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What is your choice of bedding

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Whenwillthiscoldevergo · 02/05/2025 17:37

This is not a problem & obviously it's down to personal preference, but I'm curious if I'm doing it wrong. We have just a duvet & a couple of pillows each. No top sheet under the duvet & no bedspread/throw. Should there be a top sheet? I see so many photos of luxury beds that have all thus stuff. Dh says no to all this extra stuff as it'll all just get kicked onto the floor, resulting in more stuff to tidy up.

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Needanadultgapyear · 04/05/2025 07:40

The comfort of my bed is supremely important. Firstly a Harrison Spinks zip link super king wool and hemp mattressfirm for DH, medium for me and they are seasonal flip - so we now need to turn to the summer side. Bamboo mattress protector - electric one in winter, cooling one in summer.
A all season wool duvet so a 4.5 tog for summer and a 9 tog for autumn and spring that button together for winter we both really feel the cold. Two wool pillows to provide support and two feather to sink into. Cotton linen just a duvet cover no top sheet DH is like an epileptic octopus and ‘breaks’ the fitted sheet - untucks it every night.
Bed remade neatly every morning so you feel special when you come to bed at night.
in the depths of winter - we do live in a cold place we were still having frosts last week we have a homemade merino wool blanket that also adds a lovely weight.
DH travels the world for work staying in top hotels and he always says when he comes home that our bed is the best.

WinterFoxes · 04/05/2025 07:27

Four pillows, fitted sheet, duvet in cover. No top sheet. No bed cushions. I loathe them. They are purposeless dust- and germ-gathering, work-making estate agent naff housedressing.

I add a warm throw in winter.

Mathsbabe · 03/05/2025 13:05

I have cream bedding. That is luxury to me.

dudsville · 03/05/2025 13:04

I grew up with a top sheet and blankets, and was so frequently tangled up in them, and it was still in the days of tucked in bedding, so they were always somehow wrong, or they weren't aligned well and I was always readjusting them. Nowadays, we each have our own duvet. I like a medium duvet to myself, DH prefers a single. He keeps his 7.5 tog duvet in year round. I take mine out in the warmer weather and use the duvet as a top sheet and use a wool blanket loosely on top. Our bedding is only a 200 thread count, but it's soft, and 100% cotton, and these are the most important qualities to me.

Netcam · 03/05/2025 11:52

maggiecate · 02/05/2025 18:25

Wool duvet, mattress topper and pillow - brilliant for temperature regulation, it’s warm in winter and cool in summer. High thread count fitted sheet, cotton duvet cover. I run hot so breathability is important.

Sounds like me. We have a lovely Devon Duvets wool mattress topper with a thick wool fleece blanket on top and then a cotton fitted sheet. Wool filled duvets (summer weight in this weather, spring/autumn weight in colder weather) with cotton duvet cover. Wool filled pillows from the Wool Room. For high summer (usually July and August) we have a very thin cotton filled duvet for when the wool summer one can get a bit hot.

nyancatdays · 03/05/2025 11:46

7.5 weight duvet (our house is warm year-round), 1 medium film pillow each, all-cotton or linen bedding. I find H&M good for affordable cotton and linen bedding. I also prefer it all in white or a pale colour. No fuss or frills!

LaLoba · 03/05/2025 11:42

I used a top sheet through the night sweat years, it allowed us to sleep in the same bed as I could peel the duvet off while husband stayed warm. Now the hot flushes are over it feels luxurious not to have the faff of the top sheet when I make the bed, but I must admit the appearance was nice when I used one.

plankss · 03/05/2025 11:37

Pillows, fitted sheet and duvet. I have the cheapest duvet from Asda or Argos (I had an expensive one and simply couldn’t tell the difference) but always 100% cotton bed linen, but I don’t care about TC or Egyptian.

DappledThings · 03/05/2025 11:37

I hate top sheets. Always get tangled up in them. We have a king size duvet on a double bed. 2 pillows each. An extra blanket I crocheted in winter.

No extra cushions, never understood the point of those. In hotels they go in the wardrobe as soon as I check in and don't come back out.

And I like patterns and colour. I know lots of people like plain white but to me that can only ever be utilitarian and never luxurious or special.

Springflowersyay · 03/05/2025 11:32

I have a feather pillow and double feather duvet with cotton covers.
DH has a horrible ancient small sofa cushion with a nearly disintegrating sofa cushion cover on it, that aren’t made any more and aren’t designed for the washing machine, so we have a regular disagreement where I say it needs washing and he says he doesn’t want it to fall apart. He has a single synthetic duvet with poly cotton covers.

Our bed is currently rather gritty as the dog insisted on jumping up while he was still covered in a considerable amount of dust from where he’d been digging after a swim in the lake.

Haven’t ‘made’ a bed for 30 years, since being forced to as a child.

