Is this weird parenting?

Extremely helpful for talking to my DD about her first period, made it not embarrassing (and my daughter gets very very embarrassed)

Weird. Just get her a small basket of practical things like pads and a pouch to keep them in for school, period pants, some snacks.

I think giving her a womanhood necklace might make the subject a bit more awkward around her. It would help to support your teen through this transition more practically. You can have a casual chat about what to expect, be calm when she does get it but help her in ways that will makes things easier for her. Get her a period kit, a period tracker. I recommend you read this article about how to talk to your teen about first periods x

Definitely odd. And the necklace is not a style that modern teenagers would ever wear, and even more so for what it's supposed to represent! I would have been embarrassed and horrified.

My beloved mother was very positive about my starting periods - "Ooh youre a woman now". She wasn't a feminist (probably the opposite - very traditional views on male and female roles) but I felt that this was a very positive instinctive and insightful reaction (this was about 60 years ago) . I did the same for both my daughters- bought them simple gold pendants.
I think it's weird that some people think celebrating the transition to womanhood is weird...

My mum gave me a necklace when I started my period and I experienced it as a lovely thing. I was only 11 (it was a simple small silver pendant) and she didn’t make it about entering womanhood but she probably talked about it being a big thing I was going through or similar. Contrary to what pp have said it (and probably her general approach) did remove some of the awkwardness/embarrassment for me and I still remember it fondly so I don’t think it’s weird parenting at all.

The one the op was thinking of buying isn't red, it's pink and comes in other colours. I think it's very pretty but a bit much/expensive as a first period gift. Something simple, pretty, in a nice bag would be more appropriate.

When I started, I remember being super embarrassed. My mum seemed so pleased as she gave me bulky pads and a sanitary belt! Yes, I'm that old! It was so cringe! Even if she had given me gold, diamonds, or rubies, it would not have lessened the excruciating embarrassment I felt.

Perhaps keep that pretty jewellery for when she turns 13 or something. Then it will be associated in her mind as a valuable reminder of mum's love and support through often turbulent teenage years.

Bit cringe. Especially it being a red droplet necklace.

Well, it wouldn't be something I would do. OP, maybe she doesn't want you drawing attention to it. It's pretty personal stuff. I would rather have drilled my own teeth than share that sort of a conversation with my dm.

Can't you just fill a hot water bottle for her, and put the money towards holiday fun money.

If u want her to think u r a nutter and not talk to u again.

In many South Asian countries, menarche (first period) is a massive thing to be celebrated with auspicious activities and a party. The girl receives lots of gifts, generally lifeling ones like gold and jewelry. Although I never got anything for my twin girls when they each got their periods, my ex-husband got them a pair of diamond earrings. I thought it was nice. Of course, we're both from that culture.

Lol!!!!!!!

Yes!

When I lived in Greece for a while as an au pair, I noticed that the transition to womanhood was celebrated. Girls going through puberty were made to feel special and they were given gifts. In this country, it seems to be ignored and treated as something we shouldn't really discuss, like its an embarrassment. If your daughter is into gold jewellery, then I think it is a lovely gesture.

This is a great idea. Then, when she loses her virginity, you can buy her the matching earrings to complete her womanly set.

I think that buying a necklace or doing anything to 'celebrate' your daughter's first period is strange, yes. It would would be like your parents celebrating your first pubic hair, or first kiss or losing your virginity. That is nothing whatsoever at all to do with shame. Of course, periods are nothing to hide or be embarrassed about at all. They are fairly ordinary, but private. Private is not all all the same as shameful or embarrassing.

And believing that periods signify the start of womanhood is medieval and weird. I would have been freaked out if my mother had said this to me and I would never had said it to my DDs either. Because it just isn't.

Period shame & buying a celebratory necklace are discrete issues. Buying a necklace celebrating commencement of menstruation doesn’t debunk period shame. It is an emphasis that @JillAndJenTheFlowerpotMen has that her daughter may not share

I think having periods needs to be de-shamed - we need to be able to discuss this with young people without embarrassment so we don’t pass on the shame to subsequent generations. I’ve already said above that I think op’s idea is lovely. Recently my 18 year old son’s girlfriend phoned him for support about period pains (he was at a loss as to what to recommend 🤣) but the point was they were both able to discuss her period without embarrassment- in fact he and I chatted about it after the call and then talked a bit about menopause as well. OMG I’d never have spoken about periods with my parents or boys of my age. I don’t think anyone under 50 even knew what the menopause was. In a roundabout way I’m saying the OP is doing her bit to dispel the shame and embarrassment around menstruation.

I made a gift box for my Daughter with a book on puberty changes, and a selection of feminine hygiene products- so she was prepared for when the time come.

A necklace?
I was very clear it’s a ring she wears on her finger.
I have no idea what you’re referring to when you’re asking “what the connection is.”

yeah I dunno. It was marked because the girl is now fertile and can be handed off to a man to procreate really wasn’t it? Let’s just call it puberty and treat it as a normal part of life, personally.

I haven’t RTFT but I was given a bunch of flowers (the first time I was ever given flowers, as they were something grown ups got!)

I don’t think it’s weird to try and turn it into a positive coming-of-age moment instead of focusing on potential negatives of getting periods, but I think a keepsake for that specific occasion would be weird to be honest!