Is this weird parenting?

Pretty narrow minded.

I never minded having my period; it made me feel in sync with the universe.

Planting the notion that it's some sort of horrible burden and that we are helpless victims of hormones is now how I would parent a young girl. Why not encourage her to be fascinated by her changing body and OK with what it does?

It’s another bit of weird parenting, I guess. You did pose the question. Most people answered yes. If you have to ask then there’s probably a part of you that sees it. But you know your DD and so are best placed to know whether she’ll find it weird or not.

I believe it's a smaller percentage of women that have bad periods so I would see no point in starting the "nuisance" and "periods are shit" mindset from the off?

unwanted regular bleeding

HOW can that be anything but a nuisance for most women, if not pretty much all.

It's not a mindset. It's a fact. WHO would ever say "I need to wear tampax/ a pad/ mooncup for the next few days, yipee!" unless they were worried about an unexpected pregancy

I actually think it's a lovely idea , it's a big change in a girls life , if.you think she'd like it then why not

I was 11 - Mum got me a new colouring in book to take my mind off it. DD was 11 and it happened on a city break abroad - I got her a light raspberry beer as she was an adult now 😂

Batshit.

I think it's lovely. It is a milestone of sorts. She'll remember it and who knows maybe when/if she had a daughter she will do the same.

Wet dreams are a sign of sexual interest not puberty in itself. Why do people have to compare the two. So unnecessary. It's more comparable to their little crap moustaches that they're ever so proud of

I think it’s a lovely idea op.

Some religions and cultures mark an entry into adulthood, such as in Judaism with the Bar and Bat Mitzvah, and so I don’t think your suggestion is at all strange.

I would not have liked this at all. Also, your taste in jewelry needs....... Adjustment.

Is that like those shag bands we all used to wear? 🤔

Absolutely weird, don't do it

I think it's nice.My eldest would have loved this.My youngest would have raised an eyebrow.

When I was a teenager, I definitely did not want a big deal (or any deal) made over the fact that I started my period

You know your daughter best but I would have hated this as a child (though it's a lovely thought!). I reaaally didn't want people to make a big deal of it when I started my period.

Easy access to pads or period underwear, her choice of food for dinner, and being understanding if she's a bit emotional or snappy might be more helpful in the moment.

@JillAndJenTheFlowerpotMen I think marking the transition to puberty and growing up is lovely. Lots of cultures do it. It’s such a shame menses have been hidden and talked of negatively in our culture for so long.
When our DD started, around the same time as a couple of friends, we had a low key celebration as families together.
Do whatever feels right for you and your daughter

Now this is Definitely an idea I'm going to go with! 🤣😂

I think there's a lot of baggage with the word woman which there shouldn't be. On you way to becoming a woman is accurate. The problem is is that it has traditionally meant more than that, or been used to denote more than that at least.

It reminds you of the sort of man who used to say things like "if she's old enough to bleed she's old enough to breed" 🤮 And it shouldn't, it should be a neutral term. It IS a neutral term.

If your son gets some bum fluff and everyone kids and says "look he's a man now". It doesn't freak anyone out. Because man is a neutral term. You wouldn't post that we shouldn't say that to him.

Lots of cultures celebrate the onset of menarche. It's seen as a rite of passage.

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Of course I've had periods 🙄 pretty much out the other side now in fact, but was appreciate that I was able to use tampons and latterly a mooncup so my periods were relatively trouble free and certainly never stopped me doing anything.

If periods are genuinely really troublesome then obviously that should be addressed but I believe it's a smaller percentage of women that have bad periods so I would see no point in starting the "nuisance" and "periods are shit" mindset from the off?

It's exactly the sort of thing I'm talking about in our society in fact!

I really, really dislike the phrase '...to mark her transition into womanhood' when talking about children. It's wrong on so many levels.

When my DD had her first period, we went and bought some sanitary towels and a doughnut, and chatted about how she feeling on the walk home. No drama, no 'ceremony,' just positive, pleasant and led by her.

I would have disliked the necklace idea intensely and I would have been very upset about being told that I was 'transitioning into womanhood.' I was a kid and happy to stay one for a good while yet.

A couple of years ago my friend told me her DIL had given her daughter (my friend’s granddaughter) a “promise ring.”
A promise ring? I asked, believing that those rings were what young men gave their girlfriends before they became engaged.
She told me no - a promise ring (in their mountain community) means the daughter promises to never have sexual intercourse before she’s married.
She wears it on her left hand ring finger.
Tfe little girl was 13 years old.
And it’s pretty weird. My friend had her first two children out of wedlock - I wonder how that really made her feel beneath all the excitement.
I didn’t say a word except “that’s good.”

I am definitely going to buy myself a present when the damn things stop!