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Disgusted by school’s response to complaint about pervy teacher - Final Update

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SophEll · 02/05/2025 13:08

Well, well, well. I’ve had a very lengthy and interesting phone call from the Headteacher (HT) handling my complaint.

I now consider the matter resolved, I’m sure you are wondering what was said and I’ve done my best to summarise below:

-My initial complaint WAS wrongly dismissed without investigation - as the comments made related to a school interaction.

-The HT has offered me an unreserved apology on behalf of the school for the handling of my initial complaint which I have gratefully accepted, as long as it’s also offered in writing (which I’m assured it will be).

-I’m told the Chair was most unimpressed to learn of my experience when complaining and an urgent review of their complaints procedure has been ordered. The HT tells me that they’ll ensure appropriate oversight is put in place moving forward and was extremely grateful for me bringing this to their attention.

-As previously noted, they cannot share the outcome of the investigation into my concerns about the interaction I had, which is perfectly understandable. Yes, I know he’ll get a slap on the wrist at best and should be suitably embarrassed, but that should be sufficient to prevent someone else going through what I did.

The term ‘tail between legs’ comes to mind for certain posters on here - I await your apologies with bated breath!

Thanks for those who’ve offered constructive suggestions on how to proceed, this outcome is a victory for anyone who has ever had a complaint wrongly dismissed.

I’ve also thanked my DH, whilst initially sceptical his support in emailing the Chair made all the difference. I have the utmost respect for how the Chair and HT handled this so promptly.

I feel as though I can now put the whole sorry saga behind me and move forward (I’ll probably give that bar a miss in the future mind you!)

I’ve told DH to put the champagne on ice!

OP posts:
SophEll · 02/05/2025 13:16

For anyone unsure on the voting:

YABU - the school should have responded more strongly.

YANBU - it’s a reasonable outcome.

OP posts:
FMc208 · 02/05/2025 13:16

This isn’t real 😂 I am cringing so hard at you totally misinterpreting the whole situation and thinking you’ve ‘won’ 😂 you’re an embarrassment OP.

ARealitycheck · 02/05/2025 13:16

Read between the lines. They have told you what you wanted to hear to shut you up.

The teacher isn't embarassed, the entire school staff will be laughing at you behind your back and trying to avoid you as you are clearly incredibly vindictive with far too much time on your hands.

You're an adult, both males and females make stupid, crass and inappropriate remarks while drinking. Especially in nightclubs. Can't handle a one off remark with no follow up, stay at home.

Hobnobswantshernameback · 02/05/2025 13:15

Any saga that becomes a three thread wonder on here probably stopped bearing much relation to reality about two and half threads ago

JackieDaytonaLuckyBrews · 02/05/2025 13:15

'Champagne on ice'. Fucking hell 😂

DappledThings · 02/05/2025 13:15

The term ‘tail between legs’ comes to mind for certain posters on here - I await your apologies with bated breath!
Good luck with that. I still think your attitude is horribly smug and smacks far more of joy at "winning" than any genuine wish to right a perceived wrong.

Your interpretation of what you've been told is yours and the fact they've conveniently wrapped this up so quickly suggests to me more that they've still had a quick consideration of it all, decided no further action but have given you the words that make it sound like they've done a big investigation. They've successfully placated you. Well done them!

loropianalover · 02/05/2025 13:14

‘I’m told the Chair was most unimpressed’ 🤣🤣🤣

The chair said ‘get this off my desk before the weekend’

Mapleunicorn · 02/05/2025 13:14

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Catapultaway · 02/05/2025 13:12

Yep, still bonkers 😂

Hoppinggreen · 02/05/2025 13:12

I am pretty sure I predicted this post.
Find a Hobby OP

Playdoh45 · 02/05/2025 13:12

araiwa · 02/05/2025 13:11

Tldr

"What can we say to get rid of her"

snap, my thoughts 😁

Playdoh45 · 02/05/2025 13:11

I think they may have done this because they wanted to keep you quiet and paniced where you were taking it next .....

araiwa · 02/05/2025 13:11

Tldr

"What can we say to get rid of her"