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Glitter Tattoo at school

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Ghrace · 03/05/2025 18:02

My DD has just turned 5 on Thursday, for her birthday my sister did a little glitter tattoo on her arm. When her school cardigan was on it wasn’t noticeable but at some point in the day she must have taken it off. The teacher pulled me aside at the end of the day and said she’s not allowed glitter tattoos and it has to be gone for Tuesday.

My issue is following Eid and before Easter holidays 2 little girls in her class came back to school for the last few days with Henna, which to me is the same vibe as a glitter tattoo. This was on their arms and hands so noticeable even with cardigans on. I know the mum well and know they never said anything about the Henna.

AIBU to think it’s not very fair that Henna is okay but Glitter Tattoos aren’t? Should I ask the school more about this policy?

DH thinks Henna is probably fine as it’s “cultural”.

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Emonade · 03/05/2025 22:24

Kilroyonly · 03/05/2025 22:22

Being equal is important & being treated as such. Religion doesn’t trump everything if it does then what a sorry country we live in

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what does it trump exactly? I think how angry people are at certain religions is absolutely mental. They are not the reason things have changed!!!!!!!!

HuffleMyPuffle · 03/05/2025 22:23

OppsUpsSide · 03/05/2025 22:20

UK is a secular society. The King has said he is defender of the faiths not the faith. Temporary tattoos as part of a celebration are therefore ok or not, the ‘faith’ element shouldn’t be relevant.

You know supporting more religions makes this country LESS secualr?

Kilroyonly · 03/05/2025 22:23

HuffleMyPuffle · 03/05/2025 22:21

That's irrelevant to the point which is that it's the extension away from the family that would prevent it

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No it isn’t

Kilroyonly · 03/05/2025 22:22

Emonade · 03/05/2025 22:16

If you want a secular society that bans things you seen uncomfortable with.

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Being equal is important & being treated as such. Religion doesn’t trump everything if it does then what a sorry country we live in

Emonade · 03/05/2025 22:22

Kilroyonly · 03/05/2025 22:20

Our culture is important, clearly you think k religion should suppress that..fgs this is why

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Do I?

ThinWomansBrain · 03/05/2025 22:21

WinterMorn · 03/05/2025 18:06

You can’t seriously be equating religious and cultural practices with getting a glitter tattoo?

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Its the cult of the unicorn😂🦄

StarStay · 03/05/2025 22:21

OP just remove the temp glitter tattoo. You sound ridiculous.

HuffleMyPuffle · 03/05/2025 22:21

Kilroyonly · 03/05/2025 22:12

FGS this is nonsense. If you want to be flippant that’s fine but I can tell you for FACT that a Catholic funeral is at least 3 day

That's irrelevant to the point which is that it's the extension away from the family that would prevent it

Teenybub · 03/05/2025 22:20

Kilroyonly · 03/05/2025 21:47

You have no idea about my relationship with her or Catholic funerals. My point is if it was a Muslim funeral then it wouldn’t be questioned

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Do you have evidence for this?
At the school I teach at we had a family travel for a Muslim funeral, they were gone 4 days and all but one day was recorded as unauthorised absence.

Kilroyonly · 03/05/2025 22:20

Emonade · 03/05/2025 22:15

I’m genuinely interested what part of our culture they represent?! I’ve been to loads of music festivals and gay pride events, is that it?! I also taught British values as a secondary school teacher and don’t remember glitter tattoos being in the syllabus

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Our culture is important, clearly you think k religion should suppress that..fgs this is why

OppsUpsSide · 03/05/2025 22:20

UK is a secular society. The King has said he is defender of the faiths not the faith. Temporary tattoos as part of a celebration are therefore ok or not, the ‘faith’ element shouldn’t be relevant.

Emonade · 03/05/2025 22:18

OppsUpsSide · 03/05/2025 22:16

It's literally part of religious celebration SPARKLE TATOOS ARE NOT

Religion holds no gravitas in a secular
society. Celebration is celebration, religion is not required. Either temporary tattoos as part of a celebration are allowed within schools or they’re not. It doesn’t require a religious element to make it acceptable.

