Friend not talking to me because I shared a photo from her Wedding

Ok, you didn't come across a bride that cared. But hand on heart, if you would go to your friend life event and she would ask you not to post something, you would go ahead and post it anyway because her reasoning don't deserve your respect? No, you wouldn't, you would tell her "you're bonkers" and roll your eyes but you wouldn't post. Because SHE IS YOUR FRIEND and BECAUSE SHE ASKED YOU. She is bonkers but she is still your friend.

Because the reasons make her sound ridiculous. It's much harder to have respect for the wishes of someone being an egotistical idiot than someone with a better reason.

I've been to loads of weddings. About 25 I think. Nobody has ever made any orders about photos. I have zero idea about whether anyone has ever posted photos before the bride did because it's not something I've ever kept any notice of. Because 99% of people don't care.

Yes but why make the reasons matter? Surely if she is a friend you respect her wishes, especially as she only asked about photos about herself, the OP was not stopped to post pictures of herself and partner dressed up) ?
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Absolutely not! My answeres are very little about the OP ( I already told the OP most likely it will pass) and a lot about the answers form other posters saying she is crazy, bonkers, bridezila, to wind her neck in, deluded, and all the rest of the names. Whilst for me is good manners, esepcially a photo from someone's life event. Is not your event, post yourself but not others (wedding, Christening, etc)

She sounds ridiculous. I honestly wouldn't want to be friends with someone who even thinks this way so no loss as far as I'm concerned.

Because she's said the only reason is a ridiculous need to control when people who weren't at the wedding see her dress.

If she was asking because she was particularly private, or anxious about how she looked, or never ever had photos on social media or something that would be different. But it isn't that, it's entirely for her ego and a ludicrous idea that anyone gives a fuck about the "reveal" of her dress when all the guests have already seen it.

It wasn’t deliberately disregarded though - it was a mistake. OP rectified as soon as she knew. A bit annoying, yes, but not worth falling out over surely?

She is seriously hard work.. No idea if you would like to stay friends with her but tell her to wind her neck in,

But she will. She is her best friend and she gives a fuck. Why are posters so focused on other people? Take the wedding out! I ask you please don't post a picture of me. You went ahead, disregard my request and post it anyway. This is all what is about, really, this is the principle.

😂😂 I can assure her nobody gives one flying feic about her dress reveal 🙈 I doubt it that’s unique that nobody will have seen one very similar to it

I can see why she was a bit peeved, but you misunderstood, it’s not THAT big of a deal 🙄 she needs to catch a grip

generally the etiquette is nobody posts pictures of the bride until she does so first

It's more pathetic to just ignore a simple request as a wedding guest (or to be so dim as to misunderstand it).

If they would understand they wouldn't find it pathethic. Why is the posters need to post on social media such picture of friend more important than friend's need not to post? Post yourself away as much as you want, but if someone asks you not to post pictures of them, you don't, no questions asked. Doesen't matter you find it bonkers, is her in that picture. Is called manners.

I really can’t be arsed to read all of this but OP please do tell your “friend”
to fuck off and stop being such a twat.

Your friend sounds absolutely pathetic. She really needs to get a grip.

People understand but just find it pathetic.

I don't understand the replies. Everybody going "who cares". She cares. She! That is enough. Doesen't matter if whst she asks you perceive as unreasonable (is not, is her wedding, she just asked to wait untill she posted her expensive photos). Is not about the reveal, is that she paid to have proffessional photos done, uploading those photos that have a much stronger impact for herself and for others (social media upload of the wedding photos is less for those who were at the wedding, but more for those who didn't attend). She told you not to and you did it anyway. You misunderstood, let her, it will pass. But don't minimise what is important for others just because it is not for you. (This is more for the pther posters who answered not the OP). Is the same when people take pictures of others (at the coffee, dinner, party groups) and upload them without permission. Many people are not photogenic or have confidence issues and don't like pictures they have no control over, unless you know me very well and you have my consent, don't upload me and tag me on your page, thank you!

Is your friend a celebrity?

she sounds a bit crazy with this whole ‘reveal’ but surely everyone knows now that you wait for the bride & groom to post their photos before adding your own. They shouldn’t have to ask, but did, and you still ignored it. Surely it should have been clear why bride didn’t want guest photos on before her own? That said, you’ve apologised and seems ridiculous she is not speaking to you. I spent today clearing out a good friend’s flat, she died last month, very suddenly and way too young. Your friend should realise there was no malice intended and you’ve apologised. If she can’t let it go, then she’s a friend you should let go.

I would also stop apologising as her behaviour is really childish. She obviously does not value your friendship much if she is prepared to stop speaking to you for something as ridiculous as this. I really would count yourself lucky you found out what is really important to her now.

No it isn't. Most people post photos of themselves and their partners/friends at weddings rather than posting the wedding itself. People pay a lot of time and money usually attending a wedding, of course lots want to post photos of themselves in a nice outfit with decent hair and make up with people they might not see often. Posting photos of yourself is ridiculously different to posting a picture of someone else's child 🙃OP waited a few weeks and didn't post any photos of the ceremony itself; as has been said, surely the majority of people the bride would want to see the photos were there anyway. I loved seeing people's photos of our wedding, it was still special when the official photos arrived. It'd be different imo if they didn't want any photos of themselves on social media, I'd have only deleted the one with her in it though.

This is quite funny because all the weddings I've been to with a "no social media posts" rule were because the couple didn't want any photos of their wedding on the internet - not on their accounts either. It was because of privacy, the opposite of wanting to be celebrities. That was about 10 years ago, mind.

In this case, the whole "my reveal" thing is wanky and it certainly sounds like an overreaction - HOWEVER as silly as we may find it, it was a pretty bloody clear instruction and pretty bloody easy to follow. It doesn't matter why the couple stipulate no social media posts - if you're a guest at their wedding you respect that simple request.

If I got married I'd probably stipulate no pictures on social media for similar reasons to my friends - I want privacy. And I'd be very pissed off if anyone was dim or thoughtless enough to ignore that.

Be thankful bridezilla isn't speaking to you.

She sounds utterly bonkers.

I think it’s appalling that people need to be asked not to share photos. Everyone should know that the bride posts first. It’s like posting a picture of someone’s baby, or announcing the birth before the parents etc. It’s common courtesy.

Reveal?! As if guests cared about the dress. It may be important for the bride but it’s a complete non event for guests. YANBU.