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Noisy neighbours are pushing me to my limits

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Lucie390 · 03/05/2025 22:13

I appreciate the title sounds like I’m about the flip.. looking for some advice. I absolutely won’t be marching round there tonight but I might politely knock on their door tomorrow if feeling brave.

We moved into a new property last summer, neighbours have a garden office/bar and have been having friends over every weekend since we moved in- without fail. It’s not caused us any issue other than annoyed that sometimes cars park nearly across our driveway and we can see it lit up in garden but not caused us any stress per say or sleepless nights until now..

Every single weekend they have friends over and we can hear them until 2am, i can’t have the window open which annoys me but even with the window closed we can hear them until 2am. I am a light sleeper anyway so appreciate I might be being sensitive but even when I get up at 3am to go to the toilet their garden office is lit up till 4am most weekends.

This week has really pushed me too far as the wife of the house in question, has had her friends over and quite literally shrieked laughing and swearing until 1am on Tuesday, then Wedesnday her teenage daughter had friends over til 1am being loud in the garden and then Thursday the wife/mum has people over till 2am again which was followed by a huge bust up and the husband and wife falling out and shouting/screaming in the garden till 3am. They then left the garden room lit up and music going till 5am. I now having family staying and I can hear a garden party again and it’s literally making my blood boil. We sat out until 8am then the music started and we’ve had to come in.

My children are teens so it’s not keeping any young children awake but we have small children in the house next to us and very elderly people the other side. I’m so cross at how inconsiderate they are. What would you do ?

My husband is so placid and would rather pit earplugs in and go to sleep but I can’t do that as easily. Plus I have my parents here I feel embarrassed as the sheer volume, especially as I know with bank holiday it’ll be the same tomorrow.. what do I do ??

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Popsicle1981 · 04/05/2025 06:05

I often wonder how these people fund their lifestyles. Don’t they have jobs in the morning to go to?

Cardinalita90 · 03/05/2025 23:33

I believe noise in the late/early hours can be considered antisocial behaviour so you could call the police. Especially if as you say they kick off. However if they're having garden parties every night, it may not be the best option as you obviously cant call every night.

If you're really not sure a conversation would be productive (or a note?), I think I'd keep a noise diary and go down the council route first. Use the police only when they're screaming and shouting.

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Lucie390 · 03/05/2025 23:26

Els1e · 03/05/2025 23:23

Sorry you're going through this but I would move.

We can’t just move and why should we !! We bought this property last summer, you can’t just move like that unfortunately. Plus we love our house and street and neighbours- just not those that are being inconsiderate.

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Els1e · 03/05/2025 23:23

Sorry you're going through this but I would move.

B0D · 03/05/2025 22:54

There are guidelines or noise regulations on the council website for reasonable hours , ours is after 11pm be quiet and don’t start noisy work until 8 am. use these as your starting point.
I also seem to live in party land and just want to sit in my garden peacefully but it appears we are outnumbered by ignorance

Ddakji · 03/05/2025 22:54

Lucie390 · 03/05/2025 22:50

Can this be done anonymously? I don’t feel I can approach them or do anything that can come to us.

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Yes, I believe so. I’ve complained a couple of times and it’s never come back to us. If they’re making that much racket it could presumably be any number of neighbours complaining. But the noise team may want to enter your home to record the level of noise audience inside - but it sounds like they wouldn’t notice if a herd of elephants came through your front door.

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Lucie390 · 03/05/2025 22:50

Ddakji · 03/05/2025 22:42

Report them to the noise team on the council every time.

Can this be done anonymously? I don’t feel I can approach them or do anything that can come to us.

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UpJacksArseAndRoundTheCorner · 03/05/2025 22:49

Speak to them nicely face to face.

At least give them the chance to try to be more considerate. They may not realise how far the noise carries when they've all been drinking etc.

Ddakji · 03/05/2025 22:42

Report them to the noise team on the council every time.

sumhip · 03/05/2025 22:42

Start with talking to them. Be incredibly friendly and ‘understanding’ - do not make enemies of them. It will go against all your instincts, but tread lightly. Start nicely and build up. Do not trash them in the group chat or complain formally…yet.

5 years of living in hell, that ended in court; the above is what I would have done differently.

LittleGreenDragons · 03/05/2025 22:38

Thursday the wife/mum has people over till 2am again which was followed by a huge bust up and the husband and wife falling out and shouting/screaming in the garden till 3am.

^ That would have been the perfect time to call the police tbh. If they do that again call the police as that kind of altercation, with alcohol , can end up in violence. It also has an effect to calm excessive and/or late noise from them on other occasions.

Otherwise start keeping a noise diary, possibly with phone recordings, and then notify environmental health at your local council.

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Lucie390 · 03/05/2025 22:27

pambeesleyhalpert · 03/05/2025 22:20

Noisy neighbours are HELL! Have you spoken to them?! Can you do a noise complaint??

We haven’t, as most weekend gatherings seem to end with some sort of drama I don’t feel it’s the right time. They also don't seem very approachable. I don’t think I’d feel comfortable however it’s now at a point where something has to be said.

The whole street is on a whats app chat, I’m wondering whether to put something on there like we are really struggling with the noise of parties in the street, I dunno what exactly but something to highlight the problem in a chatty /conversational way ?

The music is now pounding I really feel so stressed by it, there’s about 15 teenagers in the garden directly next to ours and the parents come in and out and are obviously drunk too so it’s going to be another long night.. I feel so stressed. Do I call the police of still going on at 2am ?? Friday night it was 3am and still going.

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pambeesleyhalpert · 03/05/2025 22:20

Noisy neighbours are HELL! Have you spoken to them?! Can you do a noise complaint??

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