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Feeling upset. Deleted off facebook and actively blanked in a shop.

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Hurryupretirement · 04/05/2025 15:03

I’m feeling a bit upset by it and need to try and understand the thinking. For context I am feeling emotional generally at present as I have a close relative very ill in hospital but even so…
Someone who I thought was a friend, we have a shared interest which resulted in a lit of contact over 3 or 4 years, very pleasant and I also offered support with some difficulties she was having that I have expertise in. I had to leave the setting we met in 2 years ago not through choice but ill health but have remained in touch with several members, mainly exchanging messages on FB.
A few months ago I realized she had removed me from her friend list on FB. Ok totally her perogative as I know some people have culls.
But then today I was out shopping and as I glanced around I saw her, was literally just about to smile/ wave, she immediately clocked me and literally turned around 180 degrees and marched off!!!!
I was shocked to be honest! So rude!!
For context my FB is kept cheerful no politics or anything even mildly offensiveto be found so it cant be that. I am just so hurt and confused!

OP posts:
Hurryupretirement · 04/05/2025 15:26

Thanks for the replies. I suppose for me personally I don’t really remove people unless there is a specific reason such as seeing offensive posts ( only happened once) or on one occasion as the person was really rude to me irl. So i suppose I just found it confusing.

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BeesTrees · 04/05/2025 15:18

I think social media gives a false impression of who your friends are.
In years gone by you would have left the setting and probably wouldn’t have stayed in touch. Facebook gives a false impression that you have remained closer to people than you actually have.
At a guess I would say She has probably deleted you in a “people I no longer see” cull and then was embarrassed when she spotted you in real life knowing that she had deleted you.

MovingBird123 · 04/05/2025 15:09

Well, you're asking for some understanding because of feeling emotional due to personal reasons. Who knows what sort of day she's been having. Maybe she just didn't fancy talking to someone. I every now and then delete people I don't really speak to from FB. I wouldn't take it personally.

Alternatively she could be offended that you kept in touch with others and not her?

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