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To think that not speaking to your own son is not a good look for the King ?

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Marmaladelover · 02/05/2025 21:08

Don’t get me wrong I think Harry has been a bit of an entitled burk but even so I was shocked that there has not been a reconciliation between Harry and Megan and the King and Queen at least to be civil to each other .
Refusing to even speak just seems like sulking to me !
That said I don’t think Harry telling the world and washing yet more dirty laundry in public is going to help matters .

Maybe some folk will think this comment belongs in the Royal Family thread rather than AIBU but it’s more about mumsnet standards ( sulking is not good ) and whether they should apply to those in high office .

Even JFK and Krushev had a hotline after the Cuban Crisis !

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Mylovelygreendress · 04/05/2025 08:36

midlandsmummy123 · 04/05/2025 08:27

That's not true, he wasn't happy about it but there are several photos of them together shortly afterwards.

Did William say he wasn’t happy about his Dad marrying Camilla or are we relying on Harry’s version ?

Ukisgaslit · 04/05/2025 08:33

William called his mother paranoid- feeding directly into the Charles and Camilla smear campaign against Diana

midlandsmummy123 · 04/05/2025 08:27

Mylovelygreendress · 04/05/2025 08:23

Diana embarrassed the RF and , most importantly, William with her extra marital antics . William refused to speak to her after the MB interview.
W and C seem close to Camilla .

That's not true, he wasn't happy about it but there are several photos of them together shortly afterwards.

Mylovelygreendress · 04/05/2025 08:25

A quick google search. ( maybe run a caption competition?)

To think that not speaking to your own son  is not a good look for the King ?
Mylovelygreendress · 04/05/2025 08:23

ThereIsThunderInOurHearts · 04/05/2025 08:01

I suspect Camilla is the driving force of the rift and possibly the one who questioned what colour the grandchildren would be.

Whatever you think of the royals (I'm a republican in that respect), you can appreciate the pain of losing his mother so young and his father marrying the other woman who has her own family and grandchildren to prioritise. They both caused heartbreak and humiliation for his mother. They seem to be doing the same to Harry.

Diana embarrassed the RF and , most importantly, William with her extra marital antics . William refused to speak to her after the MB interview.
W and C seem close to Camilla .

Needspaceforlego · 04/05/2025 08:16

How can you blame Camilla. She seems to get on with W&K and Charles seems to get on with being a Granddad too all the DGC.
There's a photo out the of Charles suited and booted spinning one of Camilla DGC.
He's held one of Camillas DGC on the balcony which i think was at William and Kates wedding.

Diana wasn't exactly innocent going into the marriage either, married for money incredibly nieve and encouraged by her family.
What were they thinking?
Who in there right mind would encourage a 19 year old to get married to a 32 yo that they'd only met 7 times!

Ukisgaslit · 04/05/2025 08:06

JMSA · 04/05/2025 07:49

Just get shot of the whole bloody lot of them.

Agree

ThereIsThunderInOurHearts · 04/05/2025 08:01

HRTQueen · 02/05/2025 21:28

Absolutely Lesina

if we had had social media then I do believe there would have been people speaking out

it’s absolutely heartbreaking to see

another point Camilla happily entertains Jeremy Clarkson and Piers Morgan and we all know their utter vile comments towards Megan

I suspect Camilla is the driving force of the rift and possibly the one who questioned what colour the grandchildren would be.

Whatever you think of the royals (I'm a republican in that respect), you can appreciate the pain of losing his mother so young and his father marrying the other woman who has her own family and grandchildren to prioritise. They both caused heartbreak and humiliation for his mother. They seem to be doing the same to Harry.

HeyThereDelila · 04/05/2025 07:58

YABU. We only ever hear Harry’s side.

The King couldn’t speak to Harry about security because it was an ongoing court case.

And if he and the RF aren’t speaking to him more generally it’s because they know him and Mouthpiece Meghan just put everything online and out in books and interviews. I wouldn’t tell him anything either. H&M chose their path. Very stupid and shortsighted.

Mylovelygreendress · 04/05/2025 07:52

Remember, we only have Harry’s version of the situation !

JMSA · 04/05/2025 07:49

Just get shot of the whole bloody lot of them.

CaptainFuture · 04/05/2025 07:48

BMW6 · 04/05/2025 07:38

I'd say Harry's beyond awful behaviour is garnering tremendous support for KC and the rest of the Royal family. Most families have a Twat so huge empathy generated.

