Is this weird parenting?

I like it I think it’s nice idea.

I have a little charm my mother gave me when I started my periods 40 years ago. I gave my dd something similar. I really can’t see why people think it’s weird to mark an important occasion…

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OMG @JoyousEagle. Yes, utterly weird. That poor woman.

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Weird. And she might be cringing at the thought when she would prefer not the whole world to know.

I read this and I think I'd prefer a more practical and also bigger custom. My two recently got confirmed but we'd have liked something like they did at another church we went to once (in the US) where children choose a charity project as their confirmation project, a bit like the Bar/Bat Mitzvah project idea.
My DD got a little cross necklace too which I think she's going to be a bit less embarrassed to wear.

We were getting ready to go for a family day out when I started my periods. My mum bought me something from the gift shop at the attraction, I guess to make me smile or mark to day in some way. I've never thought it weird and I still have the item (nothing fancy. Generic gift shop thing)
I suppose the difference is that it was a bought on a whim gift; had we not been going out that day she wouldn't have bought me something.
I think I'd have found it a bit odd if I was presented with a preplanned 'welcome to womanhood' gift

I was thinking along those lines, Deffo.

@JillAndJenTheFlowerpotMen - I get your desire to do this and have said YANBU but I have quite a hippy approach to things like this. I think @DeffoNeedANameChange’s suggestion for a care basket with PJs etc is lovely.

People say it’s weird but I remember from reading all the terrifying ‘informational’ period books of the 90’s that it used to be fairly common for families to mark it as a transition into womanhood and call it a red letter day and such.

My mum gave me a wash bag for keeping everything I needed at school and chocolate (especially dark chocolate)

I think jewellery would be lovely personally.

The most important gift is to just be open and take away the shame and stigma imo.

I think it is a beautiful pendant and your idea of giving her something nice when her period starts is lovely. However that is an expensive item, something less so but bought with thought and care would do just as well.

Nevertheless your heart is in the right place and I am sure she will love whatever you give her.

@Bubblebubblepoppop long ago sanitary towels were big bulky things made of cloth with a sort of mesh covering them.
They had a loop at each end and you had to wear an elastic belt around your waist with 2 hooks that the loops fitted into so they stayed in place.

I had a friend (back in the 90’s) who’s parents threw her a party when she lost her virginity. Now that’s weird parenting!!!

I am quite weird, so I'm not sure how much you want to value my opinion but I think it's a really lovely idea.

I'd maybe get her something but not something like a blood drop, that's just weird. Like anyone wants reminding of their period.

I do feel sad for girls who never knew what periods were until theirs started.
I know schools do "sex ed" and thankfully give helpful lessons about it.

Even my boys knew about periods by the end of Primary school, just explained to them enough that they were aware if and when their class mates and sister would have periods.

Buy her a nice little care basket with a cute hot water bottle and some really comfy pjs and some nice smellies etc.

Buy her a special necklace for her birthday, whether she's started her period or not.

I think its completely bonkers and your daughter will probably think so too. But defos the kind of thing that as an adult she'll find special- a nice memory. I say do it.

I didn't dare putting it like that
but yes, absolutely this.

Did the same google search point out that 90% of girls start by the time they are 13.46 years old? So… if your daughter has not started yet, she is in the 10% who haven’t. I think you should be less concerned about buying jewellery and take a sensible moment to just consider whether she is of a healthy weight, eating a balanced diet, not anaemic etc.

I think, and this was what you asked in your OP, that yes it is very weird parenting to be so focused on trinkets that you are thus defensive at the suggestion that you should consider double-checking DD is ok.

When I was a day from age 13 half way down the stairs something happened. I went to the toilet and saw it for the first time. I shouted on my mother. She proceeded to pass me in a sanitary towel & said that's your period started I'll buy you your own now. That was the end of it. I liked it cause there was no fuss and she made it feel perfectly natural.

My mam bought me a little mini make up bag to keep my pads in for my school bag, that was sweet. I'd have been mortified at a piece of jewellery.

I think it is quite sweet!

A belt? Sorry I'm lost... Why?

There were no sticky pads, they had loops to attach to a belt to "keep them in place".

(In the loosest possible meaning of that phrase!)