Drunken Friday night argument - who was in the wrong?

There is nothing more to be done. Apologizing was the right thing to do, but the person you are apologizing to doesn't have to accept your apology.

I think you need to mentally prepare yourself for this relationship to be over. You may both have crossed the line, but you threw the first stone.

You are either a wind up, or a straight up scum bag OP. Self awareness of a bag of mouldy sprouts.

Completely agree, it’s exactly what she is doing

You truly don't get it, do you?
What he said wasn't worse. It isn't even Stevens.

He doesn't really want to shag your mate/ see her in suspenders/ whatever.

You criticised his sexual prowess and had ready, as a fine example of how to do it better, his friend. Whom you were supposed to be meeting the next day. That was who you mentioned.

He was shocked, embarrassed and hurt at your readiness to name him. So he went overboard and said comments about shagging his wife. Not ideal but totally, totally in context. It was to DEMONSTRATE HOW HE FELT. Not because he wanted to sleep with the woman in question.

It's a lot easier to move on if you can give a proper, heartfelt apology rather than a dismissal.

Well, maybe your husband didn’t mean it either.

So just chill. And join the Pioneers.

Priceless. 😂

im wondering what his life with you is really like, if this is what youre like minimising how he feels or at least telling him how he feels , if he were my son id be telling him to leave without a backwards glance

That simply isn’t true, I’ve never thought of him like that

Comments do not come out of nowhere, you would have had to have thought about him

You majorly crossed a line and now are annoyed with HIM because he’s not reacting as you think he should. Give him time, what you said was extremely hurtful and it’s not a good look for you to be instantly annoyed at him again because he hasn’t accepted your apology, which it seems you were only happy to make when others pointed out you were in the wrong, and have then flipped right back to being annoyed at his reaction. Toxic!

Maybe you can say that to your partner too!

Ouch. What you said was pretty awful. He’s retaliated, I’d say that’s what you deserved. I can’t imagine raising a friend’s name during a discussion about sex, very poor of you.

You’ve said something you can’t take back, about one of his close friends, who he presumably sees often. It’s clearly something you have thought about before whereas his comment was in retaliation and designed to try hurt you like you did him.

You’ve potentially screwed up a friendship for him, probably made him paranoid going forwards and upset him. The fact that it was you who walked off sulking, expecting an apology and are now annoyed that he’s not woken up this morning and is over it is fucking batshit.

Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. You have a lot of apologising and repairing to do.

He's not being pathetic, he's deeply hurt by you.
You are in the wrong,not him. He simply retaliated to your awful comment. The fact you can't see what you've done wrong is really sad. He deserves better.

I bet you wouldn't want to show him this thread would you because people are mostly on his side.

Definitely do this.

You’re either a troll or one of the most clueless people I’ve seen post in a while.

Go up and tell him his mate would have forgiven you by now, in for a penny and all that

OMG you sound awful

You still seem to not get it saying he us pathetic sulking .christ he can sulk if he wants you said you imagined his nate doing this in bed .1your were a complete tit for saying it .2 men gave fragile ego you picked the worst insult ever .3 he may be thinking seriously about your marriage sorry but if he thought it was rocky you may have killed it dead or if it was good you still have hurt him deeply snd he only said what he did out of retaliation sorry but you deserved that one big time but you still seem to be thinking he is in the wrong .if your Marriage recovers for christ sake don't drink again

Well and truly 😁

just go ahead and do things rather than consult me

Also he'd be beyond foolish to ever do that with someone with your attitude to things .

It’s a sunny bank holiday weekend and he is sulking about a clumsy/throwaway drunken comment which I didn’t mean and have apologised for

But you did mean it, you had obviously thought about what is friend must be like in the sack previously…..the comment didn’t come out of nowhere
You had been thinking about his friend in this way and you drew the conclusion that he would be more assertive than your partner in bed and therefore better in your opinion

Don’t try and minimise your comment by saying that you didn’t mean it and blame your behaviour on alcohol, you did mean it

You need to apologise - you started it by mentioning the friend. Wild that you would think that’s reasonable.

He didn't say that did he? He said he imagined her arse would look good from behind.