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My 3 year old at big school nursery - worried he’s too young

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mythreeyr · 02/05/2025 22:48

My just turned three year old has recently joined a school nursery at a through school.

Before he joined, he was at a day nursery since he was a baby. The day nursery was very small. Small rooms, lots of gates going into the garden - big door system with security cameras and door bells to let you in.

it felt secure. The garden was small and all completely gated off…

the school he’s started at is absolutely huge. Huge playground, Forrest, play areas etc.

during the school day he’s in his nursery room and outdoor area which I’m not worried about. He goes to have lunch in the lunch hall which is also fine as it’s nearby.

but the after school club is my worry. There are children from nursery to year 2 who attend. It’s free flow. Some kids are outside in the yard riding little bikes, others are in the playground near a Forrest and others are inside just running around between lots of classrooms and the lunch hall. It just seems really big for him.

security wise, you just walk up to the door, which the kids can open ( they don’t, but they can ). A member of staff is usually in the room where you pick them up, but sometimes distracted doing stuff with the kids.

it’s absolutely fine for older kids. My older son is at this school too and I’m not worried. But my little one is still so all over the place, I am worried he’ll get lost. The teachers need to supervise him constantly- not like a child in year 1 or 2 of even reception. My older son was nearly 4 when he started so just seemed a bit less ‘ all over the place ‘… my little one is a little menace and loves opening and closing doors and that kind of thing.

It’s a great school, I’m just worried that he may get lost of the teachers will really lose patience with him. He’s a clever little guy, but he’s still in that dangerous phase where you do need to watch him all the time.

does anyone else have experience here, sending a child in this kind of phase to a very big school? Will the teachers be ok watching him so closely ? He’s the youngest child in the school at the moment.

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JellyNellyKat · 03/05/2025 00:37

DUsername · 02/05/2025 23:08

Genuine question here... What's wrong with you? No, really. What IS wrong with you? Are you a troll, are you having issues with your personal life? Do you maybe just struggle with reading and comprehension because absolutely nothing in the op warranted that?

No. No issue thanks. She seems to think her child isn’t coping with being in a ‘big’ school, that she moved him to. If he isn’t being looked after specifically for her liking then she should home school. Simple really.

TeenLifeMum · 02/05/2025 23:22

The nursery will have ratios and younger dc will still need a nursery member to watch the younger ones. Off the top of my head all dc under 7 count to ratios so they will have to have that covered. I’d ask them about how the manage the safety aspect with younger dc and if you’re not satisfied your dc is safe then don’t leave him there. It’s likely they have it covered though and he’ll have a blast.

Roastiesarethebestbit · 02/05/2025 23:19

I’d be concerned too. It doesn’t sound like the right environment for a 3 year old. Our school doesn’t accept nursery children at the wraparound care clubs. Who is staffing these sessions? And what are the ratios? I think I’d be keeping them at a day nursery/ pre school setting, or finding a childminder who could pick up from the school nursery.

DUsername · 02/05/2025 23:12

Anyway, to answer the op. I can see why you're concerned - especially the door if you're saying they can literally open the door and exit the school.

Could you speak to the school about it? I know he's the youngest but they must be used to looking after 3 year olds. Perhaps they are more heavily supervised than you realise.

I also agree with a pp, might it be worth keeping him in the smaller setting a little longer?

Overthebow · 02/05/2025 23:12

Why is he going to school nursery so young? It does sound too big for him at just turned 3, almost 4 would be a better age to send him.

HiCandles · 02/05/2025 23:10

That does sound like worrying. Can he go back to the nursery? Ours has a preschool as part of it for children 3-school start.

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Genuine question here... What's wrong with you? No, really. What IS wrong with you? Are you a troll, are you having issues with your personal life? Do you maybe just struggle with reading and comprehension because absolutely nothing in the op warranted that?

User79853257976 · 02/05/2025 23:07

Why did you move him? It does sound like the previous setting was more suitable.

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