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Disgusted by school’s response to complaint about pervy teacher - Final Update

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SophEll · 02/05/2025 13:08

Well, well, well. I’ve had a very lengthy and interesting phone call from the Headteacher (HT) handling my complaint.

I now consider the matter resolved, I’m sure you are wondering what was said and I’ve done my best to summarise below:

-My initial complaint WAS wrongly dismissed without investigation - as the comments made related to a school interaction.

-The HT has offered me an unreserved apology on behalf of the school for the handling of my initial complaint which I have gratefully accepted, as long as it’s also offered in writing (which I’m assured it will be).

-I’m told the Chair was most unimpressed to learn of my experience when complaining and an urgent review of their complaints procedure has been ordered. The HT tells me that they’ll ensure appropriate oversight is put in place moving forward and was extremely grateful for me bringing this to their attention.

-As previously noted, they cannot share the outcome of the investigation into my concerns about the interaction I had, which is perfectly understandable. Yes, I know he’ll get a slap on the wrist at best and should be suitably embarrassed, but that should be sufficient to prevent someone else going through what I did.

The term ‘tail between legs’ comes to mind for certain posters on here - I await your apologies with bated breath!

Thanks for those who’ve offered constructive suggestions on how to proceed, this outcome is a victory for anyone who has ever had a complaint wrongly dismissed.

I’ve also thanked my DH, whilst initially sceptical his support in emailing the Chair made all the difference. I have the utmost respect for how the Chair and HT handled this so promptly.

I feel as though I can now put the whole sorry saga behind me and move forward (I’ll probably give that bar a miss in the future mind you!)

I’ve told DH to put the champagne on ice!

OP posts:
WigglywagglyWanda · 02/05/2025 17:28

HuffleMyPuffle · 02/05/2025 17:22

Maybe she'l drunkenly tell her OH she thought about banging him over her work desk and he can complain about her to her boss

Great minds🤣

WigglywagglyWanda · 02/05/2025 17:27

HuffleMyPuffle · 02/05/2025 17:22

Maybe she'l drunkenly tell her OH she thought about banging him over her work desk and he can complain about her to her boss

I've had a horrible thought

OPs husband is also pished and relates some 50 shades scenario in the throes of passion.

Monday morning gets final written warning from the Chief Inspector

adviceneeded1990 · 02/05/2025 17:24

The term “how can we make this person shut up and go away before our long weekend?” springs to mind 🙈

HuffleMyPuffle · 02/05/2025 17:22

WigglywagglyWanda · 02/05/2025 17:15

Is she pished on the champagne yet?

Fuck me if that's her sober the drunk version will be even funnier.

Picturing the scenario later

Op being pished on champagne decides to allow her other half a bit of hows your father....provided he showers with boiling water, keeps the lights out and stays utterly silent.

Oh and has another shower afterwards

Edited

Maybe she'l drunkenly tell her OH she thought about banging him over her work desk and he can complain about her to her boss

HornyHornersPinger · 02/05/2025 17:17

Op, GET OVER YOURSELF.

JasperTheDoll · 02/05/2025 17:17

WigglywagglyWanda · 02/05/2025 17:15

Is she pished on the champagne yet?

Fuck me if that's her sober the drunk version will be even funnier.

Picturing the scenario later

Op being pished on champagne decides to allow her other half a bit of hows your father....provided he showers with boiling water, keeps the lights out and stays utterly silent.

Oh and has another shower afterwards

Edited

I might nip out and get some popcorn ready for the show.

RedhairDL · 02/05/2025 17:16

GustyBaloo · 02/05/2025 16:35

Has anyone been watching MAFSAU?

I'm getting Jaqui vibes.

Agreed!

TheBobbysAreSurly · 02/05/2025 17:16

Bloody hell - for Jason Mamoa l'd bring my own desk!

WigglywagglyWanda · 02/05/2025 17:15

Is she pished on the champagne yet?

Fuck me if that's her sober the drunk version will be even funnier.

Picturing the scenario later

Op being pished on champagne decides to allow her other half a bit of hows your father....provided he showers with boiling water, keeps the lights out and stays utterly silent.

Oh and has another shower afterwards

Itisjustmyopinion · 02/05/2025 17:12

SophEll · 02/05/2025 14:47

They’ve all gone very quiet now they have been proven wrong.

Common sense has prevailed in the end.

