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To be annoyed at DH unrealistic exprctations

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Outandabout43 · 04/05/2025 11:16

DH just seems to be unrealistic with his expectations. When DS now 4 was a baby he just expected him to sleep when he was supposed to fed when he was supposed to and generally just fit in with his previous life. He is still like it now woth DS and expects him to just sit quietly watching TV and to be fully obedient until he is ready to play with him.

He has said for a long time he wanted a dog, so we got a puppy and the same thing is happening again. Puppy is 11 weeks and has been with us a week. He expects him to just be potty trained and sleep in his crate within a couple of days, he expects him to never bark and to be able to be left alone in a room whilst we all potter around the home. I've told him this is unrealistic and can take months.

He is now walking around slamming things and swearing, saying he wants to get rid of the dog. He's so argumentative at the moment and nothing anyone does is right. Apparently every time the dog doesn't do something he wants its somehow my fault.

AIBU to be really annoyed at this. How do I get it through to him it just needs patience (which appears to be something he lacks)

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ToKittyornottoKitty · 04/05/2025 11:21

Why on earth did you get a dog? Were you expecting it to come with a free personality transplant for the owner?

Honestly OP is this what you what for your child and your life? And no I’m not talking about the dog

dreamingbohemian · 04/05/2025 11:21

You cannot 'get through to him' this is who he is. No idea why you'd want to be with someone so controlling and nasty.

MissJeanBrodiesmother · 04/05/2025 11:21

He sounds awful. Agree this is who he is. He expects other people to fit in with him and make everything right for him.

LoafofSellotape · 04/05/2025 11:20

I would re-home the dog now, it's not fair on anyone in the family least of all the dog. Can't see she's behaviour getting any better anytime soon, what a twat!

Throckmorton · 04/05/2025 11:19

What is he bringing to this family, other than stress? Doesn't sound like a great person for a kid to grow up around

FGSWhatMoreCanISay · 04/05/2025 11:18

Well he's not suddenly going to be a different character, is he, so there's not a lot you can do.

This is who he is.

You're definitely not being unreasonable. 💐

Outandabout43 · 04/05/2025 11:17

Just to add the housework has not been done in a week, DS isn't allowed to play and we aren't even allowed in the kitchen incase we wake the dog up

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