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Disgusted by school’s response to complaint about pervy teacher - Final Update

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SophEll · 02/05/2025 13:08

Well, well, well. I’ve had a very lengthy and interesting phone call from the Headteacher (HT) handling my complaint.

I now consider the matter resolved, I’m sure you are wondering what was said and I’ve done my best to summarise below:

-My initial complaint WAS wrongly dismissed without investigation - as the comments made related to a school interaction.

-The HT has offered me an unreserved apology on behalf of the school for the handling of my initial complaint which I have gratefully accepted, as long as it’s also offered in writing (which I’m assured it will be).

-I’m told the Chair was most unimpressed to learn of my experience when complaining and an urgent review of their complaints procedure has been ordered. The HT tells me that they’ll ensure appropriate oversight is put in place moving forward and was extremely grateful for me bringing this to their attention.

-As previously noted, they cannot share the outcome of the investigation into my concerns about the interaction I had, which is perfectly understandable. Yes, I know he’ll get a slap on the wrist at best and should be suitably embarrassed, but that should be sufficient to prevent someone else going through what I did.

The term ‘tail between legs’ comes to mind for certain posters on here - I await your apologies with bated breath!

Thanks for those who’ve offered constructive suggestions on how to proceed, this outcome is a victory for anyone who has ever had a complaint wrongly dismissed.

I’ve also thanked my DH, whilst initially sceptical his support in emailing the Chair made all the difference. I have the utmost respect for how the Chair and HT handled this so promptly.

I feel as though I can now put the whole sorry saga behind me and move forward (I’ll probably give that bar a miss in the future mind you!)

I’ve told DH to put the champagne on ice!

OP posts:
MummytoE · 02/05/2025 13:35

SophEll · 02/05/2025 13:34

A lot of MN’ers who were on the previous threads will be doing this right now I think!

Think again, we just think you are worse than we did at first

ScrewedByFunding · 02/05/2025 13:35

SophEll · 02/05/2025 13:16

For anyone unsure on the voting:

YABU - the school should have responded more strongly.

YANBU - it’s a reasonable outcome.

Most people want an option that says

NO ONE CARES.

Hernameisdeborah · 02/05/2025 13:34

So inspiring. Do Netflix know about this story, they'll want to get this into production quick.

catgirl1976 · 02/05/2025 13:34

Yeah. We say shit like this all the time to get rid of the loons and make them feel heard.

SophEll · 02/05/2025 13:34

A lot of MN’ers who were on the previous threads will be doing this right now I think!

disappear GIF
OP posts:
MummytoE · 02/05/2025 13:34

What's the betting the apology she has demanded in writing will end up in a frame on her bedroom wall 😂

Ablondiebutagoody · 02/05/2025 13:34

Sounds nothing has actually happened apart from wasting a few people's time. What a strange obsession.

Espressosummer · 02/05/2025 13:32

Hoppinggreen · 02/05/2025 13:25

SO much more and the Teacher is not pervy
Your post demonstrates why people like OP are so dangerous

The teacher is pervy. He walked up to a woman in a bar and told her how he fantasised about bending her over the table at parents evening. It was a hideously unprofessional remark. Unfortunately posters on here are ignoring this because the OP posts like a drama llama.

cardibach · 02/05/2025 13:31

BriceNobeslovesMurielHeslop · 02/05/2025 13:24

“Champagne on ice” - Jesus Christ, OP, he might have been a letch but he’s probably lost his job.

I agree that she’s celebrating because she thinks some horrible consequence has happened. However, I doubt he even knows there’s been a complaint. The phone call is a fob off.

Hoppinggreen · 02/05/2025 13:31

centralcasting · 02/05/2025 13:25

Whoever said way back that this was the stuff of a Channel 5 drama was spot on.

I picture it as a minor sub plot in a wannabe show that has not got Sara Lancashire as beleaguered headmistress so the bar is in York and the op played by Jill Halfpenny who now lives in Wetherby/Ilkley/Skipton and Derek Jacobi her father in law wishing he was still school governor whinging in the background

I feel we should set in in The South, we wouldn't entertain such nonsense up here.
Should it be set up here it would go
"eey Lass, tha's reet hot, would love t' tup thee"
"bugger off or al tell tha boss"
"ahhm off"
END OF

Toffeesgirl · 02/05/2025 13:30

OP, you come across like a deeply unpleasant person..

TheBlackSheepbaaaa · 02/05/2025 13:29

"I await your apologies with bated breath!"
Jeez the cringe is strong with this one.

You're really starting to remind me of my narcissistic ex 🤔

gattocattivo · 02/05/2025 13:29

SophEll · 02/05/2025 13:16

For anyone unsure on the voting:

YABU - the school should have responded more strongly.

