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AIBU if I report a weed smoking next door neighbour?

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TwinklyNavyPoster · 03/05/2025 05:14

I (F, 27) live in a mid-terrace house with my husband (M, 30) and baby (M, 13 weeks). We have lived here for 2 years and it became quickly apparent when we moved in that our next door neighbour regularly smokes weed. I know it's my next door neighbour as whenever the smell appears, they have a specific upstairs window open and if I watch the window, I can see smoke coming from it.

I have no issue with people smoking cannabis, but I can't stand the smell. I did find our neighbours habit quite irritating from the get go as it is frequent, I can't leave washing outside to dry as it picks up the smell, and if I leave the windows open in warm weather the smell makes its way indoors. However, I hate confrontation and actually like our neighbour so I've always just put up with it.

Since having my son, the weather has improved and I'm smelling weed again more often. I'm really trying to bite my tongue, but I write this at 4:50am when I've just had to stop feeding the baby to get up and close the bedroom window in 24 degree heat because it absolutely reeks. I'm feeling really irritated and upset with my neighbour as they know we have a baby and I think it's really inconsiderate.

First and foremost, I'm worried about baby as I'm concerned about the effects second hand cannabis smoke could have on him - but I don't know if I'm over-reacting or being overly protective. Does anyone know if second hand cannabis smoke is dangerous for babies? I feel like it must be, but I'm unsure if this is just if you smoke directly in front of them - since the smoke is coming from next door perhaps this doesn't count? I will note that the window they smoke from is directly adjacent to our bedroom window, and our baby is currently sleeping in the same room as us as per safe sleep guidelines.

Secondly, AIBU if I report the neighbour for ASB? I don't feel comfortable bringing it up with them in-person and I don't know what else to do.

TL;DR - is second hand cannabis smoke harmful to babies, and AIBU if I report my next door neighbour for ASB for regularly smoking weed out of the window of their mid-terrace house?

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Agix · 03/05/2025 05:55

It's illegal to possess cannibis. I think people have forgotten this somehow. Report it to the police - they are likely to do something, they like easy wins.

We have problems here too with the fucking stench of the stuff, I'd report it but no idea who it is - suspect next door neighbour, but unsure.

Poppyseeds79 · 03/05/2025 05:49

You could try and air purifier and get an anti pollution screen for your bedroom window. You could also mention it to your HV as they might have some advice.

You could have a word with the neighbour to see if they'll not hang out their window smoking it as you have the baby in your bedroom. You could report it to the police but they're pretty unlikely to bust a recreational user. You could also report to the council as anti social behavior.

DeathStare · 03/05/2025 05:16

Report it to who?