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21 times a month????

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TiramisuQueenoftheFairies · 03/05/2025 16:09

To just ignore the link that my husband has sent me to this article?
https://www.healthline.com/health/prostate-cancer/ejaculation-prostate-cancer#research
For context we are over 50 and have grownup children. I'd say we manage about a third of that.... so 7 times a month..... Is there really a world in which couples with jobs, hobbies and unavoidable chores manage 21 times a month, 12 months a year, apart from in the "honeymoon" stage of a relationship?

Ejaculation and Prostate Cancer: Is There a Connection?

If you ejaculate frequently, your risk of getting prostate cancer may be reduced. But how often is frequent? And is this true for men of all ages?

https://www.healthline.com/health/prostate-cancer/ejaculation-prostate-cancer#research

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arethereanyleftatall · 03/05/2025 18:45

Why tactfully? He hasn’t extended you that courtesy has he?

as a slight aside, do you see sex with your husband as a chore?

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TiramisuQueenoftheFairies · 03/05/2025 18:42

HereInMyHeart · 03/05/2025 16:39

Why has he sent you the article? Just to let you know… 🤔 Or to pressure you to have sex with him more often?

I am thinking the latter..... and trying to work out how to tactfully suggest he doesn't need me 21 times a month.

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arethereanyleftatall · 03/05/2025 18:24

Eh? Surely he can wank?

StupidBoy · 03/05/2025 18:08

For context we are over 50 and have grownup children. I'd say we manage about a third of that.... so 7 times a month.

If the grown up children both of yours and you didn't just meet five years ago then I'd say you deserve a medal. I mean even once a month impresses me.

latetothefisting · 03/05/2025 18:01

Aw, it's thoughtful of him to sending you a hint for what to get him for his next bday present
He's clearly fancying a butt plug given he's so interested in prostates and ejaculation.
Make sure it's a big one! Possibly throw in some anal beads as well if you're feeling generous!

PoppyBaxter · 03/05/2025 17:57

Cakencookieobsessed · 03/05/2025 17:52

That's personal and relevant to you only. No one should be suggesting to OP that she needs to have sex every day. You've got no idea of her lifestyle.

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The OP asked:

"Is there really a world in which couples with jobs, hobbies and unavoidable chores manage 21 times a month, 12 months a year, apart from in the "honeymoon" stage of a relationship?"

My answer is "Yes, there is".

Cakencookieobsessed · 03/05/2025 17:52

PoppyBaxter · 03/05/2025 17:18

My husband (of 20 years) and I are currently having sex pretty much daily. We both work full time, have hobbies and social lives. No kids though.

It really only needs to take 10 minutes if that's all you've got time for. I find, the more we do it, the more we realise how easy it is to fit it in.

I will say though, this is as a result of my crazy high sex drive now I'm over 40. We weren't always like this!

That's personal and relevant to you only. No one should be suggesting to OP that she needs to have sex every day. You've got no idea of her lifestyle.

PoppyBaxter · 03/05/2025 17:18

My husband (of 20 years) and I are currently having sex pretty much daily. We both work full time, have hobbies and social lives. No kids though.

It really only needs to take 10 minutes if that's all you've got time for. I find, the more we do it, the more we realise how easy it is to fit it in.

I will say though, this is as a result of my crazy high sex drive now I'm over 40. We weren't always like this!

HereInMyHeart · 03/05/2025 16:39

Why has he sent you the article? Just to let you know… 🤔 Or to pressure you to have sex with him more often?

ReplacementBusService · 03/05/2025 16:18

Buy him an 80s jazz mag and a box of Kleenex as a helpful gift 💫

oviraptor21 · 03/05/2025 16:16

I noted that increased sex drive was a risk factor but increased ejaculation was protective (after a certain age). Not sure how they can separate those two 🤔

doodleschnoodle · 03/05/2025 16:15

Oh sweet summer child.

Cakencookieobsessed · 03/05/2025 16:13

I would say normal. That's presuming masturbation and not just intercourse.

Butchyrestingface · 03/05/2025 16:13

Article isnt talking about La Sex 21 x a month though, is it? It's talking about ejaculation. Do I believe that a man (of any age) could masturbate 21 x a month?

Absolutely.

WombatStewForTea · 03/05/2025 16:12

He has a hand and is presumably quite capable of using it

AltitudeCheck · 03/05/2025 16:12

It doesn't mean you have to be involved each time. Send him off the the bathroom with some tissues! 😂

BitOutOfPractice · 03/05/2025 16:11

That report was written by a man.

in answer to your question: no.