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Disgusted by school’s response to complaint about pervy teacher - Final Update

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SophEll · 02/05/2025 13:08

Well, well, well. I’ve had a very lengthy and interesting phone call from the Headteacher (HT) handling my complaint.

I now consider the matter resolved, I’m sure you are wondering what was said and I’ve done my best to summarise below:

-My initial complaint WAS wrongly dismissed without investigation - as the comments made related to a school interaction.

-The HT has offered me an unreserved apology on behalf of the school for the handling of my initial complaint which I have gratefully accepted, as long as it’s also offered in writing (which I’m assured it will be).

-I’m told the Chair was most unimpressed to learn of my experience when complaining and an urgent review of their complaints procedure has been ordered. The HT tells me that they’ll ensure appropriate oversight is put in place moving forward and was extremely grateful for me bringing this to their attention.

-As previously noted, they cannot share the outcome of the investigation into my concerns about the interaction I had, which is perfectly understandable. Yes, I know he’ll get a slap on the wrist at best and should be suitably embarrassed, but that should be sufficient to prevent someone else going through what I did.

The term ‘tail between legs’ comes to mind for certain posters on here - I await your apologies with bated breath!

Thanks for those who’ve offered constructive suggestions on how to proceed, this outcome is a victory for anyone who has ever had a complaint wrongly dismissed.

I’ve also thanked my DH, whilst initially sceptical his support in emailing the Chair made all the difference. I have the utmost respect for how the Chair and HT handled this so promptly.

I feel as though I can now put the whole sorry saga behind me and move forward (I’ll probably give that bar a miss in the future mind you!)

I’ve told DH to put the champagne on ice!

OP posts:
iseethembloom · 03/05/2025 18:30

Tiswa · 03/05/2025 17:37

Because her issue and her triumph isn’t about him and the comment it is about the school and her feeling slighted and the fact that because she felt slighted she didn’t care what the consequences were to anyone else. Her attitude towards everyone else and her narcissistic tendencies

Agreed. In the end, it had little to do with him. We saw this when, after being fobbed off by the school, she gloated and attempted to show off with tales of champagne and role play.

This is someone who, besides not knowing that the second participle of ‘eat’ is ‘eaten’ (“I’d have ate him alive”) is possibly not that bright, and has little power or agency in her life. She was desperate to feel she could exert some kind of power. People often behave like this when they feel overlooked or disenfranchised.

fattytoadboy · 03/05/2025 17:48

Tandora · 03/05/2025 17:31

We've experienced how easy it is for a man to be wrongly labelled a paedophile and rape has been minimalised throughout this thread.

oh please. The vast majority of posters on all three threads have been falling over backwards to defend this man and his casual misogyny.
Meanwhile the way people have reacted to OP….

Not one person has defended or excused his behaviour. Try to be factual.

CaptainMyCaptain · 03/05/2025 17:38

Tandora · 03/05/2025 17:31

We've experienced how easy it is for a man to be wrongly labelled a paedophile and rape has been minimalised throughout this thread.

oh please. The vast majority of posters on all three threads have been falling over backwards to defend this man and his casual misogyny.
Meanwhile the way people have reacted to OP….

No they haven't. Nobody has defended what he said.

Tiswa · 03/05/2025 17:37

Tandora · 03/05/2025 17:31

We've experienced how easy it is for a man to be wrongly labelled a paedophile and rape has been minimalised throughout this thread.

oh please. The vast majority of posters on all three threads have been falling over backwards to defend this man and his casual misogyny.
Meanwhile the way people have reacted to OP….

Because her issue and her triumph isn’t about him and the comment it is about the school and her feeling slighted and the fact that because she felt slighted she didn’t care what the consequences were to anyone else. Her attitude towards everyone else and her narcissistic tendencies

Tandora · 03/05/2025 17:31

CellophaneFlower · 03/05/2025 07:59

What is common sense is that this entire incident was fabricated and the OP is a very bored, sadistic individual.

We've experienced how easy it is for a man to be wrongly labelled a paedophile and rape has been minimalised throughout this thread.

Yes, mumsnet at it's worst for sure, but NOT from the majority of the posters here.

We've experienced how easy it is for a man to be wrongly labelled a paedophile and rape has been minimalised throughout this thread.

oh please. The vast majority of posters on all three threads have been falling over backwards to defend this man and his casual misogyny.
Meanwhile the way people have reacted to OP….

FrippEnos · 03/05/2025 17:11

CaptainMyCaptain · 03/05/2025 14:31

And all this is now on record should the the OP decide her 'triumph' is not enough and take it further. I'm sure the Facebook stalking, champagne celebration and role playing such a traumatic experience will go down well.

I'm quite looking forward to the next installment.

'We went out to the night club again and he was still there, I have reported him as the punishment clearly didn't work.'

The OP won't have heard him say anything but will have seen him close to women.

It will be interesting to see how far she can push the delusion.

CaptainMyCaptain · 03/05/2025 14:31

Growlybear83 · 03/05/2025 10:41

If this ever happened, and I realise it’s a big if, it was pointed out yesterday that these ridiculous threads were being discussed on teachers’ Facebook groups yesterday - does the OP seriously not realise that there’s a very good chance the Headteacher will also have read them (not necessarily all the comments, but her contributions)? I somehow suspect that her gloating and unhinged comments will add another dimension to her ‘complaint’ that has been taken so seriously 😆😆😆. I would love to be a fly on the wall at the next governing body meeting when the head reports on complaints that he has dealt with 😆

And all this is now on record should the the OP decide her 'triumph' is not enough and take it further. I'm sure the Facebook stalking, champagne celebration and role playing such a traumatic experience will go down well.

bringbackthespira · 03/05/2025 13:28

Wow what an odd lady.
I thought this when I read the first bit, the ‘triumph’ is making my toes curl.
despite the glowing career she’s clearly never filled someone full of bullshit just to get them to piss off and go away.
bet her husband leads an utter dogs life 😂

ilovesooty · 03/05/2025 12:13

SophEll · 03/05/2025 10:10

The morning after the day/night before and I’ve still got that triumphant feeling.

