your special menu with different desserts for men to women, your dress, the photos or the venue.

They probably do care about the food, the weather and the drinks though.

I'm so glad I have normal friends.😂