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To think voluntourism needs to be called out?

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icreaminbarnsley · 03/05/2025 07:29

I've had numerous requests this year by parents of teen dc who are going to various African countries to contribute to their crowdfunding "to help the people in [insert country]". They further explain that said child will be building schools/wells, teaching English, designing sanitation projects....but the latest I received was that their child would be "advising locals on how to set up a business". This in particular has really annoyed me, as the child is doing A Levels, has no business of their own, and no business acumen that I'm aware of. How can you be so brass necked and unaware to be spouting stuff like this? I totally get going to a different country is going to be a fantastic experience for the dc, but who is dressing it up to make it sound like these teens have something important to offer and are needed abroad, in areas that they have absolutely zero experience? I also get that the locals might benefit from the money that the dc need to pay to undertake such an experience, but is it really the locals who benefit, or is it the mainly the 'charitable' organizations that are based in the UK?

AIBU to feel we need to call this a unique opportunity to experience life in [insert country] and not delude ourselves into thinking the locals are benefitting from groups of western teens, who are not builders, engineers or business advisers?

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Puzzledandpissedoff · 03/05/2025 13:08

Personally I'd ask (and have) why they're not donating the cost of the trip directly to the "cause", where it could support local workers who know the issues best, and who'll be around to support it a lot longer than some teens breezing in and out

Emotionalsupporthamster · 03/05/2025 13:01

Imagine being an adult with lots of life experience and knowledge of the place you’re planning on setting up a business and some inexperienced British kid comes along with 5 minutes training and tells you how do it?! That’s ridiculous!

MoominMai · 03/05/2025 13:01

Tinyrabbit · 03/05/2025 11:44

It's a con to get money from guilt-ridden and delusional middle class parents and their naive well-meaning kids. The implicit racism is extremely offensive and most schemes put very little money into the local economy.
I know several young people who went on these schemes, teaching English in Nepal: no teaching experience or local language skills. Helping tree planting in Africa: the locals did all the back-breaking labour while the white saviours sat in an air-conditioned jeep. Animal conservation in Africa: shadowing some very skilled and experienced African workers but actually doing eff all work.
I'd have no problem calling it out if the opportunity presented itself. People in the developing world are being used as props for rich kids to feel good about themselves.

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I’m not sure this is necessarily true. Most people these days have an agenda for anything they do. Personally I think these types of parents are well aware of the limited capabilities of their little darlings lol. It’s just that it’s an excellent addition ti your child’s CV at such an early age especially where there is greater competition to even get onto certain HE courses never mind an actual job. So yeah I bet the DC does stand out with examples such as ‘facilitated building of this or that’ or ‘left a whole group of kids with an ability to now converse fluently in English’ and also shows ability to be independent at a fairly young age away from parents and understand issues like infrastructure, economics, urban/rural planning etc. And of course to have this life altering opportunity funded by others - well, what’s not to like?! 😅

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 03/05/2025 13:00

GenderFluid90 · 03/05/2025 07:50

It's very "white saviour"

I agree a lot of the time It's very patronising

This sums it up nicely.

I remember a few years ago David Lammy calling out Comic Relief for doing the exact same thing.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 03/05/2025 12:58

Smallmercies · 03/05/2025 11:40

Poor people aren't a teachable moment for spoiled rich kids.

I wasn’t suggesting that they are. You’re another who has totally misunderstood what I said

Sunnyperiods · 03/05/2025 12:56

User46576 · 03/05/2025 10:11

It’s racism to volunteer at a clinic or to bold a house or do a beach clean in another country?

wow, I’ve heard everything now

It smacks of it, yes, by suggesting local people aren’t perfectly capable of doing these things themselves and need middle class western youths to show them the way.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 03/05/2025 12:55

Missey85 · 03/05/2025 12:35

It's not the bloody zoo! Thier not exhibits for your kid to gawk at! Christ almighty 😂

Presumably you meant ‘they’re’ - and you have totally misunderstood what I meant.

