Is this weird parenting?

I’d find that extremely weird and I’d have been mortified if my parents had felt the need to commemorate my some blood coming out of my fanny with a piece of jewellery. I think I just got a big sympathetic cuddle off my mum and my dad got told to add extra pads to the list for the weekly Tesco shop.

I don’t really get the whole ‘periods make us special, wombs are amazing, women’s bodies are incredible’ thing at all, though. It’s just biology. It’s not an achievement and I don’t think periods are any more of a miracle than having a shit. I’d much rather never have had to experience them.

I just find ‘Congratulations, now you can reproduce’ quite an odd celebration. If you had a boy, would you buy him something to commemorate his first wet dream?

I was nearly 16 whenI started my periods. I did long distance and fell running.

I didn't even tell my mother because I was almost an adult,why would I?

WTF

I think if your phrase it as a " well done on your transition to womanhood" gift , it is a bit weird. I think if you phrase it as " here I got you this to cheer you up" it's slightly better. Just make sure she's not expecting a 115 pound necklace every month !!

I don’t think many teens would appreciate a drop of blood 🩸 necklace for a beginning their period present.

I think it's a lovely idea

I mensturated for 35 years and never had any 'hormonal shit'.

So do not give your daughter the idea that womanhood is something that must be endured.

That really annoys me.

I think it's a really lovely idea! Better than hot water bottle and chocolate to reinforce that for the rest of her menstruating life effectively one quarter of it can justifiably be spent comfort eating chocolate and wallowing on the sofa 🙄

As some other (rather unkind) posters have pointed out the phrasing of the gift will be key in her mental framing of it - "period necklace" ffs! 🤦

The more of us who can get our daughters to see periods starting as a positive milestone the better, too much negativity already associated with being female imo.

The necklace is beautiful too, Op 😍 just editing to add I would actually get her a necklace in her birthstone from somewhere like Etsy instead, though - much more personal to her and less likely to be linked to blood! (unless her birthstone is Ruby 😆 most months have a couple of stones associated)

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It’s a nice idea. Many cultures throughout history have marked such transition.

No. Bit weird. I’m another vote for her favourite chocolate and a hot water bottle!

But she’s not ‘a woman’ just because she’s got her period. You’ll probably freak her out.

And….did you choose this because it looks like a drop of blood?

I find it very weird, but then I'm of the generation that never spoke of these things.
Except for whispering about it with my friends....

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I was 9 when I started my periods in 1976 and sanitary towels did not have a sticky back, they were held in place with a belt! They were also the size of a house brick! 😬😂

yup, the Leslie Kenton era.....I don't think it was as common as the books made out......

Ew. This is so weird

I think she'd be mortified. Most girls like that to be kept private. I wouldn't over-emphasize her starting her period anyway. It doesn't signify becoming a woman in our culture. I'd give it to her when she becomes a teenager, for her thirteenth birthday.

That's what 18 and 21st birthdays are for. In the UK, we tend to see children as children. The rituals were about taking on adult roles. The boys would go hunting and fight in battles, the girls could be married off. Girls in many countries will have to spend their periods out of the family home, in a shed etc. They will have to leave education.
We used to have debutante ball, so girls could go to the highest bidder. Thankfully we now just see it as a biological change. The hormones rage well before pads are needed. Many girls have started in my GC's class, aged 9/10. They are at least eight years away from womanhood.

I think some jewelry to mark it, is a lovely idea. A keepsake. Agree with PP, it will be nice for your DD to look back when older, and appreciate the gesture. A nice memory for you both. It's not weird at all.

I’d make her a care package instead. Some different pads and tampons to try out, a hot water bottle, some chocolate, maybe a face mask, and some paracetamol and ibuprofen for if she needs them. Something to make her feel more comfortable about her period.

It's a nice necklace. If you go ahead I would not frame it as her 'transition to womanhood'. I still remember with horror what my dad said to me the day I started my period 'i hear you became a woman today '. It makes me cringe as much now as it did then.
Maybe just buy her some choccy or a fluffy hot water bottle when she starts her period and just give her the necklace as a 'i saw this and thought you'd love it' gift.

If she's that far behind her friends it may just feel, to her, like a "congratulations on finally catching up" thing.

Chocolate, carbs, a sappy film, a pj day, hot water bottle or microwave cushion, a gentle bit nice face wash and cream (cos we all spot up with them), and things to actually help her with it would be better.

I'm a big fan of useful gifts. Something that will help you through. For example what I remember from having DD is who brought us a massive box of wipes or who fed me. I couldn't tell you who bought which outfit for her most part and so on. From when I first came on I remember my mum cracking open my favourite ice cream and telling me that I would find it hard but to do what felt good while it was happening. Not whether anyone bought me anything.

Oh my god 😂😂😂