I can’t help with suggestions for luxurious, sorry.

QuizzlyBears · 03/05/2025 11:24

I have good quality high thread count sheets - fitted on the mattress and then a flat sheet and a duvet, with a chunky yarn throw if needed. 4 pillows - two firm and two squishy. And a great mattress topper which makes it feel like I’m in a nest!

K8Davidson · 03/05/2025 11:19

We have two pillows each and a low tog duvet (our bedroom is boiling year-round). Only white 100% cotton bedding will do, for me.

FalseSpring · 03/05/2025 11:17

I prefer linen sheets to cotton and go with the crumpled look as I was fed up of ironing sheets. I stopped using duvets as I always ended up without it in the night as partner got greedy! Now I use blankets, tucked in well so they stay put.

mondaytosunday · 02/05/2025 21:07

I have fitted sheet, two pillows and a washable lightweight duvet (I think tog 4). In winter I do put a snuggly velvety duvet cover on it but that comes off in Spring. The sheets needs to be at least 400lpi and 100% cotton.

Eenameenadeeka · 02/05/2025 21:06

We always had top sheets growing up, and I never had a problem with them getting tangled. But my husband and children must move about a lot or something, and the blankets end up everywhere and the top sheets never stay in place. So I just use a fitted sheet and a comforter that has the warm inner but can wash the whole thing.

Gimpee · 02/05/2025 20:58

We spend third of life in bed so I think we should get best bed and best quilt pillows

BCBird · 02/05/2025 18:50

Dorma Egyptian cotton fitted sheet, flat sheet, two pillow then duvet- live alone. I have a runner and two matching cushions. I treated myself during lockdown. Live alone, was unable to.see my partner due to restrictions. It perked me up. I like having a sheet over me - saves work as I don't always wash the duvet cover every time I change the bed. 😃

imnotwhoyouthinkiam · 02/05/2025 18:43

Just me in my bed. I have

4 pillows, 1 memory foam, 1 'side sleeper'/box pillow, 2 super squishy ones. I mix and match them depending on... actually no idea what. But sometimes some are comfy, other times they aren't.

Double feather duvet.

Weighted blanket, single bed size

Electric blanket folded in half to make a "pocket" for my feet. I suffer with cold feet and sometimes that's the only way to get them warm

Fleece blanket for sensory input.

I don't sleep under all of those unless it's really cold, usually curl myself around the duvet and have the weighted blanket over me.

isitmeamithedrama · 02/05/2025 18:39

I have 4 pillows, fitted sheet and duvet. I used to have pillows and blankets to “dress the bed” but they spent more time on the floor than the bed!
I do insist on Egyptian cotton bedding as my luxury item. Recent 1000 TC and its like sleeping on silk

maggiecate · 02/05/2025 18:25

Wool duvet, mattress topper and pillow - brilliant for temperature regulation, it’s warm in winter and cool in summer. High thread count fitted sheet, cotton duvet cover. I run hot so breathability is important.

TokyoKyoto · 02/05/2025 18:22

I have 100% linen - I just like the feel of it. It's slightly rough and quite substantial. Holds colour differently to cotton.

4 pillows and 2 large, square pillows for angling under knees and arms. I had a frozen shoulder for a while and sore hips. Bliss to be able to place them just the way I wanted.

I don't do a top sheet under the duvet because I find it a bit cold and uncomfortable. I think it dates from the time when bedding was blankets and an eiderdown on top.

amooseymoomum · 02/05/2025 18:20

5 pillows 3 for me 2 for him pure cotton bottom sheet duvet on top covers for duvet I am not too fussed what sort got all sorts of covers but no top sheet have tried it but with a fidgety partner, it ended up in a tangle under the duvet. if its cold in winter may put a throw on but that usually ends up being chucked off as my partner is always boiling hot. cannot be bothered with faffy pillows and bed covers

Blarn · 02/05/2025 18:18

Well, I have just come back from holiday where the nights were about 16c and the bed had a topsheet and one of those embroidered throw/coverlet things on. And I did not sweat. Even after a few glasses of wine and a few pints. So I have changed our light duvet to a topsheet and a handmade quilt that I had and it's wonderful, I am now exploring the world of quilts, throws etc.

Also going to try a wool duvet as I do like a heavy top layer.

protectthesmallones · 02/05/2025 18:16

Cotton if possible tightly fitted. A simple duvet cover, good quality 100% soft cotton, no embroidery. I hate top sheets as I fight all night and get tangled.

PonyPatter44 · 02/05/2025 18:08

For me, "luxurious " would mean nicer bedding, not more bedding. We have winter and summer duvets, with really good quality duvet cover sets, and nice pillows. I like feather pillows, DH prefers synthetic ones. In the winter we have a massive very expensive wool blanket on the bed as well.

I don't like that weird look with 3543287 cushions on the bed and extra sheets everywhere.

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