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Runto · 2025-05-02T13:45:45+00:00

I live same building with my kids and ex. We have a big flat , where the kids are, and a small flat, where I stay. I see the kids and support every day for homework music food and we go out to play sport every day. Only thing The kids don't sleep as mine , because the flat is a bit small. It is possible for them to sleep in my flat but is is just less comfortable than their own bed , one couple of stairs up. The mother is claiming child maintenance because she says the kids don't sleep at mine. The mother had a job, is from a wealthy family ( inheritocratie Given the fact that I am involved 100% in there life I

Bestfadeplans · 05/05/2025 19:12

drspouse · 05/05/2025 19:04

Do we think this is him...
https://www.reddit.com/r/UKParenting/comments/1k9ydpe/child_maintenance_advice/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=mweb3x&utm_name=mweb3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

No. Although its the same theme, they aren't constantly going from first to third person and making no sense what so ever.

brettsalanger · 05/05/2025 19:09

drspouse · 05/05/2025 19:04

Do we think this is him...
https://www.reddit.com/r/UKParenting/comments/1k9ydpe/child_maintenance_advice/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=mweb3x&utm_name=mweb3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

I don’t think so. OP would have banged on about taking them outside 90% of the time. Plus- I am sure he would have dropped in ‘the mothers’ family owning a castle, for added flair.

drspouse · 05/05/2025 19:04

Do we think this is him...
https://www.reddit.com/r/UKParenting/comments/1k9ydpe/child_maintenance_advice/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=mweb3x&utm_name=mweb3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

Flopsythebunny · 05/05/2025 14:38

Runto · 03/05/2025 19:43

some people says who feed the kids. whichever fridge they open . which heating they enjoy, whichever flat they in.

@vodkaredbullgirl .When the kid sleep with the father, the father wakes up if kid unwell.

one kid sleeps on the sofa and one kid of the bed of the father. Father will sleep on an inflatable single mat. The mother says it is not okay.

It isn't OK for a kid to have to sleep on the sofa. You obviously cannot meet their needs which is why their mother is refusing overnights.

drspouse · 04/05/2025 13:47

Quick, everyone go over to r/entitledmen and give the same answers.

DenholmElliot11 · 04/05/2025 13:31

Exactly how much money are we talking about here?

FeministUnderTheCatriarchy · 04/05/2025 12:47

The fact that you are flouncing off to Reddit because you haven't got the answers here you wanted says it all.

I am thrilled that you ex has financial stability outside of you. I wish all women were in here position.

As for her inheritance? It is irrelevant and doesn't make you any less of a dead beat dad than if she was on benefits and in a council house.

You contributed to these children being brought into the world. The least you can do it provide the legally required amount of maintenence.

vodkaredbullgirl · 04/05/2025 12:24

PaintYourAssLikeRembrandt · 04/05/2025 12:04

Not sure how you've picked up on that, I don't think op even mentioned it 🤣

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Only a million times 😂

PaintYourAssLikeRembrandt · 04/05/2025 12:04

vodkaredbullgirl · 04/05/2025 11:36

I don't feel sorry for your ex, as she has more money than you 😆

Not sure how you've picked up on that, I don't think op even mentioned it 🤣

Thelnebriati · 04/05/2025 11:55

How did you two meet, and how did the relationship start. Was there a conversation along the lines of 'you wouldn't date a person like me'?

vodkaredbullgirl · 04/05/2025 11:36

I don't feel sorry for your ex, as she has more money than you 😆

Bestfadeplans · 04/05/2025 11:19

Runto · 04/05/2025 11:01

@drspouse
social services may see it as a red flag. I know a family who lives in a one bed flat and they have 5 kids. been living in that flat for a few years now. social services is aware. do you have any further questions?

@Bestfadeplans
sorry that vodkaredbulls really made me laugh. the fact that no one is telling her that there is nothing to report saddens me. Social media... you have killed it.I am going on reddit to ask the same questions and see if I have insightful answers.

Aka you haven't got the answer you want on here, despite numerous attempts at tweaking your story

ToKittyornottoKitty · 04/05/2025 11:07

Runto · 04/05/2025 11:01

@drspouse
social services may see it as a red flag. I know a family who lives in a one bed flat and they have 5 kids. been living in that flat for a few years now. social services is aware. do you have any further questions?

@Bestfadeplans
sorry that vodkaredbulls really made me laugh. the fact that no one is telling her that there is nothing to report saddens me. Social media... you have killed it.I am going on reddit to ask the same questions and see if I have insightful answers.

You had insightful answers on here, you are just too cheap and entitled to accept them.

vodkaredbullgirl · 04/05/2025 11:07

Laugh away you're a twat end of, carry on. It's the kids and you're ex I feel sorry for.

PaintYourAssLikeRembrandt · 04/05/2025 11:05

You'll probably get the answers that validate you not wanting to pay for your kids on F4J sites or MRA ones.