YANBU - it’s a reasonable outcome.

The YABU should be ‘I’ve made myself look a dick’

cardibach · 02/05/2025 13:28

SophEll · 02/05/2025 13:16

For anyone unsure on the voting:

YABU - the school should have responded more strongly.

YANBU - it’s a reasonable outcome.

Neither of this options fit my opinion, which is the school have wasted valuable time on having to fob you off. That response is standard. Nothing different has happened except the Head has had to waste his time on it when there’s a lot more important stuff he could have been doing. I doubt the member of staff will even be made aware this has all gone on to be honest.
Nobody criticising you on the other threads was wrong about what would happen, so no tails between legs.

JasperTheDoll · 02/05/2025 13:28

SophEll · 02/05/2025 13:08

Well, well, well. I’ve had a very lengthy and interesting phone call from the Headteacher (HT) handling my complaint.

I now consider the matter resolved, I’m sure you are wondering what was said and I’ve done my best to summarise below:

-My initial complaint WAS wrongly dismissed without investigation - as the comments made related to a school interaction.

-The HT has offered me an unreserved apology on behalf of the school for the handling of my initial complaint which I have gratefully accepted, as long as it’s also offered in writing (which I’m assured it will be).

-I’m told the Chair was most unimpressed to learn of my experience when complaining and an urgent review of their complaints procedure has been ordered. The HT tells me that they’ll ensure appropriate oversight is put in place moving forward and was extremely grateful for me bringing this to their attention.

-As previously noted, they cannot share the outcome of the investigation into my concerns about the interaction I had, which is perfectly understandable. Yes, I know he’ll get a slap on the wrist at best and should be suitably embarrassed, but that should be sufficient to prevent someone else going through what I did.

The term ‘tail between legs’ comes to mind for certain posters on here - I await your apologies with bated breath!

Thanks for those who’ve offered constructive suggestions on how to proceed, this outcome is a victory for anyone who has ever had a complaint wrongly dismissed.

I’ve also thanked my DH, whilst initially sceptical his support in emailing the Chair made all the difference. I have the utmost respect for how the Chair and HT handled this so promptly.

I feel as though I can now put the whole sorry saga behind me and move forward (I’ll probably give that bar a miss in the future mind you!)

I’ve told DH to put the champagne on ice!

Just don't celebrate by going clubbing.

SummerIce · 02/05/2025 13:28

PoisedTealPanda · 02/05/2025 13:26

So the voting is you are right or you are right?!

And she only posted that after she started getting YABU votes! 😂😂😂

Ihopeyouhavent · 02/05/2025 13:27

My god, you are such a loser and this is such a made up post. Get a hobby.

MummytoE · 02/05/2025 13:27

araiwa · 02/05/2025 13:11

Tldr

"What can we say to get rid of her"

Exactly, it's so cringe worthy that she thinks she has " won". The rest of us can blatantly see exactly what's happened

ARealitycheck · 02/05/2025 13:27

Maray1967 · 02/05/2025 13:21

I don’t want my DC to be taught by someone who talks about sexual fantasies he had involving seeing mums at parents’ evening.

He needs to realise that teaching involves a level of responsibility outside working hours.

Hopefully he will learn from this. But he might be an arrogant dick who should not be in a classroom at all.

Do you think teachers don't go back to the staffroom and comment on the hot Mum or Dad at parents evening. Just the same as people in any other occupation.

What about the parents going home after parents evening commenting on how s/he would have stuck in at school if the teachers were as attractive back then.

Some people have no sense of proportion.

gattocattivo · 02/05/2025 13:27

There wont be a slap on the wrist, they’ll all be laughing their tits off at you while thinking you need to get a hobby, a job or better still, a life

Dangermoo · 02/05/2025 13:27

Any chance of covering personal details and screenshoting the email? I find this update really hard to believe. If it is true, expect more teachers to drop out due to nutty parents/ex parents and shame on the school for caving into you. A shortage of teachers and you think your behaviour is reasonable. Grow up.

Justonemorecoffeeplease · 02/05/2025 13:27

This cannot be real.

PoisedTealPanda · 02/05/2025 13:26

SophEll · 02/05/2025 13:16

For anyone unsure on the voting:

YABU - the school should have responded more strongly.

YANBU - it’s a reasonable outcome.

So the voting is you are right or you are right?!

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 02/05/2025 13:26

oh ffs ! Mrs Smug has posted her 3rd thread.

Unbeleevable · 02/05/2025 13:26

Any thread that starts “well, well, well” is always bound to be good fun.

I am glad you are able to cherish a moment of victory but I suspect pp’s are correct and the school has done a collective eye roll and hopes you’ll go away quietly.