MyOliveHelper · 03/05/2025 12:52

A lot of them seem to loathe poor white people, especially poor white boys.

EarthSight · 03/05/2025 12:50

Of course going to Tanzania is much more interesting than helping a project in Blackpool or Stoke

@SchoolDilemma17 I agree. I see this in my own workplace where there's a disproportionally high amount of people from plummy backgrounds.

A lot of general volunteering does go on, but one or two are also particularly keen on helping refugees & illegal immigrants as that comes with a particular political stamp of approval. I really doubt that hardly any of my colleagues have stepped foot on a Council estate before, or actually been inside a Council house. They live in a soft different world.

EarthSight · 03/05/2025 12:46

How can you be so brass necked and unaware to be spouting stuff like this?

It's very very common in the middle-upper classes to do this sort of thing.

The privately school darlings have been taught that they will be the nation's next leaders. They come from people who are leaders in the corporate world or in the upper echelons of society, so naturally, why wouldn't Henry, Deliah, Caspar, or Arabella be qualified to give business advice?

Although I think that many do want to help, my opinion is that it's much more about putting an additional class marker on their C.V. It's like putting 'Secretary of student Classics society' or 'Lacrosse Captain'. It's not quite a holiday, but yet, I would bloody object to being expected to pay for this type of volunteering.

Oodielover · 03/05/2025 12:43

Out main boss at work (she's not a teen,she's an adult) was going on something like this-slumming it and building a school or something

She had the neck to ask us for donations ('only £50 folks!')

The wrote down the names of anyone who donated (it was a short list-only the managers gave anything) and kept nagging at us ('come on guys!she's doing something for the greater good!')

She's worth 25 million,I'm on minimum wage

She can pay for her own bloody holiday!

Apreslapluielesoleil · 03/05/2025 12:39

Schools have to realise it’s not charitable, it’s a money making company , and that’s all they’re interested in.

Valuable support is given via VSO and the Peace Corps, where professional agriculturists, economists, IT specialists, builders, teachers, nurses, midwives, dentists etc work alongside local colleagues. The first rule is you don’t go in telling anyone what they need or what to do.

KeenDuck · 03/05/2025 12:36

NeverDropYourMooncup · 03/05/2025 12:34

You've clearly not used the internet recently. They're already there.

All of them ?
So just to be clear, the British teenagers aren’t able to remember their own passwords but the whole of Africa does not require any further assistance with social media. Internet.
growing their online business.

That’s your position is it?

Missey85 · 03/05/2025 12:35

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 03/05/2025 11:25

I stopped contributing to these ages ago. In virtually every case, the work could be done better, faster and more cheaply by locals. I suppose the kids might be able to help with English conversation practice, but the idea that they can teach English - with no training or experience - is a joke.
Having said that, a niece did one of these, thoroughly enjoyed it - even the ‘roughing it’ aspect, and IMO it really did open her eyes as to how so much of the much poorer world lives.
But her dad is loaded and nobody was asked to contribute to the costs of her ‘jolly’.

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It's not the bloody zoo! Thier not exhibits for your kid to gawk at! Christ almighty 😂

MyOliveHelper · 03/05/2025 12:35

KeenDuck · 03/05/2025 12:32

Very.

you can ramble on about TikTok’s all you like, they’ve created millionaires out of 18-year-olds. Why shouldn’t the African teenagers be given the opportunity to do the same?

What comments do you think they'd get? You know there are hundreds of negative comments underneath an African woman putting her baby on her back. How do you think the West would handle seeing other ways of life?

KeenDuck · 03/05/2025 12:34

NeverDropYourMooncup · 03/05/2025 12:31

You ever been around British teenagers? They struggle with remembering and typing in their school password that they've had since Y7 - even when it's the generic (because they never saw the point of following instructions to change it) !School123. They aren't social media and SEO experts from sticking a doggy ears filter on a TikTok - and that's before you take into account that in Nigeria alone, there's over 107 million internet users and banking/trading use is huge.