Also feeling a little sore (the champers before any asks, you dirty buggers!)

Not read back - are the usual suspects still whinging?

I doubt you'll be able to string your attention seeking out to 1000 posts, as you haven't achieved anything triumphant at all.

ScarlettOYara · 03/05/2025 12:02

Hoppinggreen · 03/05/2025 11:35

With a large chunk of Samantha Brick thrown in

True!

HornyHornersPinger · 03/05/2025 12:01

fattytoadboy · 03/05/2025 11:14

Yeah I agree with this actually. It’s all very Katie Hopkins now.

Hope you get the help you need op.

That's EXACTLY who OP reminds me of!

🤣👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

DappledThings · 03/05/2025 11:38

Hoppinggreen · 03/05/2025 11:35

With a large chunk of Samantha Brick thrown in

This is absolutely the combo OP is! What a dream Grin

Hoppinggreen · 03/05/2025 11:35

CanYouTurnItDown · 03/05/2025 11:18

Oh my god! Yes!! Katie Hopkins, I knew it put me in mind of someone

With a large chunk of Samantha Brick thrown in

Weekmindedfool · 03/05/2025 11:29

Sherararara · 03/05/2025 11:26

The biggest epic fantasy trilogy since Lord of the Rings.

Edited

😀😀😀😀😀

ScarlettOYara · 03/05/2025 11:28

CanYouTurnItDown · 03/05/2025 11:18

Oh my god! Yes!! Katie Hopkins, I knew it put me in mind of someone

Ah! Katie Hopkins! Of course.

Sherararara · 03/05/2025 11:26

The biggest epic fantasy trilogy since Lord of the Rings.

Lemonsqueezee · 03/05/2025 11:21

He shouldn’t have made a comment that involved the school. It was stupid and unprofessional and the head should have looked into it and spoken to him about it.

Not career ending but he needed to be told why it’s inappropriate, potentially offensive to some people, potentially reputation damaging for the profession and the school, and that he should not make such comments again. It could have been dealt with better initially.

CanYouTurnItDown · 03/05/2025 11:18

Oh my god! Yes!! Katie Hopkins, I knew it put me in mind of someone

fattytoadboy · 03/05/2025 11:14

iseethembloom · 03/05/2025 11:09

It would be good for everyone to stop feeding the troll now and for all comments to stop.

@SophEll has had her shag on the desk, her “champers” (eww, what kind of sad sack even says this anymore?), her ‘victory’ (🤭) and her ‘triumph’ (😂😂) so let’s leave her to revel in her sad, probably friendless, life.

If this was real, she is quite obviously a disturbed and difficult individual, as she’s already hinted at, I.e not holding down a job.

Yeah I agree with this actually. It’s all very Katie Hopkins now.

Hope you get the help you need op.

iseethembloom · 03/05/2025 11:09

It would be good for everyone to stop feeding the troll now and for all comments to stop.

@SophEll has had her shag on the desk, her “champers” (eww, what kind of sad sack even says this anymore?), her ‘victory’ (🤭) and her ‘triumph’ (😂😂) so let’s leave her to revel in her sad, probably friendless, life.

If this was real, she is quite obviously a disturbed and difficult individual, as she’s already hinted at, I.e not holding down a job.

WigglywagglyWanda · 03/05/2025 11:09

SophEll · 03/05/2025 10:10

The morning after the day/night before and I’ve still got that triumphant feeling.

Also feeling a little sore (the champers before any asks, you dirty buggers!)

Not read back - are the usual suspects still whinging?

No wonder you're sore

Those rocks in your cave can't be too comfy

thisfilmisboring123 · 03/05/2025 11:07

Hahaha

oh my goodness- only just come across this. I can’t believe you’ve made another thread.
How embarrassing!

Also, the headteacher spoke to the chair who then got back in touch with you that quickly- bollocks.

You’re either a liar or very fucking gullible. .

Upinthetreetops · 03/05/2025 11:05

Are you a narcissist? The way you write suggests so.
You are quite literally gleeful about all of this.
You know what they've said is just to placate you, right? They know you're unhinged and will stop at nothing to get your way, so they've told you exactly what you want to hear. I don't know why I'm bothering to even write this because someone like you will never understand how they come across to everyone else. Hope you're happy they did literally nothing and no 'investigation' will happen!
Seek to add some fulfillment to your life, this non event as taken up so much energy as you clearly have nothing else going on. Sad really.

Growlybear83 · 03/05/2025 10:41

If this ever happened, and I realise it’s a big if, it was pointed out yesterday that these ridiculous threads were being discussed on teachers’ Facebook groups yesterday - does the OP seriously not realise that there’s a very good chance the Headteacher will also have read them (not necessarily all the comments, but her contributions)? I somehow suspect that her gloating and unhinged comments will add another dimension to her ‘complaint’ that has been taken so seriously 😆😆😆. I would love to be a fly on the wall at the next governing body meeting when the head reports on complaints that he has dealt with 😆

Thanksforyourlackofthought · 03/05/2025 10:40

Final indicates the end. Not ‘let me keep adding so I get more attention.’