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Desperation baby will not be put down

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Xxx122 · 04/05/2025 14:20

Mums I am defeated! My little boy has turned 6 months old. I could bore you with details but severe colic as a baby, still medicated with Lansoprazole for reflux. Tried amino acid formula caused a feeding aversion.

Anyway, things have obviously improved from the colic stage. But as soon as this boy is put down and not being held he cries and cries. When being held the majority of the time he is happy!

Im at a loss as i have a 2 year old. I cannot physically hold him all the time and im getting so overstimulated!

His naps are terrible throughout the day ranging from 15-40 minutes. Meaning he is overtired most of the time, wont be soothed back to sleep.

I have tried today to just put him on his play mat and leave him. He cries and then will stop for a few moments at most.

If he is down the only way he won’t cry, is if I'm actively engaging which obviously isn’t possible all of the time.

We have been referred to Peads but of course theres a 10 month wait list. GPs just think im bonkers as he smiles at them when i take him. HV is no help.

This sounds absolutely awful but sometimes, I find myself regretting having a second child!

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Xxx122 · 04/05/2025 15:16

ScrewedByFunding · 04/05/2025 14:52

Have you started weaning?

Yes, purees only as he isn’t physically ready

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BirdsongLightly · 04/05/2025 15:05

Had exactly the same, velcro baby and livley 2 year old. For me the sling was th answer.

ScrewedByFunding · 04/05/2025 14:52

Have you started weaning?

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Xxx122 · 04/05/2025 14:48

BertieBotts · 04/05/2025 14:40

Have you looked at food intolerances? I assume so with the amino acid formula - are there no other alternatives?

At 6 months it is possible he could be teething, is he chewing on everything and drooling a lot?

Some symptoms improved on amino acid, such as bowel movements and it did ease colic slightly. This was when he was really small, we then did the formula challenge and thought he had passed.

Constipation started again with green poops ect, tried to reintroduce amino acid but he literally stopped eating and would scream.

Trouble is the allergy formulas are so thin which is annoying as most babies suffer hand in hand with reflux. Settled on a comfort milk for now.

He is definitely teething, but the crying when put down isn’t new behaviour if that makes sense?

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Xxx122 · 04/05/2025 14:45

redteapot · 04/05/2025 14:38

Both of my girls were also velcro babies. With my second, using a baby carrier / sling was an absolute lifesaver. My daughter was happy in there (usually asleep!), and I had my hands free to look after my older daughter (and occasionally clean!). I used a Tula Free to Grow which I found really comfy and easy to use. They aren't cheap so I hired one for a month first from a sling library to test it out. If that would work for you too, just google 'sling library + your town', you should find one nearby. The guy that runs ours showed me loads of different ones, showed me how to adjust it properly, etc. It was great. If there isn't one near you, try the Babywearing UK Facebook group for advice / to find online sling consultants with postal libraries. Best of luck OP xx

Great Thank you! The one I have gives me a back ache after about 10 minutes which is why I dont utilise it!

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Xxx122 · 04/05/2025 14:44

ScrewedByFunding · 04/05/2025 14:27

Doee he have a dummy? Sling? Is he close to sitting?

Just saw the suggestion of half a day in childcare, this is not nearly enough to settle most children especially one who is high needs. 2 full days minimum. (I'm a cm)

He has a dummy but it won’t soothe him if hes put down. Unfortunately not close to sitting or rolling due to the limited floor time.

We’re having to do exercises with him to try and strengthen and encourage.

He will be starting with a cm in July when i return to work for three days per week

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Xxx122 · 04/05/2025 14:42

RidingMyBike · 04/05/2025 14:25

You sound at the end of your tether. Unsurprisingly. Is there anyone else who can come round to hold him so you can have a break? Grandparents, siblings, Home Start volunteer? At this age I used to go to a toddler group every weekday which was full of people who liked holding babies!

Would half a day in nursery/with a childminder each week be practical? Really wish I’d done this!

He is actually due to start with a cm in July when i return back to work. Maybe i could consider bringing it forward!

We have really limited support otherwise! My partner works away 2 weeks at a time

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BertieBotts · 04/05/2025 14:40

Have you looked at food intolerances? I assume so with the amino acid formula - are there no other alternatives?

At 6 months it is possible he could be teething, is he chewing on everything and drooling a lot?

redteapot · 04/05/2025 14:38

Both of my girls were also velcro babies. With my second, using a baby carrier / sling was an absolute lifesaver. My daughter was happy in there (usually asleep!), and I had my hands free to look after my older daughter (and occasionally clean!). I used a Tula Free to Grow which I found really comfy and easy to use. They aren't cheap so I hired one for a month first from a sling library to test it out. If that would work for you too, just google 'sling library + your town', you should find one nearby. The guy that runs ours showed me loads of different ones, showed me how to adjust it properly, etc. It was great. If there isn't one near you, try the Babywearing UK Facebook group for advice / to find online sling consultants with postal libraries. Best of luck OP xx

Katemax82 · 04/05/2025 14:29

Watching as my 2 month old is the same

ScrewedByFunding · 04/05/2025 14:27

Doee he have a dummy? Sling? Is he close to sitting?

Just saw the suggestion of half a day in childcare, this is not nearly enough to settle most children especially one who is high needs. 2 full days minimum. (I'm a cm)

RidingMyBike · 04/05/2025 14:25

You sound at the end of your tether. Unsurprisingly. Is there anyone else who can come round to hold him so you can have a break? Grandparents, siblings, Home Start volunteer? At this age I used to go to a toddler group every weekday which was full of people who liked holding babies!

Would half a day in nursery/with a childminder each week be practical? Really wish I’d done this!