It's not a continent of helpless eight year olds using smoke signals or sound to communicate over distances, despite what racist tropes still prevail from exactly this sort of white saviour bollocks.

I have several British teenagers living under my roof all more than capable of remembering their passwords and very capable of manipulating Google to their own ends.
Sharing that knowledge would certainly not be harmful in the context of the trips that we’re describing now.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 03/05/2025 12:34

KeenDuck · 03/05/2025 12:32

Very.

you can ramble on about TikTok’s all you like, they’ve created millionaires out of 18-year-olds. Why shouldn’t the African teenagers be given the opportunity to do the same?

You've clearly not used the internet recently. They're already there.

MyOliveHelper · 03/05/2025 12:32

SchoolDilemma17 · 03/05/2025 12:30

The criticism wasn’t about the centre, if was about her and how she portrayed herself on social media (holding a black baby etc).
https://www.bbc.com/news/entertainment-arts-47400300

I think it was a fairly poor example because he was mostly wrong, but there is also a point in there which I highlighted earlier. I love Stacey, but it didn't need to be her. It also didn't need to not be her. It should probably be some other people whether she's there or not.

KeenDuck · 03/05/2025 12:32

SchoolDilemma17 · 03/05/2025 12:31

Are you serious?

Very.

you can ramble on about TikTok’s all you like, they’ve created millionaires out of 18-year-olds. Why shouldn’t the African teenagers be given the opportunity to do the same?

NeverDropYourMooncup · 03/05/2025 12:31

KeenDuck · 03/05/2025 12:09

Yes, but I wonder what their social media content development skills are? And whether they have any experience of SEO ?
To say that these teenagers give nothing back is incorrect. M

You ever been around British teenagers? They struggle with remembering and typing in their school password that they've had since Y7 - even when it's the generic (because they never saw the point of following instructions to change it) !School123. They aren't social media and SEO experts from sticking a doggy ears filter on a TikTok - and that's before you take into account that in Nigeria alone, there's over 107 million internet users and banking/trading use is huge.

It's not a continent of helpless eight year olds using smoke signals or sound to communicate over distances, despite what racist tropes still prevail from exactly this sort of white saviour bollocks.

SchoolDilemma17 · 03/05/2025 12:31

KeenDuck · 03/05/2025 12:29

If that’s what’s needed to promote their businesses to be able to trade on a global stage then yes. It’s not without merit is it ?

Are you serious?

SchoolDilemma17 · 03/05/2025 12:30

MyOliveHelper · 03/05/2025 09:42

Stacey Dooley isn't qualified staff.

The criticism wasn’t about the centre, if was about her and how she portrayed herself on social media (holding a black baby etc).
https://www.bbc.com/news/entertainment-arts-47400300

David Lammy and Stacey Dooley

Stacey Dooley hits back at MP Lammy's Comic Relief 'white saviour' criticism

The journalist asks if David Lammy's issue with her Comic Relief posts is "because she is white".

https://www.bbc.com/news/entertainment-arts-47400300

KeenDuck · 03/05/2025 12:29

Missey85 · 03/05/2025 12:28

Will they be giving lectures on how to make dumb tic toks? 😂😂😂

If that’s what’s needed to promote their businesses to be able to trade on a global stage then yes. It’s not without merit is it ?

SchoolDilemma17 · 03/05/2025 12:28

LlynTegid · 03/05/2025 11:13

I am wondering if charitable status if it applies to such organisations should be withdrawn.

They are not charities. These trips are organised by companies.

KeenDuck · 03/05/2025 12:28

ginasevern · 03/05/2025 12:16

Still looking for a way to justify the (18 year old) white saviour eh?

Still looking to create issues where there aren’t any ?
I don’t think it’s part of the selection criteria that the teenagers have to be white from what I’ve read. So is it less of an issue if it’s a black teenager from Walthamstow?

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