Oo maybe you're on to something.. and Harry is actually playing a hugely self sacrificial long game?

Be a stratospheric twat and make the RF look better by garnering sympathy for them?

BMW6 · 04/05/2025 07:38

I'd say Harry's beyond awful behaviour is garnering tremendous support for KC and the rest of the Royal family. Most families have a Twat so huge empathy generated.

Realitydoesntcare · 04/05/2025 07:15

Ukisgaslit · 04/05/2025 07:13

Excuse me? Calm down lol

The only thing I ‘salivate’ over is the thought of the truth coming out about the Windsors and the house of cards finally falling . Harry is helpful in that area

Yes you really should calm down lol. Nothing new is coming out about his family, any thing juicy he could spill he'd be up to his own neck in too.

He's done as much damage as he could. Now he's an outcast with no family. And such a boring, stupid little man.

Needspaceforlego · 04/05/2025 07:15

Harry could have had a great life as a 'Spare' in exactly the same position as Anne and Edward / Sophie.
You wouldn't exactly say Andrew is slumming it either.

Harry's cousins all seem to be getting on with making their own way in the world. Peter has been divorced twice but the rest seem to be getting in OK.

Ukisgaslit · 04/05/2025 07:13

Excuse me? Calm down lol

The only thing I ‘salivate’ over is the thought of the truth coming out about the Windsors and the house of cards finally falling . Harry is helpful in that area

Realitydoesntcare · 04/05/2025 07:10

Ukisgaslit · 04/05/2025 07:04

@Realitydoesntcare

So Harry wasn’t lying then by your logic

I remember reading about an incident with a former royal servant - he was close to Diana . He was threatened with court action - I can’t remember why I’d have to look it up - but he stood his ground and said see you in court .
The palace then ‘remembered’ they’d been mistaken

He's done plenty of lying, and there is nothing whatsoever in my posts to suggest otherwise. But you already know that. I daresay some of his whiny shit was true, but you can't tell what's what with a proven liar and snivelling egotist.

So, as stated, he's a lying little shit, he boasted about killing people and caused security issues for himself, he whined about Willy wrestling him because he's a pathetic arse, his father must stay away from him because Hasbeen Hazza would love to cause him more harm but as Hasbeen no longer gets to speak to anybody he can no longer twist the truth to beg for attention. He harmed horses, wore a Nazi armband and spent his life getting pissed and doing drugs at the taxpayers expense, he's been trying to cash in on losing his mother for decades, aged 40 it is well and truly past its sell by date, and he marched off screaming loudly for years on end that he's left the royals but he just will. not. shut. up. And, as he is pretty much useless for any real job, he's getting angrier and more desperate by the hour and still whining about his dad in public.

I couldn't give a fuck what happens to any of them, but you should write to old Hasbeen and tell him how much you salivate at the thought of him. Nobody else cares.

Lupin4747 · 04/05/2025 07:07

HerNeighbourTotoro · 04/05/2025 07:01

But your children presumably do not go on talk shows to lie about your relationship every other week.

You have no idea if he has lied and King Charles had his moments of talking publicly about his unhappy childhood. Diana did the same, he is following the modelling from both his parents .Different times, different methods.

King Charles’s child should come first, not his job. Hard to respect somebody who puts his job and protocol above a child who has been through a very difficult childhood involving the distressing death of his mother and a very public and unpleasant parental marriage breakdown and divorce.

Ukisgaslit · 04/05/2025 07:04

@Realitydoesntcare

So Harry wasn’t lying then by your logic

I remember reading about an incident with a former royal servant - he was close to Diana . He was threatened with court action - I can’t remember why I’d have to look it up - but he stood his ground and said see you in court .
The palace then ‘remembered’ they’d been mistaken

HerNeighbourTotoro · 04/05/2025 07:01

categorychaos · 02/05/2025 21:23

Because they are a parent of said “someone”. I can’t imagine ever not speaking to my child even if they were wayward or dishonest (or worse). I’m probably very naive though!

But your children presumably do not go on talk shows to lie about your relationship every other week.

Realitydoesntcare · 04/05/2025 06:56

Ukisgaslit · 04/05/2025 06:51

@Realitydoesntcare

You say that Charles has to worry constantly about being sold out to the press by anyone around him . That is complete nonsense.
No employee can say a word- they are all threatened with legal action
We know about Diana and Virginia Guiffre, sadly.
This is what Harry speaking out is so frightening for the Windsors- the whole royalty scam is a facade and Harry can expose that . The Windsors are selling a lie of the ‘perfect family’ for the gullible and bored.
And as a republican I’d note that Harry’s main ire is reserved for the suits who surround the institution, not the family itself. He describes William and Charles as trapped . There is an argument for getting rid of the monarchy to free the individuals currently acting as ‘royals’
Louis will be next to be the spare thrown to the press to make the heir look better.

