To move DS for the last term of school nursery?

Have you given your permission to wallop O back? My ds was having trouble with a child who was very handsy, we told him to whack him back. I laid my position out to the teacher, saying her methods hadn't worked so we'd be employing our own.
You know what, one good whack and the boy left him alone. I'm not an advocate of violence, but in my instance it was the only thing that worked.

I would move him. My daughter went to school with no children from her private nursery, and she has been fine, with plenty of friends now in primary 6.

Couldn’t agree more!

Unfortunately this "oh well" approach is the problem. Stop damaging the hitting child and the children being hit, enforce discipline. A weird recent training approach encourages some teachers and TAs to consider it isn't bullying when a child has additional needs, but the impact on the children being hit is identical to getting bullied; they are injured, they are sad, and their self-esteem is damaged. Telling those children they didn't shout "no" correctly while the kid thumps them daily and staff shrug is pathetic. The hitting child needs to be given consequences; sat down with writing, no outside play, sit with TA for 20 minutes, no cars play, or whatever works for that child for them to learn the answer is NO you do not hit other kids. Clear explanations "you may not do X today because you hit Y".

Move him, poor thing.

While you’re waiting for it to go through you could coach your DS on how to deal with O. If O hits him he is to give him a massive wallop back, etc. but really emphasise that he is not to be aggressive or hit anyone else. Teach him not to start fights, but to finish them. Sometimes a softly softly approach just won’t work when you have to send your children to school with yobs.

Move him. He's clearly very unhappy. Don't underestimate the impact this is having on him.
You say he makes friends easily, so will likely settle quickly.
And yes, there may also be bullies / very tricky kids at nursery C but overall he'll be in a better position than now.

My DS was bullied in primary, school were ineffective, and we eventually moved him. He is thriving now, and we regret not doing it sooner.

Why do you think school C wouldn’t take him? If you’re applying directly from the nursery you have a good chance

Attending a school nursery has no bearing on whether or not a child will be offered a place at the school for reception.

Why do you think school C wouldn’t take him? If you’re applying directly from the nursery you have a good chance. At such a young age I wouldn’t worry about moving him, they make friends very quickly. But as someone mentioned there could be another O or even a few at the new nursery. I’d go to the head again of the current school and if no luck then the governors. I’ve known nursery children to be suspended for poor behaviour. It’s rare but does happen if the poor behaviour continues and parents aren’t supportive of the school.

Move him.

kids adapt really well at that age but get him away from the unpleasant experience.

Yeah I agree with this.

I would be on to them every single day. I’d ask for meetings with teachers, parents, managers. I’d write emails documenting it all. Honestly I’d be the biggest pain in their ass until they sorted it out.

I work in early years and have worked in 3 different nurseries with friends at other nurseries and I can assure you there is an O at every nursery or school.

personally I wouldn’t move my child but would encourage them to be more verbal when this child is near them.

staff do our best but to say that a nursery child is a bully is wrong, the bullying word is banded about far too much.

The O we have has additional support needs, needs 1-1 support which the LA won’t provide, their communication is minimal which is frustrating to them, we obviously can’t discuss behaviour with other parents so it may appear we aren’t doing anything to support or stop this child but I can assure you we do.

I would be at nursery everyday asking what they are going to do to safeguard your son from X. What is their behaviour management policy, anti-bullying policy.

You can state that there may be reasons why X targets your DS but it is their responsibility to protect your DS and deal with X not for your DS to suffer to daily.

There may be space, but are you sure school C will actually let him join for such a short amount of time? Especially as he's not attending the school for reception.

Personally I’d pull him out now if it is that bad and causing your child distress. Roughly 12 weeks is a VERY long time to a toddler.

yes weigh it up against disruption and starting Reception etc, but that age can be very social and resilient to making new friends.

Does he go to nursery every day?
Also depending on where you live it is only 7 and a bit weeks assuming you can't move him until after half term.
I am not sure I would go through a move where he might find it hard to settle (this term in school nursery is the hardest as some will have been there since turning 3 and will be ready to move up to reception, while others who have only just turned 3 and never been to nursery will have just been given free places this term and find it hard to settle if they have never had childcare before. It is also the fullest school nurseries generally are which also means supply staff are also sometimes added in to keep up ratios but may be less familiar with the setting and how it all works).

Also I hate to say it but there are a lot of O's in schools. As someone else pointed out, it might be how the school deals with these children that makes a difference, but with so many funding cuts there is often not the resources e.g. staff to be watching 1:1 unless they have an EHCP. It is quite possible that things will get better for O as they move into school and maybe they do have needs that nursery are noting and trying to get provision in place for. It could be that your child starting school B with no nursery may be a school taking on children who haven't been to nursery before or have been to other settings who may not have been so keen to start any process in diagnosing children with additional needs as it had no long term impact for them in terms of moving into the school.

I wouldn't move him for one term tbh but maybe break it up if you have some leave you can take from work. There could be O's or worse in school C!

You won’t be able to use the funding for the second place, as first nursery would of been paid for the full term. So you’d need to pay but if you can afford it I’d move him.

I wouldn’t be moving him, I’d be demanding that school A sort the bullying. If it’s continuing, then they haven’t done enough. You shouldn’t have to move your child to accommodate their inability to effectively manage what is a very common issue.

I have to tell you there will always be a bully, there will always be a discrepancy as to how it is dealt with , there will always be a need to equip your own child with dealing with it strategies,there will always be a need to be rational about this. Are you going to move him at every little hiccup over the next 13+ years? Are you always going to listen to everyone else ?

Three months is a really long time when you're that age so I would move him. It shows him you're listening to him and taking care of him.

He will also widen his circle of friends and gain confidence.

I think move him. If there's only two nurseries for children this age, he might already know someone there, or someone from the school C nursery might also end up going to school B. Plus it sounds like he was ok moving from old nursery to his current one. I think it'll be good for your son to relearn being in a nursery environment is fun / ok / safe before he moves on to reception.

I'd move him too. Where do most children who are going to School B go to nursery? Any chance you can get him in there? That way, it's not just a move to escape Child O, it's a positive move to help your DS get to know his future classmates before starting school, and ease his transition there.

That isn't true. There may not be any restrictions depending on switch (school to school for example), and if there are then the local authority can approve a move - which they should do if it's due to bullying.