Disgusted by school’s response to complaint about pervy teacher - Final Update

👏 👏 👏 you were so right to persue it. It made me sick just reading it & there was no way it's was completely fine & acceptable because it was "outside school hours"

He's a cunt.

👏 👏 👏 you were so right to persue it. It made me sick just reading it & there was no way it's was completely fine & acceptable because it was "outside school hours"

He's a cunt.

Well, well, well. I’ve had a very lengthy and interesting phone call from the Headteacher (HT) handling my complaint.

I now consider the matter resolved, I’m sure you are wondering what was said and I’ve done my best to summarise below:

-My initial complaint WAS wrongly dismissed without investigation - as the comments made related to a school interaction.

-The HT has offered me an unreserved apology on behalf of the school for the handling of my initial complaint which I have gratefully accepted, as long as it’s also offered in writing (which I’m assured it will be).

-I’m told the Chair was most unimpressed to learn of my experience when complaining and an urgent review of their complaints procedure has been ordered. The HT tells me that they’ll ensure appropriate oversight is put in place moving forward and was extremely grateful for me bringing this to their attention.

-As previously noted, they cannot share the outcome of the investigation into my concerns about the interaction I had, which is perfectly understandable. Yes, I know he’ll get a slap on the wrist at best and should be suitably embarrassed, but that should be sufficient to prevent someone else going through what I did.

The term ‘tail between legs’ comes to mind for certain posters on here - I await your apologies with bated breath!

Thanks for those who’ve offered constructive suggestions on how to proceed, this outcome is a victory for anyone who has ever had a complaint wrongly dismissed.

I’ve also thanked my DH, whilst initially sceptical his support in emailing the Chair made all the difference. I have the utmost respect for how the Chair and HT handled this so promptly.

I feel as though I can now put the whole sorry saga behind me and move forward (I’ll probably give that bar a miss in the future mind you!)

I’ve told DH to put the champagne on ice!

I feel we should set in in The South, we wouldn't entertain such nonsense up here.
Should it be set up here it would go
"eey Lass, tha's reet hot, would love t' tup thee"
"bugger off or al tell tha boss"
"ahhm off"
END OF

or James Nesbitt

@Tandora

op was gunning - literally all guns blazing - to get authorities to pay attention to her. She needed someone to make her feel special, to maje her feel validated.

choosing a school she has no connection to was a soft target. Low hanging fruit.

people think schools and teachers are public property and this p1sses me right off. Stupid people who have no life just love phoning schools, trying to create trouble, with their own insignificant issues. And yes, before you ask, I consider that this was a trivial matter.

in the end, it had little to do with his sleazy ill-advised line, which she could and should have dealt with in the moment. It was all about her, wanting to be the focus of attention and drama.

But people had been so rude and awful to her for three threads straight? I feel like anyone would get wound up. People react differently, but OP’s response in my view was definitely of the normal/ human spectrum

after the harm her posts have done

see that’s just an example of the craziness that OP is understandably reacting to 🤷🏼‍♀️

after the harm her posts have done

see that’s just an example of the craziness that OP is understandably reacting to 🤷🏼‍♀️

She's been pretty awful and her joking around is just disgusting after the harm her posts have done

But people had been so rude and awful to her for three threads straight? I feel like anyone would get wound up. People react differently, but OP’s response in my view was definitely of the normal/ human spectrum

Have you actually read all OP's posts? 'She' practically became a pantomime dame by the end.

I don’t get why you are all so convinced this is fake? Surely it would be deleted if so? I thought troll hunting was against guidelines?

I don’t get why you are all so convinced this is fake? Surely it would be deleted if so? I thought troll hunting was against guidelines?

Oh PLEASE
If you've read through the whole thing you'll see him getting called a sleazy dick and a lot worse.

It was blatantly obvious it was a load of made up shite so yesterday most just had fun.

We've experienced how easy it is for a man to be wrongly labelled a paedophile and rape has been minimalised throughout this thread.

oh please. The vast majority of posters on all three threads have been falling over backwards to defend this man and his casual misogyny.
Meanwhile the way people have reacted to OP….

I went back to your original post where you were told in no unreasonable terms to get over yourself and not to damage this guy’s career.

Yet you persevered and escalated your complaint.

This had nothing to do with your child - this teacher flirted on you on a night out. A mitigating factor is he was drunk. Obviously, you’re not used to being hit on.

You were told by the head teacher that this wasn’t a school issue.

You believed you were in the right and you pushed the issue and now you are giddy with excitement that you have gotten this teacher into trouble.

I need to express how pathetic you are. Your behaviour by pushing this issue with this guys employer was to continue the narrative that you’re so attractive he couldn’t help but be creepy towards you. It’s one thing to be angry at the behaviour but it’s another thing to react with positive joy at the prospect you’ve interfered with a person’s career.

Pathetic.

This post was one of her most bonkers, and one of the most narcissistic things I’ve ever seen here.

This post was one of her most bonkers, and one of the most narcissistic things I’ve ever seen here.

For anyone unsure on the voting:

YABU - the school should have responded more strongly.

YANBU - it’s a reasonable outcome.

Agreed. In the end, it had little to do with him. We saw this when, after being fobbed off by the school, she gloated and attempted to show off with tales of champagne and role play.

This is someone who, besides not knowing that the second participle of ‘eat’ is ‘eaten’ (“I’d have ate him alive”) is possibly not that bright, and has little power or agency in her life. She was desperate to feel she could exert some kind of power. People often behave like this when they feel overlooked or disenfranchised.

We've experienced how easy it is for a man to be wrongly labelled a paedophile and rape has been minimalised throughout this thread.

oh please. The vast majority of posters on all three threads have been falling over backwards to defend this man and his casual misogyny.
Meanwhile the way people have reacted to OP….

We've experienced how easy it is for a man to be wrongly labelled a paedophile and rape has been minimalised throughout this thread.

oh please. The vast majority of posters on all three threads have been falling over backwards to defend this man and his casual misogyny.
Meanwhile the way people have reacted to OP….