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Disgusted by school’s response to complaint about pervy teacher - Final Update

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SophEll · 02/05/2025 13:08

Well, well, well. I’ve had a very lengthy and interesting phone call from the Headteacher (HT) handling my complaint.

I now consider the matter resolved, I’m sure you are wondering what was said and I’ve done my best to summarise below:

-My initial complaint WAS wrongly dismissed without investigation - as the comments made related to a school interaction.

-The HT has offered me an unreserved apology on behalf of the school for the handling of my initial complaint which I have gratefully accepted, as long as it’s also offered in writing (which I’m assured it will be).

-I’m told the Chair was most unimpressed to learn of my experience when complaining and an urgent review of their complaints procedure has been ordered. The HT tells me that they’ll ensure appropriate oversight is put in place moving forward and was extremely grateful for me bringing this to their attention.

-As previously noted, they cannot share the outcome of the investigation into my concerns about the interaction I had, which is perfectly understandable. Yes, I know he’ll get a slap on the wrist at best and should be suitably embarrassed, but that should be sufficient to prevent someone else going through what I did.

The term ‘tail between legs’ comes to mind for certain posters on here - I await your apologies with bated breath!

Thanks for those who’ve offered constructive suggestions on how to proceed, this outcome is a victory for anyone who has ever had a complaint wrongly dismissed.

I’ve also thanked my DH, whilst initially sceptical his support in emailing the Chair made all the difference. I have the utmost respect for how the Chair and HT handled this so promptly.

I feel as though I can now put the whole sorry saga behind me and move forward (I’ll probably give that bar a miss in the future mind you!)

I’ve told DH to put the champagne on ice!

OP posts:
Icanttakethisanymore · 02/05/2025 16:46

I haven’t posted on your previous threads so I have no skin in this game, however, are you recently retired OP? You seem really invested in this and to be thinking of it like personal victory makes me wonder if your life has recently become more empty? I think his behaviour was clearly terrible btw, although I doubt I’d have bothered to do anything about it if I were you. Not to say you shouldn’t have, btw.

Helloworlditsmeagain · 02/05/2025 16:44

SophEll · 02/05/2025 14:47

They’ve all gone very quiet now they have been proven wrong.

Common sense has prevailed in the end.

She buttered you up to shut you up.

Helloworlditsmeagain · 02/05/2025 16:40

Icanttakethisanymore · 02/05/2025 16:21

I was wondering what the Oscar was for 😂

Karen of the year award goes to ..... Drum roll

Helloworlditsmeagain · 02/05/2025 16:39

catgirl1976 · 02/05/2025 13:34

Yeah. We say shit like this all the time to get rid of the loons and make them feel heard.

That's all they can do too many Karen's looking to complain.

Goditsmemargaret · 02/05/2025 16:37

FrippEnos · 02/05/2025 15:13

I thought that we had all run away with our tails between our legs?

Do make your mind up.

I am utterly humiliated.

GustyBaloo · 02/05/2025 16:35

Has anyone been watching MAFSAU?

I'm getting Jaqui vibes.

GustyBaloo · 02/05/2025 16:35

Has anyone been watching MAFSAU?

I'm getting Jaqui vibes.

IWillAlwaysBeinaClubWithYouin1973 · 02/05/2025 16:34

OP - as I said on your previous thread - YABU because (a) you are complaining about a man and (b) he's a teacher. Teachers are practically gods on MN, I mean right up there with cuddly tradies and if male, completely beyond reproach.

Also YABU as I think this is a Prosecco moment, not champagne. But other than that, I think the point of the thread now is beyond just letting people know what happened, its to showcase the very worst of MN frothing because a woman dared not take any shit from a man.

Goditsmemargaret · 02/05/2025 16:34

Bless you OP these threads have provided much entertainment. I can just hear the peals of laughter from everyone in the room after he put the phone down to you.

Guinessandafire · 02/05/2025 16:24

Strange to think that the OP is so narcissistic that they have created a new poll where both answers justify her decision.

I bet the school are very much ' FFS I thought we had got rid of her when her kids left' .

It's astonishing that any sympathy for her having received an unwanted comment on a night out ( a comment which seems to have changed), has evaporated through the OP's sheer arrogance and smugness.

GustyBaloo · 02/05/2025 16:23

ARealitycheck · 02/05/2025 14:49

I do hope they use the same theme tune for the upcoming drama. In case you didn't know it was... Wonder if said teacher actually used an arab strap.

I have to jump in here.

Arab Strap is a band.

The song is about Belle and Sebastian's singers girlfriend cheating on him.

