Is this weird parenting?

P.s. maybe a necklace as a pp said, there’s grown up stuff going on so here’s a grown up necklace is lovely and acknowledges it in a shared kind of way. Not sure about a red drop of blood necklace though , that’s cringe. Maybe something that is just grown up and not horribly symbolic

Well I am ancient so these things were a bit more cloak and dagger. I was mortified when my dad came to me and said congratulations you are a woman or something like that. I know he was being lovely but oh it was embarrassing!

OP I think it's a lovely idea to celebrate your daughter's entry into womanhood. I did something similar with my daughter (I didn't buy her a present but we did have a special celebratory meal).
And I got the same comments from friends as you have here ("I would have been mortified"). Which I think is sad. Why should women be ashamed of a natural function?

Absolutely crying at this 🤣🤣🤣

I came across it when I was waiting for a Hysterectomy!

OMG this is wonderful! I wish I had known about it when my daughter started her periods

I dunno wtf is wrong with posters here. It's a lovely idea and far better than the big sigh and lamenting most of us endured. I'd get her a comfy set of PJs, hot water bottle and some cacao too.

I’m on board with this OP, I think it’s a nice idea to mark the occasion in a positive way. My DD is nearly 14 and not yet started but I might do similar.

Stop it 😂

I got my girls something. They weren't mad keen at the time, but 15/20 years later they recognise it was a passage.

God know why people are saying it's weird.

Weird 😂

I voted unreasonable because I don't think I'd have wanted a piece of jewellery to celebrate my first period. But it wasn't a hard unreasonable - more a you do you thing, if your daughter would like it.

My mother and then myself were very open with our daughters and sons about what a period was, what to expect, and I felt supported when it happened. I think it's also important to teach boys about menstruation too. I went to school in the 1970s and 80s and got in trouble at 9 for telling my school friends that a period isn't a bladder of blood women get, or other weird ideas. Being able to draw a fairly decent picture of the female and male reproductive organs was not appreciated in Ireland at the time. Maybe being in permanent marker on a white door was the issue.

My confirmation was presented as my coming of age event. I was no.l9nger able to use being a child as an excuse, but I was also given more freedom and responsibility for my own choices.

on the day they started I got both my DDs hot water bottles and pads and tea bags! Oldest DD went off to Uni with that hot water bottle so it was a good buy!

My mum made a big deal about it and I hated it. It made me so uncomfortable, I’d much rather it hadn’t been acknowledged

So surprised by the negative reactions to this! I think it’s sweet and a nice way to show you love her and recognise that periods starting is a big-ish deal. It’s all in the delivery, surely? If you make it cringe it will be cringe, but if you just make it a nice thing, like “grown up things are happening so you deserve some grown up jewellery”, I think that’s lovely. Lots of talk of her being “mortified” but isn’t it a good thing to try and break some of that shame nonsense that we’ve all been made to feel about female functioning bodies? You know your daughter, if you think she’ll like the necklace and appreciate you seeing her going through stuff, then go for it. (I’m mildly jealous as a boy mum who will only get to acknowledge voices breaking with some kind of fucking Nerf monstrosity, probably).

Looking at the comments on here is quite worrying, if Mums can’t talk about periods with their Daughter, how are they able to manage them starting a relationship? Talk to them about contraception? Teach them about boundaries and healthy relationships?

I guess I think that it’s important that daughters feel completely comfortable talking about their bodies with their Mums, and for Mums not to have a Victorian mindset when it comes to talking about periods and Puberty!

I think it's lovely. A 'coming of age' gift to mark her transition into womanhood. Help her feel proud to start, rather than ashamed/shy/upset as many girls sadly are.

I think as a teen she would be embarrassed to receive that for the reason you state.

You could get her it to cheer her up if she’s feeling down but certainly don’t make out as if it’s related to getting her first period. That’s a bit odd. She’s not mentally a woman. It’s nice that you want to gift her something but just maybe not for that.

I think it's lovely to want to do something for her, but I agree a wee pamper set and snacks sounds more apt. If you wanted to get a little something special to put in with that then fair enough, but maybe do it to cheer her up rather than to 'mark' her period arriving.

You do you and only you know your own child…but…I personally would have hated it! As a teen hitting puberty, the last thing I wanted was to draw attention to myself and my period! The thought that my mum would celebrate it would have horrified me..sorry 🤷🏻‍♀️

I think it’s unusual but I don’t think it’s weird if you don’t make it weird. Just tell her it’s an important moment and you wanted to buy her something to cheer her up/reminder that she can always talk to you or whatever. I would have loved my mum to have talked to me about starting my period or have done something nice like that. Instead I just felt really ashamed.

@PeloMom so sorry. Don’t know why this quoted you!

Sanitary towels, some chocolate and a nice body wash…..yes.

A period necklace…….no. This is slightly weird.

I'm sorry but that's weird...