Goodness. I mean at the end of the day. Why does it matter. Henna is really hard to get off, glitter tattoo is not. I think we all need a bit of perspective and empathy.

OppsUpsSide · 03/05/2025 22:16

It's literally part of religious celebration SPARKLE TATOOS ARE NOT

Religion holds no gravitas in a secular
society. Celebration is celebration, religion is not required. Either temporary tattoos as part of a celebration are allowed within schools or they’re not. It doesn’t require a religious element to make it acceptable.

Emonade · 03/05/2025 22:16

OppsUpsSide · 03/05/2025 22:13

maybe consider moving to France

are you suggesting I shouldn’t live freely in England?

If you want a secular society that bans things you seen uncomfortable with.

Emonade · 03/05/2025 22:15

OppsUpsSide · 03/05/2025 22:10

Are glitter tattoos part of British culture?! What part is that?

The part that you don’t adhere to and ridicule I would guess. Do you take that stance on all versions of celebrations you don’t partake in yourself or only certain ones? How do you decide which are worthy of your distanced endorsement and which aren’t?

I’m genuinely interested what part of our culture they represent?! I’ve been to loads of music festivals and gay pride events, is that it?! I also taught British values as a secondary school teacher and don’t remember glitter tattoos being in the syllabus

OppsUpsSide · 03/05/2025 22:13

maybe consider moving to France

are you suggesting I shouldn’t live freely in England?

Hankunamatata · 03/05/2025 22:12

https://www.twinkl.co.uk/resource/design-your-own-eid-henna-t-re-1676895956

There's even school work sheets avaliable to show that henna is part of eid and tied up in religion.

It's literally part of religious celebration SPARKLE TATOOS ARE NOT

And so what if they are not Muslim. Their mum is showing them their religious heritage. Ffs I celebrate eid and I'm christening and my friends kindly invite me

https://www.twinkl.co.uk/resource/design-your-own-eid-henna-t-re-1676895956

Kilroyonly · 03/05/2025 22:12

FGS this is nonsense. If you want to be flippant that’s fine but I can tell you for FACT that a Catholic funeral is at least 3 day

OppsUpsSide · 03/05/2025 22:10

Are glitter tattoos part of British culture?! What part is that?

The part that you don’t adhere to and ridicule I would guess. Do you take that stance on all versions of celebrations you don’t partake in yourself or only certain ones? How do you decide which are worthy of your distanced endorsement and which aren’t?

Emonade · 03/05/2025 22:10

OppsUpsSide · 03/05/2025 22:05

It is supposed to be a secular society, the government is not supposed to upheld any one religion over any other.

maybe consider moving to France

HuffleMyPuffle · 03/05/2025 22:07

OppsUpsSide · 03/05/2025 22:05

It is supposed to be a secular society, the government is not supposed to upheld any one religion over any other.

Clergy literally sit in the House of Lords, our Monarch is both Head of State and Head of the Church

It's a Christian country which endeavours to be fair to all

Emonade · 03/05/2025 22:06

HermioneWeasley · 03/05/2025 20:28

@Ghrace i think you’re getting a hard time. The religion does not require the application of henna decorations, it’s a typical way of marking celebrations and festivals in some cultures but not a religious observance.

in the same way that in British culture glitter tattoos are applied for celebrations and festivals.

henna is not more valid than glitter tattoos. The teacher is just afraid of appearing racist if they say anything about it.

i come from a Muslim background but am not practising BTW.

Are glitter tattoos part of British culture?! What part is that?

OppsUpsSide · 03/05/2025 22:05

It is supposed to be a secular society, the government is not supposed to upheld any one religion over any other.

Rewis · 03/05/2025 22:02

Glitter tattoos and Henna are very different. But I also find no glitter tattoo rule to be ridiculous.

HuffleMyPuffle · 03/05/2025 21:58

Hoppinggreen · 03/05/2025 21:53

You have no idea what would or wouldn't be allowed for a Muslim funeral as you have never requested time off for one.
Also, I do have an idea about your relationship with the lady who died - you literally said she was your Mums sister so that would make her your childrens Great Aunt.

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I would think no child is getting even the funeral approved for a Great Aunt unless they lived with them or were raised with them being their Gran