Disgusted by school’s response to complaint about pervy teacher - Final Update

Whoever said way back that this was the stuff of a Channel 5 drama was spot on.

I picture it as a minor sub plot in a wannabe show that has not got Sara Lancashire as beleaguered headmistress so the bar is in York and the op played by Jill Halfpenny who now lives in Wetherby/Ilkley/Skipton and Derek Jacobi her father in law wishing he was still school governor whinging in the background

He hasn't, for a whole variety of reasons

Thanks for those who’ve offered constructive suggestions on how to proceed, this outcome is a victory for anyone who has ever had a complaint wrongly dismissed.

I’m having a flashback to Halle Berry’s Oscar acceptance speech in 2002. “This moment is so much bigger than me. This moment is for Dorothy Dandridge, Lena Horne, Diahann Carroll. It's for the women that stand beside me, Jada Pinkett, Angela Bassett, Vivica Fox. And it's for every nameless, faceless woman of color that now has a chance because this door tonight has been opened. Thank you. I'm so honored. I'm so honored.” Don’t forget to thank the Academy and your agent, OP. 🙄

I'm not sure I'd have pursued it as far as the OP did but I do think if I was his boss I'd want to know about things he had said that related to the workplace.

If I said to a former customer that I'd always wanted to do x y and z to them when I used to have meetings with them, I'm pretty sure that my employers would be interested and would consider that I was affecting the reputation of the company, irrespective of whether they were still a customer. So I don't agree that its nothing to do with the school, and I don't agree with posters somehow saying if anything happens with his job it's the OPs fault. If you don't want to get disciplined for affecting your employers reputation, then don't do shitty things to affect your employers reputation

SO much more and the Teacher is not pervy
Your post demonstrates why people like OP are so dangerous

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You’ve just become the joke of the decade OP, not sure I’d be celebrating if I was you, I’d be embarrassed. He certainly won’t be, you’ve just made yourself the local crazy lady and he’s known as the one who dodged a bullet

“Champagne on ice” - Jesus Christ, OP, he might have been a letch but he’s probably lost his job.

It's still a complete overreaction on your part and the champagne comment just compounds how you have come across.

Irrespective of the rights and wrongs of the situation, it's you who has displayed the seto be entitled, arrogant and completely insufferable.

Exactly. How thick does she think we are. She added the vote in 5 mins after she posted when she saw it wasn’t going her way.

I’ve also thanked my DH, whilst initially sceptical his support in emailing the Chair made all the difference

I'm actually dying. Is this a BAFTA acceptance speech?

Please can someone link to the original thread?
On face value there’s a pervy teacher somewhere who’s had a smack on the wrist and nothing else but reading responses there’s definitely more to it!

No dice. YABU = you (yes, you OP) are being unreasonable. That's what people are voting. Stop deluding yourself.

YABU not " because the school should have responded more strongly"
But because you're just unreasonable full stop. HTH.

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You so desperate to prove everyone on here wrong and the school wrong. No one has ant way of knowing whether your very speedy update has any truth to it. Your 'update' suggests that the school has admitted to no proper complaints procedure. So you have any clue how many unhinged complaints like yours a typical school receives in a day. Large schools emply people whose sole job is batting way nonsense like this. In most cases the teacher concerned isn't even notified of nutty allegations like this.

You so desperate to prove everyone on here wrong and the school wrong. No one has ant way of knowing whether your very speedy update has any truth to it. Your 'update' suggests that the school has admitted to no proper complaints procedure. So you have any clue how many unhinged complaints like yours a typical school receives in a day. Large schools emply people whose sole job is batting way nonsense like this. In most cases the teacher concerned isn't even notified of nutty allegations like this.

Exactly my thoughts.

Sorry you didn’t get him fired like you hoped.

I don’t want my DC to be taught by someone who talks about sexual fantasies he had involving seeing mums at parents’ evening.

He needs to realise that teaching involves a level of responsibility outside working hours.

Hopefully he will learn from this. But he might be an arrogant dick who should not be in a classroom at all.

Sorry OP - there's probably a photo of you up in the staff room so they all know to avoid you. The man was a creep but you went well overboard.

I thought what he said was disgusting. I don't think you are looking any better by gloating.

I don’t think I’ve ever cringed so much in my life.

Nice try to skew it. 100% of people voting YABU are saying simply that. You are, and have been, unreasonable.

Is this an awards acceptance speech?

Are we still bored this afternoon op?
Sure the school are mightily relieved your dc no longer attend.

Ht just waffle really to get rid of you. 'They can't tell you' means they atre having a good laugh at you and glad to be rid

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This one of the most batshit things I've ever read on here