Nope still think you are a fruit loop and while I didn’t vote because I don’t agree with your voting descriptions, I still think YABU but not for the reason you have put in your post

Elasticatedtrousers · 02/05/2025 17:12

That head is a class act! This is exactly how governors and heads should shut down ridiculous complaints. It’s textbook.

No doubt they are already aware of this mumsnet thread.

Kudos to that head!

And wish there was a separate vote for you’re still wrong which I see you didn’t allow.

RedhairDL · 02/05/2025 17:12

I haven’t posted previously, but I just wanted to say that you come across as absolutely insufferable. I find myself actually feeling sorry for the drunk sleaze-bag.

The school have no doubt palmed you off. I would have done the same to be fair. “Tell her what she wants to hear.”

But to hear the glee in your posts, hoping that you’ve finally gotten someone into the trouble you feel they deserve, is quite ugly.

And I hope there is some truth in what goes around comes around, and someone complains to your work about something you do or say in the future, that is completely unrelated to your current job.

The crazy thing is, I think the teacher was wrong and his behaviour poor. But now that pales compared to what I have read over the last three threads.

andweallloveclover · 02/05/2025 17:12

What you went through 😂😂
Champagne on ice 😂

Just when you think you have seen the most batshit thing ever on MN along comes another bonkers thread. 😆

Best laugh I have had in ages.

zingally · 02/05/2025 17:10

Chair to Head: None of us want this hanging over us for the bank holiday, just say whatever to get her to go away. Lick the proverbial arse a bit. And on Tuesday tell Fred he's an dick.

JasperTheDoll · 02/05/2025 17:10

Dangermoo · 02/05/2025 17:04

I am surprised this hasn't made the Daily Mail. The comments section would be interesting.

It won't be long. It's on the MN Facebook page.

Pedallleur · 02/05/2025 17:07

Any teachers on MN are going to have this thread referenced at school in a 'be careful how you engage with them'
That headteacher was prob thinking it's BH w/end. Tell her something so we can all come back happy.

Throwmoneyatit · 02/05/2025 17:06

What you went through 🤣

Most of MN and the school are laughing at you.

Helloworlditsmeagain · 02/05/2025 17:06

Doggymummar · 02/05/2025 15:48

Generic fob off list, glad it's made you feel vindicated though, that's the intention

She can't go back to them they had to keep her quiet she's a nuisance.

Cherrysoup · 02/05/2025 17:05

araiwa · 02/05/2025 13:11

Tldr

"What can we say to get rid of her"

Quite. Having had many teaching interviews over a very long career, one intray exercise is about how to shut down a parental complaint, with the desired outcome being that they stop contacting the school about whatever the issue was. Sounds like th school has been successful.

Champagne, OP, seriously?!

HuffleMyPuffle · 02/05/2025 17:04

user1473878824 · 02/05/2025 16:06

Honestly it's iconic to half way through a thread say "this is what the voting options are", list two things that completely fit your own narrative, and then triumphantly crow about how everyone agrees with you.

It might be one of the most ridiculous things on this 3 thread ridiculousness

Dangermoo · 02/05/2025 17:04

I am surprised this hasn't made the Daily Mail. The comments section would be interesting.

WigglywagglyWanda · 02/05/2025 17:01

GustyBaloo · 02/05/2025 16:35

Has anyone been watching MAFSAU?

I'm getting Jaqui vibes.

Oh totally. Imagining Jacquis scary personality in Hyacinth Bouquets body

Actually Hyacinth isn't as dislikeable

JustSawJohnny · 02/05/2025 16:57

The term ‘tail between legs’ comes to mind for certain posters on here - I await your apologies with bated breath!

You don't deserve any apologies, OP. For what? Disagreeing with you?

You only got an apology because you were prepared to go public with this and kick up a huge stink. They're just covering their arses by fobbing you off.

I agree that you've really over inflated this and been rather vindictive and pearl clutchy.

HiRen · 02/05/2025 16:52

"going through what I did"??

"whole sorry saga"??

Good lord. If you don't have a job, I think you need one. Or at least to get out more. This sort of "whole sorry saga" is precisely why people don't put themselves forward for, or seek to resign as school governors (unless for the handful of highly prestigious schools in the UK, which with this response and quick response I know this school isn't). Mary Whitehouse originally came to mind, but she at least had some decent points and worthy goals.

Helloworlditsmeagain · 02/05/2025 16:46

I voted that it wasn't unreasonable because that's the best you're going to get. She had to play the game.

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