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Runto · 04/05/2025 11:01

@drspouse
social services may see it as a red flag. I know a family who lives in a one bed flat and they have 5 kids. been living in that flat for a few years now. social services is aware. do you have any further questions?

@Bestfadeplans
sorry that vodkaredbulls really made me laugh. the fact that no one is telling her that there is nothing to report saddens me. Social media... you have killed it.I am going on reddit to ask the same questions and see if I have insightful answers.

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Bestfadeplans · 04/05/2025 10:52

Runto · 04/05/2025 10:51

@vodkaredbullgirl
you crack me up, yk!! you have been obnoxious during the whole discussion and now you want to cancel me because I disagree with you. Thank you for making me laugh on a sunday morning. a few years back you would make me seriously depressed. We disagree. 100% disagree.I don't mind insult if you have good arguments but so far you give me the broken records (I do this to my kids) "the rules are the rules". yeah ok !!

I thought you were closing the chat?

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Runto · 04/05/2025 10:51

@vodkaredbullgirl
you crack me up, yk!! you have been obnoxious during the whole discussion and now you want to cancel me because I disagree with you. Thank you for making me laugh on a sunday morning. a few years back you would make me seriously depressed. We disagree. 100% disagree.I don't mind insult if you have good arguments but so far you give me the broken records (I do this to my kids) "the rules are the rules". yeah ok !!

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drspouse · 04/05/2025 10:17

You make one child sleep on the sofa?
You do know that a red flag for social services is no proper bed for a child.

vodkaredbullgirl · 04/05/2025 09:38

Panterusblackish · 04/05/2025 04:31

Why are you lecturing women on a support forum predominantly for women?

If this is true. Just pay for your kids.

And no, the mothers financial position does not count. You're not having the kids overnight so you owe the money.

It's simple.

Anyway, I'm reporting this thread now as I think you're full of shit.

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I've reported this thread a few times but they say it's ok 😕

MerlinsBeard1 · 04/05/2025 08:16

Referring to your ex as 'the mother' rather than 'my children's mother' or 'their mother' is all a bit weird.

Your kids want to stay in the bigger flat. Do you think it is reasonable to force them into a situation they don't want just because it suits you? I suppose you could always go to court but putting kids through that when it is against their wishes never ends well. My SC mum did this when they decided to live with us, she still swings out of parental alienation accusations despite alienating them herself.

HopscotchBanana · 04/05/2025 07:02

I'm wondering if OP is real. Keeps referring to themselves in 3rd person then forgetting and going back to me/I.

Plus, surely no one can be this thick?

Panterusblackish · 04/05/2025 04:31

Runto · 03/05/2025 18:49

@Wahsingday

Thank you for rating the cases. That last vote wasn't one of the original options, but fair enough—I'm sure that type exists. It just wasn’t included in the choices I offered. Thank you, I really appreciate it. (let me think about your rating, I will come back to you)
I’d like to make a point: when a mother with no financial need—present or future (thanks to inheritocray)—seeks CMS from a father who is fully present and actively involved in the children’s lives, that may be legally justified, but it’s family irresponsible. You could also call it:

Using legal entitlement without family consideration,
Prioritising legal rights over family harmony, or as I’ve previously said,
Weaponising legality at the expense of family peace.

What I find especially interesting is how many people in this group seem to believe that the wealth of the resident parent is irrelevant. Honestly, when someone says “money doesn’t matter” in a discussion like this (or any discussion for that matter), they often lose credibility in my eyes somewhat. That’s just "desirability bias". I also think some people here are reacting based on the usual “default narrative,” rather than actually engaging with the specific details of the case. So I’ll repeat a key point: These kids have open, easy access to their dad. They can go to his house anytime, raid his fridge, dig into the biscuit jar, and argue with him about anything, whenever they like. That’s not your standard absent-parent scenario. @HaddyAbrams—I don’t really understand the argument being made in response. But let me break it to you gently: life isn’t fair. That’s exactly why a super-wealthy mother can legally demand child support from a less wealthy father who is already giving his all—just not in pure cash (That the mother doesn't need). To me, it is the blatant corruption of the CMS.

@Spirallingdownwards Thanks. it is ongoing.

Why are you lecturing women on a support forum predominantly for women?

If this is true. Just pay for your kids.

And no, the mothers financial position does not count. You're not having the kids overnight so you owe the money.

It's simple.

Anyway, I'm reporting this thread now as I think you're full of shit.

Bestfadeplans · 04/05/2025 01:24

Of course you do. You had to resort to AI to get someone to agree with you.

ArminTamzerian · 04/05/2025 01:14

Runto · 04/05/2025 00:28

I asked chatgpt. I thought it was an interesting answer and want to share it. I will close this chat. I think we have exhausted the subject. thank you all for your views.

You can't close this chat🤨

Pay.For.Your.Children.