You were laid on your back with the boy from the Arab Strap.

I love B&S, but Arab Strap were signed to one of my favourite bands - The Delgados label.

I was more torn than wondering desk or face!! 🤣

I'm such a nerd.

I miss Delgados. Baby Rocky is 16 now and it turned out to be a girl 🤣

You crazy Scottish folk, making anthems from shagging and cheating and lying.
You could almost start your own thread!

Familydyn · 02/05/2025 16:22

I can’t find the previous threads can someone pls tell me what it’s about?

Icanttakethisanymore · 02/05/2025 16:21

Lammveg · 02/05/2025 13:17

Is this an awards acceptance speech?

I was wondering what the Oscar was for 😂

fattytoadboy · 02/05/2025 16:19

Foostit · 02/05/2025 16:10

I can imagine exactly what the head teacher said after putting the phone down. I’m embarrassed for you that you can’t see that you’ve been fobbed off! The teacher’s ‘telling off’ probably consisted of ‘Look mate, just be careful when you’re out in future, you know how unhinged some of these parents are’ Hilarious that you’ve come back here with a smug, ‘told you so’ attitude when it’s clear they were just trying to get rid of you. I’m embarrassed for you!

Me too! Skin crawlingly so. I don’t actually think I’ve ever seen a more insufferable poster on MN in 10 years, quite an achievement op. You’ll be pleased with another ‘win’.

fattytoadboy · 02/05/2025 16:18

Champagne on ice….what a sad little life, Jane.

Wexone · 02/05/2025 16:17

It amazes me how quickly you got a reply ? If they have done what they said they did you wouldn't have got a response so quickly 🤔it would have been at least a week or more , so to me they have just brushed you off - bet they used chat box to help them write it too 😃

CaptainMyCaptain · 02/05/2025 16:15

ExpressCheckout · 02/05/2025 14:31

It's a shame that you seem more concerned about yourself and 'being right' than showing any concern for your DC and the impact this might have on them. What a vacuous, empty, and tiresome life you must lead.

It will have no effect on her children. They've left the school. The OP has no link with the school.

HuffleMyPuffle · 02/05/2025 16:14

SophEll · 02/05/2025 14:46

As it stands, c.80% think the school should have been even mpre robust in there response which is interesting. It’s certainly some turnaround from some of the views previously!

No people are still voting that you're ducking insane

Waitingforspring77 · 02/05/2025 16:13

What a load of fuss over nothing
🙄

Rockfordpeach · 02/05/2025 16:10

Goodness, no matter the rights and wrongs of the situation, you do come across as highly insufferable

Foostit · 02/05/2025 16:10

I can imagine exactly what the head teacher said after putting the phone down. I’m embarrassed for you that you can’t see that you’ve been fobbed off! The teacher’s ‘telling off’ probably consisted of ‘Look mate, just be careful when you’re out in future, you know how unhinged some of these parents are’ Hilarious that you’ve come back here with a smug, ‘told you so’ attitude when it’s clear they were just trying to get rid of you. I’m embarrassed for you!

Teanbiscuits33 · 02/05/2025 16:09

Muffinmam · 02/05/2025 16:03

I’m thinking she’s just trolling because her behaviour is so ridiculous.

I’ve thought that, too. Her posts are so ridiculous I’ve thought surely this is a bit of a laugh for someone 🤣. But assuming this is real then there’s definitely something up.

5128gap · 02/05/2025 16:06

Everyothernamewasalreadyinuse · 02/05/2025 15:45

For the Film drama version of this tragedy i concur with Sean Bean or Kevin Bacon to play the teacher.

For the leading lady i would like to nominate Marjorie Taylor Greene - Yes she would have to work on the accent, but really feel she could capture the Unhinged, not able to read a room feeling needed

Really? I'm picturing a much older guy with a comb over, rubbing his thighs and saying 'phoar' for the teacher.

Teanbiscuits33 · 02/05/2025 16:06

Tiswa · 02/05/2025 16:00

Yes definitely I have said it since the first thread, the need to correct a slight, persistent to win, the fact that she sees this as a victory, the need to have this thread to prove us wrong and the constant memes and the telling us she is right

Only honing in on those who are agreeing with her - a few do and all of a sudden it’s a ‘consensus’ 🤣. The drama about ‘going through’ and ‘enduring.’ What a colossal twat 🤣

user1473878824 · 02/05/2025 16:06

Honestly it's iconic to half way through a thread say "this is what the voting options are", list two things that completely fit your own narrative, and then triumphantly crow about how everyone agrees with you.

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