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Friend not talking to me because I shared a photo from her Wedding

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ByTidyHare · 04/05/2025 16:53

I attended my best friends wedding a few weeks ago. The day after, I posted some photos to Instagram which were mainly of me and my DP, with one of them of myself and my friend.

This was posted in the morning and on the same afternoon, my friend messaged me to ask I took it down as she didn’t want any photos posted from the day. I said of course and removed it. Before the ceremony, there was an announcement not to upload anything to social media which I assumed related solely to the ceremony and as we were quite near the back, I didn’t take any photos of this anyway. The photo of my friend and I was taken later that evening.

My friend went on her honeymoon soon after. I learnt from another friend whilst she was away that she was really upset with me for uploading the photo and that it ruined her reveal of the day/dress with professional photos as people would have seen it on my page for the few hours it was uploaded.

I didn’t want to message my friend whilst she was still away so I waited until she returned. I apologised, said I was horrified and that I’d mis-understood the instructions thinking they only related to the ceremony.

She replied to say she was still really upset and that I took away the reveal which she’d only have one chance to do in her life and she can’t believe I ignored her wishes. I again apologised but she hasn’t spoke to me since and I’ve learnt from another friend that she doesn’t think she will forgive me.

AIBU to think my friend is now over reacting or is her reaction proportionate?

OP posts:
KeenDuck · 05/05/2025 12:23

Gee whiz I know somebody who posted the babies name and weight before the parents announced it had been born and they didn’t get this much flak

KateDelRick · 05/05/2025 12:23

luckylavender · 05/05/2025 12:21

I really can understand her point of view & I don't think it's bridezilla. You overstepped even though you'd been told. She will always remember that.

It didn't ruin her wedding though, surely? If it did, then she's focusing on the wrong thing. It's all a bit silly.

luckylavender · 05/05/2025 12:23

WhereIsMyLight · 04/05/2025 17:01

The dress reveal is when she walked down the aisle.

For anyone not invited to the wedding, they won’t give a shit about her dress reveal because why should they?

Unfortunately you can’t argue with batshittery. She’ll either get over it or she won’t, there’s not much you can do. You’ve apologised.

Edited

There are people who can't attend a wedding even if they want to.

luckylavender · 05/05/2025 12:21

I really can understand her point of view & I don't think it's bridezilla. You overstepped even though you'd been told. She will always remember that.

BlumminKids · 05/05/2025 12:09

How much of a best friend are you OP? Like her best friend from primary school, or uni or later on? Maybe next door neighbour?
Were you a bridesmaid?

temperedolive · 05/05/2025 06:47

If I'm not invited to the wedding, I couldn't care less what the bride wore.

KeepYaHeadUp · 05/05/2025 06:30

“Reveal”?! To who? Presumably anyone who gives a shit will have been at the wedding?

PersonalBest · 05/05/2025 05:09

loropianalover · 04/05/2025 17:00

The rule is to not share pictures until the couple themselves have shared them. And they specifically made an announcement about same.

I’d be annoyed with you too OP, I’m sure she’s thinking it was thoughtless at best and deliberate at worst. But you’ve said sorry and removed the pic, you can’t do anymore now.

I don't think there is any rule but then I don't do social media. Thank god if this is typical carry on.

HerfNerder · 05/05/2025 02:36

Your friend sounds like a spoilt brat. Absolutely do not grovel. You've apologised enough. It's up to her whether she can get over herself or not. Seriously, the only people who are likely to care at all about her dress would have been at the wedding and seen it for themselves. I'm guessing she's not a celebrity who had millions of obsessed fans glued to their phones waiting for the wedding photos to drop. 🙄And even if so, she should still be embarrassed to make such a fuss about nothing.

Tbrh · 05/05/2025 02:16

Well, it is a bit of an overreaction but equally she did ask you not to do it. I had something similar where we asked people not to take pictures during the ceremony and one of my friends did which still pisses me off. I'm sure she'll get over it eventually

aurynne · 05/05/2025 01:52

The "Reveal".

Fuck almighty...

ClairDeLaLune · 05/05/2025 00:40

You were asked not to post pictures and you ignored that. YABU.

Rewis · 05/05/2025 00:11

Does she have am exclusive deal with the Sun or something and now she might be legally liable for contract breach? That's the only scenario where this makes sense.

Aavalon57 · 04/05/2025 23:58

The whole thing is ludicrous. What actual impact will it have on her life in the long run? Unless she was a Kardashian with a multi-million pound media deal. I couldn’t be bothered with a ‘friend’ like this. Stop apologising and get on with your own life, OP.

Fordian · 04/05/2025 23:55

I give their marriage 18 months, tops.

’Reveal’? How teenage.

2021x · 04/05/2025 23:48

Weddings make brides insane... give her a couple of months and if she is still not over it then, then she is being unreasonable.

Justforthisoneithink · 04/05/2025 23:33

People get so ridiculous about social media, especially “reveals” 🤮.
She’s being completely ott and precious, but I also think you were in the wrong to post a picture of her on her wedding day less than 24 hours after the event, even if you didn’t understand the “rules”. There’s really no rush.

Mochi1fudge · 04/05/2025 23:33

You've apologised and if she hasn't been gracious about it, that's on her.

I got married in 2002 and I'm pleased that digital photos were in their infancy. Facebook didn't exist. There were certainly no rules about this. I think it took months to get my wedding album from the photographer, by which point my MIL, work colleagues, friends parents, whoever, had likely had their photos developed at the lab in Boots. I didn't give it a second thought.

I think she's been totally OTT.

whattodo22222 · 04/05/2025 23:26

Having a friend who cared about stuff like this would rot my brain.

thaisweetchill · 04/05/2025 23:11

Come on OP, it’s common sense to not share a photo of the bride until they have done so themselves no matter how you interpret the wording.

BecFlowers · 04/05/2025 23:09

I think regardless of whether people care or think “reveals” are ridiculous, she cares to the extent that she asked you not to post on social media and you did. That being said, you say you genuinely misunderstood and you’ve apologised - nothing more you can do, you’ve deleted it when asked and said you’re sorry x

reesespieces123 · 04/05/2025 23:08

Itsnotallaboutyoulikeyouthink · 04/05/2025 23:06

You are well out of order. It’s her day her dress and for her to post first. Can’t believe all these posts saying she’s being precious!

Someone who talks about their 'wedding reveal' isn't being precious? she needs to get a life.....

Itsnotallaboutyoulikeyouthink · 04/05/2025 23:06

You are well out of order. It’s her day her dress and for her to post first. Can’t believe all these posts saying she’s being precious!

BunfightBetty · 04/05/2025 23:05

Do you really still want to be friends with her if she's really this self-absorbed?

Blinky21 · 04/05/2025 22:50

I have been to weddings like this, it's incredibly self centred, imagine thinking anyone not at your wedding cares about a reveal of your dress on social media. Social media has caused people to have an inflated sense of self importance, same for baby gender reveals. Who gives a toss about that apart from very close family

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