Disgusted by school’s response to complaint about pervy teacher - Final Update

Wow a picture of you tantrumming - is this what you were like when hardly anyone agreed with you?

I’ve read all of your replies and I conclude that your intentions were not from genuine violation or insult (far from it as you actually admit to being flattered) but rather a vindictive ploy to ensure this man is put in his place and shamed; whether that’s given a warning or dismissed from his job which is what I think you were hoping. You seem triumphant and almost gleeful to have gone in ‘all guns blazing’ which is not a good look OP.

My toes are curling at your first post and subsequent answers. 80% of people think yabu - you changed the criteria and people select after the OP.
Get over yourself

It's a fact

As any of us who have experience of dealing with "persistent complainers' have explained

This is the most astonishing thread. The vitriol and hatred aimed at the OP. She’s wound you all up something rotten. Why? Because you find her annoying? You think she’s a troll? You think she was wrong to make a complaint?
Either the anger-mongers are men’s rights activists or you’re regular Mumsnet who have just allowed yourselves to become incensed to the point of fury. Generally I find mumsnet supportive of women, especially if they’ve been subject to shitty male behaviour. But for some reason loads of pp are calling the OP a lunatic because she’s what? Made a complaint about someone. Some pp have even accused her of making him lose his job. But surely if he does get disciplined in any way that’s, you know, his fault. How can it possibly be her fault for speaking out? Have you all gone barking mad?

And you do realise she’s massively taking the piss of those in a rage.

Well, you've got what he said wrong but you've also missed the point that a lot of men in nightclubs late at night aren't looking for a date they are looking for a casual hook up, ie a one-night-stand. Some women are into that but obviously a lot aren't so it's easier to state your intentions up front. If you get a f-off you can quickly move on, if you get sexy banter back you've found a like-minded soul.

Danger is when you are very drunk you may approach someone you probably shouldn't have tried to hook up with, as happened here.

I'm laughing today because I think it's a load of shite for shits and giggles. But yesterday's was very dark, comparing teacher with a rapist and that he was thinking about schoolgirls etc. Very dark, and at least two of us who had gone through ACTUAL serious assaults were getting quite emotional about it. The comparing a very sleazy dickish remark in a pub to being dragged down an entry. I'm sure there's folk read from the beginning, I started yesterday.

Day three it's become quite obvious it's twollox so after yesterday it's being light hearted and taking the piss about it. Mind you I think the OP was loving all the back and forwards from those of us who found it too much. So yeh there is that

It's ironic that HAD you have fancied him, the complaint wouldn't have happened at all, anyway. But you wanted to bring him down anyway over his work.

You do realise they've just apologised to get you to shut up and leave them alone?

Likely laughing at you.

It did occur to me reading the previous two threads that maybe the OP reacted the way she did because she was really pissed off that the teacher made his remark and walked off without pursuing her further, leaving her feeling slighted.

However, reading this third thread in the saga, I really do have doubts now that it ever happened - and no-one can be so deluded to think that the Headteacher meant what he supposedly said, or that the Complaints Policy is going to be reviewed as a result of what the teacher said - all policies get reviewed very regularly. Headteachers are very skilled in dealing with vexacious and serial complainers and will say and do what is needed to shut them up and make them go away.

Then funny how so many people on here seem to think it’s no big deal.

She’s enjoyed winding up other posters. Why not? They’ve been vile.

It’s MN. They just enjoy a good old tear down. Fortunately OP doesn’t seem bothered at all.

😆 😆 😆 🤣 😂 😹

That’s a matter of opinion.

One of my favourite tunes 👍🏻

Self employed, shops at Waitrose, husband does what he's told. I need hear no more😂

Nope I voted YABU because YABU - you've either completely made up this whole story and we've all fallen for it. Or you are a drama queen who has misinterpreted, mismanaged and overreacted to this whole thing.

Yeh "old bags"

Another was "silly woman"

Doesn't even sound like a woman wrote that😀

Sorry too late to edit

Brothers should be frothers

If you read all the earlier threads not one person did originally, we said exactly that. I'd have told him to fuck right off .

But today its jumped the shark with the realism now so it's a bit of a party. No way did this happen!

This ‘outcome’ just reminds me of the scene in The Inbetweeners where Will’s mum goes into school to complain about him being stripped and thrown in the pond. Mr Gilbert listens quite seriously, excuses himself for a minute, and then erupts into loud and uncontrollable laughter. I would imagine this is just how the Headteacher reacted after the very lengthy phone call with the OP, probably with the teacher and Chair next to him.

Of course the Headteacher said what you wanted to hear - they tend to do that with the more ridiculous parents. And of course he won’t take any action against the teacher, other than having a bloody good laugh about how vindictive and unhinged the OP is.

I actually engaged in serious discussion on the second thread but y'know today just jumped the shark what with the swift weekend reply, OPs Hyacinth Buckets post, the cast for the film, the brothers and finally Hyacinth posting what she would do to his pearls, her husband role playing and finally being secretly flattered after her horrendous experience.

It's got everything and made me chuckle today