It would matter not at all if anyone was threatened with legal action if they were telling the truth. That would have zero effect since truth is an absolute defence in UK law.

And, clearly, people are NOT threatened into silence because Hasbeen Hazza went squealing and whining, for years and years, to anybody who would listen.

He's just a whining over privileged conceited horse abusing little shit who appeals to the gullible and bored. And anything he has to say about his family he has been involved in up to the eyeballs too, so he can't do them much more harm, though he'd love to.

As I am not a fan of the royals and want nothing to do with any of them, I see him quite clearly for what he is.

I live in hope that he fucks off and shuts up forever, but of course he won't, snivelling in public and begging for attention is all he has.

Ukisgaslit · 04/05/2025 06:51

@Realitydoesntcare

You say that Charles has to worry constantly about being sold out to the press by anyone around him . That is complete nonsense.
No employee can say a word- they are all threatened with legal action
We know about Diana and Virginia Guiffre, sadly.
This is what Harry speaking out is so frightening for the Windsors- the whole royalty scam is a facade and Harry can expose that . The Windsors are selling a lie of the ‘perfect family’ for the gullible and bored.
And as a republican I’d note that Harry’s main ire is reserved for the suits who surround the institution, not the family itself. He describes William and Charles as trapped . There is an argument for getting rid of the monarchy to free the individuals currently acting as ‘royals’
Louis will be next to be the spare thrown to the press to make the heir look better.

Realitydoesntcare · 04/05/2025 06:37

Pickled21 · 04/05/2025 06:24

Harry is the very definition of privilege. He just doesn't understand that he has it because of a complete lack of awareness. Having left the royal family he now has bills to pay and limited means to afford them. The royal family as an institution never learns and repeats the same mistakes. The 'spares' if you want to use the term have the best education that money can buy but rarely if ever do they end up having actual careers that can help them sustain a lifestyle to which they become accustomed. They always end up deeply unhappy as the purse strings get cut eventually and they have no real purpose. He needed to retrain after he left tge army and get an actual job.

As for his dad not speaking to him, it would be very difficult if you couldn't trust your child wouldn't blab everytime you did. He has also said some rather horrid things about his step mother whom the King appears to love beyond all else so that was never going to go down well

This.

Ukisgaslit · 04/05/2025 06:35

PrincessScarlett · 02/05/2025 23:26

I appreciate that writing a book about your family is going to put the cat amongst the pigeons. However, I find it absolutely gobsmacking that Charles won't reconcile with Harry and yet he allows his pervert of a brother to attend royal public gatherings as part of the family.

Exactly

This is who the Windsors are . Andrew is more acceptable than Harry because Andrew keeps his mouth shut . What secrets are they so worried will be revealed. William was seen driving Andrew .Andrew is welcome at public events . William is described almost daily as being ‘incandescent’ about Harry and ready for revenge . Over what? Spare was mild. Charles’ own book about his parents was far worse .
Don’t forget Charles is ( ridiculously) anointed head of the Church of England and he’s unable to set even the slightest example by reaching out . Instead the Windsors plot in the shadows . They do not want Harry to set foot in the uk - Harry is too much competition. They all scarper when he appears.
I have read Spare and he’s generous to Charles. Charles does not deserve that generosity .
I hope Harry publishes another book and does not hold back . Burn it all down

Pickled21 · 04/05/2025 06:24

Harry is the very definition of privilege. He just doesn't understand that he has it because of a complete lack of awareness. Having left the royal family he now has bills to pay and limited means to afford them. The royal family as an institution never learns and repeats the same mistakes. The 'spares' if you want to use the term have the best education that money can buy but rarely if ever do they end up having actual careers that can help them sustain a lifestyle to which they become accustomed. They always end up deeply unhappy as the purse strings get cut eventually and they have no real purpose. He needed to retrain after he left tge army and get an actual job.

As for his dad not speaking to him, it would be very difficult if you couldn't trust your child wouldn't blab everytime you did. He has also said some rather horrid things about his step mother whom the King appears to love beyond all else so that was never going to go down well