Friend not talking to me because I shared a photo from her Wedding

So, you made a mistake, based on an honest misunderstanding, which may have been her fault anyway, since you say the message wasn't clear.

Either way, you immediately took it down when she requested it.

And you've apologized. More than once.

But that's not good enough for her. She won't forgive you and has cut you out of her life for this "crime," at least for the time being. This, in spite of how much you spent to attend her pre-wedding function and in spite of thinking to buy her an extra nice wedding gift, which she didn't thank you for. And of course, in spite of you apologizing, explaining and taking it down immediately, upon discovering she didn't like it. Wow.

I think you're much better off without her, to be honest. She sounds totally self-absorbed and nasty. It doesn't make her look any better that she seems to actually believe anyone gives a sh*t about seeing her "big reveal" of herself in her wedding gown after the wedding. (They don't).

Unless she has some super redeeming qualities to make up for all of the above, I'd take this chance to sure this estrangement is permanent. And be sure to celebrate your good fortune in being able to get rid of her. :)

Oh, I'd be the same. Such weird, controlling behaviour.

But people do it !!!!
This is the problem.
I didn't, I said I couldn't make it

Oh my god 🤣! It's all for "the photos" apparently! As if any wedding photos looked bad because of the guests choice of colour.
One of the worst I heard was everyone had to wear black or white! Can you imagine?

It is! Good luck to her!

I've been told what I can and can't wear to a wedding too. No dusky pink, or pink at all. No baby or powder blue but must be pastels because that wasthe theme.

What the bloody hell is happening with people.

She's mad. Leave her to her self-obsession.

Anyone with any common courtesy and respect does. Social media really is a disease though.

My friends daughter is 30 and single. In the past year more than a dozen of her friends have gotten engaged.
She has decided to take a leave of absence from work to go travelling during 2027 and that is her excuse to avoid all Hens and most weddings, she is saving to head off.
She reckons avoiding them will pay for her trip.
When I read about the moronic self absorbed behaviour of brides like on this thread, it makes me think her plan is pure genius!

I think she’s being a bit precious, but what you did was worse and wrong. Why would you do that? Just to be the first to post of her day? 🙄

I wouldn’t have uploaded any pictures of her wedding because she’d asked people not to yet you did it anyway. It wasn’t your place, it was her day. If she’s one of your best friends surely you would know her well enough to know what her reaction would be and respect that.

It's just unbelievable. There was someone on another thread who said that a bride told guests what colour to wear! It's just got crazy.

I think it’s etiquette not to post any wedding photos until the couple has. Photo of you and dh dressed up is fine but ones with anything showing the actual wedding are a big no no. Just common sense.

"The Reveal". Just what?? Like some sacred ceremony!! FFS...it's just a dress, not a Dress.

Absolutely.

imagine thinking anyone was waiting for a reveal of her dress.. hilarious.

She’s being pathetic! Fancy ruining things by getting upset over something so trivial!

Sorry, I was agreeing. 😊

Gently... Someone who 'Is really upset' and stopped talking to a good friend over what was posted on social media when is:
a) Going to struggle with real adulting life
b) Probably someone you want less to do with because of a)

Well.... she did say do not upload anything on social media and you did. You ignored her request and replaced it with your own justification interpretation. IMO you are the unreasonable person. However, to never forgive your behaviour is very unreasonable.

Bridezilla! She sounds very up herself. Did she look all that?

She’s making a mountain out of a molehill. Surely anyone she cares about was actually at her big day so saw the dress then? She sounds awful so she’s doing you a favour x

Honestly who will really give a shit about her wedding after the event.

I wouldn’t want any photos of me posted on social media whether I was wearing a manky cardigan and furry slippers or a wedding dress. That’s probably because I am old(ish) and don’t really get the whole posting photos thing. BUT I think your friend is being utterly ridiculous. Surely most of the people she cares about saw her AT the wedding. Nobody else gives a shiny shit about a big dress reveal. If a friend of mine did this and her photo popped up on my Facebook (as I said, old gimmer here) I’d probably have a quick glance and get on with living my life. I certainly wouldn’t be thinking ‘Oh thank God she finally posted that photo … I was bursting with excitement to see her dress.’

@Mumtobabyhavoc

that’s what I meant. Those who attended saw it and didn’t give a flying fuck either. No one cares about what dress a bride wears apart from the bride and maybe a couple of relatives

You made a mistake, you rectified it as quickly as you could, you have apologised profusely to your friend and have made it clear that you deeply regret having upset her.

If she can’t forgive you for this then really, she is not worthy of your friendship.

You sound like a nice person OP, you’ve done everything you can to put this right. Focus on those who appreciate you.